Millhouse Posted June 15, 2017 Share Posted June 15, 2017 Hello! Wow - I've not posted here for 4 years. And I'd like to give an update on life. Here is a link to the backstory: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/separation-divorce/434372-so-many-thoughts Anyway... family moved back to the UK, I'm still in Dubai. I was utterly broken for a while but though lots of exercise and sleeping around managed to process it. I have managed to salvage a good friendship with the ex.wife (yes, we did divorce) and I'm very involved with my son (2-3 hours of face-time a day that includes homework, online gaming, having breakfast together etc). We have kept a great bond - I visit the UK around 8-10 times a year for between 3-10 days each time, and they have visited me in Dubai too. I stay in the spare room of the ex.wife's house. I've met someone else, everything is great! We have our challenges but we have unbelievable communication and intimacy in our relationship... I also plan to marry her this year. My partner and ex.wife are friendly and we all get on well with my son. I've never felt better - lost some weight, gained some muscles. Finally clawed back self respect and the respect of those around me. So, I'm here to say to those in a dark place being eaten by decisions based on fear: yes, it's awful, but there is an afterlife and you never know what good it will bring. Never make a decision based on fear. Good luck. I hope it works out for you as well as it worked out for me. It takes a lot of work but it's worth it. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Davey L Posted June 15, 2017 Share Posted June 15, 2017 Thanks! There is so much sadness and unhappiness on here that it makes a pleasant change to get some news from someone that has been through the difficulties and managed to emerge in a better position afterwards. Also, although I didn't comment on your original post I know that those who did will appreciate you coming back with an update - often advice is given but without anyone ever knowing the outcome. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
dichotomy Posted June 15, 2017 Share Posted June 15, 2017 A happy ending - in short supply around here. Good for you. Link to post Share on other sites
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