Married man disappearing reappearing. I don't know what happened or what he wants

[angiep]

I hope you're doing ok!!! I know it's not easy but you're worth more than a stupid sticker or a "have a nice month" (???) message!!!!!!! And I loved reading these replies in your thread. Excellent and so true.

 

Hello Adoraxx.

Of course I didn't respond and I'm not going to.You did well yourself by not replying to your XMM's email.

Everyone has been posting great advice.Keep reading to remain strong and objective.Glad it has helped you too.

As I mentioned above it's just very disappointing.Very liberating too.it's just not nice to stop thinking higlly of someone you respected when you see them behave in such a childish and ridiculous way.

Be strong. They ll probably be back!

[angiep]

Just wanted to share my feelings and thoughts because I ve been really struggling these last days.

A guy in a personal message mentioned that I may have lost a chance to talk to him and find out sth by not replying to the sticker and that really affected me. SUddenly I do feel that it was his last attempt and he won't reach out again. Not because I want to continue what we had, we re past that, but maybe as a hope that we ll talk and I might learn sth or me say sth.

And I ve noticed he isnt much online anymore, maybe his family is all around him now that is summer, and somebody mentioned that he s might have given up hope because I haven't responded to his texts and all this has made me feel so sad..So tempted to reach out and say hi how are you just to talk and see what s going on.and then again I ve been so strong since Easter..but never felt it was really over till now..not what we had.just us talking to each other.because that was what we mainly had.

I just wanted to write how I feel..It's safe here..

[Miss Clavel]

He is a famous author.We started texting after him reading one of my reviews back at Christmas. We don't live in the same city so after our texting became non stop almost 24/7. we spent 2 weekends together too.We talked about everything, he told me everything about his life.

 

He has two children 20 and 16.He told me there is distance between him and his wife after 20 years of marriage but no arguments or tension at home.They just have their own hobbies and lead their lives not doing much together. But at that point he wasnt ready to leave home financially or socially, he is 50 too. but he wanted us to continue and made plans for Easter holidays and later.At Easter he spent more time with his family and then one day while talking on the phone when I asked him where we stand he told me it's very difficult and he doesn't know when we could meet again and now that he finished the new book he hasn't got many opportunities to be in his study to be texting to me or that his daughted has picked up some signs etc.

So I asked him if he made a decision or we re good and we re moving on and he said no decisions are made we re just talking about how things are.and then the line went dead and that was it.He disappeared for 2 weeks when he texted happy month I didn't reply to it (he had disappeared again for a few days before Easter and he had promised not to do it again) and after 2 weeks have a nice week with joy etc.So I replied that these casual texts are meaningless and if he wanted to tell me something meaningful or explain what has happened all this time he has disappeared he should call and talk. Any ideas and insight?

 

it's not unusual for me to be confused, so i'm just going to ask: how many times have you two actually been "together"? not on the phone, not on the internet, in the same place? and how many of those occasions included intercourse?

 

because, to me, this seems like a lot of emotional drama for two sessions of sex. he wanted you, he had you.

 

and it was casual, no?

[bewell]

Hi,

 

I will echo everyone else on this thread. The advice given is wise and take heed. My exMM sounds like yours and he boomerangs in and out of my life bc I fall for his contacts. It's hard to resist the temptation and eventually I cave and fail. I am working on staying strong. Every contact = pain for me and joy for him.

[Purepony]

Drop this dog and pony show ! Your just gettin older wasting your time and emotions