the_lost_1 Posted June 16, 2017 Share Posted June 16, 2017 So a million others probably have made a post like this but being 29 and having never dated, I was almost sure she was going to be my first everything. To have feelings for someone you really like for the first time, it just hurts so much to be rejected. It's like I can see her soul and unfortunately I'm not good enough for her apparently. But yeah, still friends with her...she's a nice woman for sure. I don't know how long I'm gonna be in pain. Link to post Share on other sites
Author the_lost_1 Posted June 16, 2017 Author Share Posted June 16, 2017 It's like, I feel like I should apologize to her for not being able to speak better and not hearing/listening better (due to my disability) that she expects in a man, you know? Like, I think I got a ****ty accent and yeah. I should throw myself off the cliff. Link to post Share on other sites
Altair0770 Posted June 16, 2017 Share Posted June 16, 2017 Hey man, cheer up. She wants to be friends with you, and unfortunately that's where she likes to keep you. Sometimes friendships are much stronger than romantic relationships. Take all those thoughts you have about not being good enough and turn it into motivation to make yourself a better person. This is time to prove yourself wrong. You aren't a bad person. Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted June 16, 2017 Share Posted June 16, 2017 you dont know what an uncertain future holds...pain fades....when you hold onto possibility...aka hope......as long as you can...always is better..but we all slip hey...cliffs are slippery near the end ....most of the time....... theres a woman for you...god made it that way....may take you a while to find her ....you might have to kiss a few froglets...but you can get there...heal...and move on....distance yourself from the friendship until you feel only friendship......and heal..what is meant to be...will be......deb Link to post Share on other sites
mikeylo Posted June 16, 2017 Share Posted June 16, 2017 The pain will go away . Give it time. Staying friends is going to prolong the pain though. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted June 16, 2017 Share Posted June 16, 2017 Put a little distance in your friendship. Right now the pain of her rejection of you romantically is too acute. Right now she's a walking reminder of your pain. A dear friend of mine divulged a crush some years back. I turned him down because as much as I adore him as a friend I had zero interest in dating him. It took him 2-3 years to lick his wounds & socialize with me again. It took until he got a long term GF for him to seem truly happy & at peace in my presence again. Think about the qualities you liked in this woman & go find another woman who exhibits those traits. Link to post Share on other sites
Author the_lost_1 Posted June 16, 2017 Author Share Posted June 16, 2017 Thanks for the support guys On a side note I think she could be my source of motivator to help me get better but I don't know. Maybe get myself in a position when/where she actually wants me, and have the opportunity to reject her back? Hahaha....thanks though. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted June 17, 2017 Share Posted June 17, 2017 You said in another thread you only met this woman once at a club and only "known" her on social media for 2 weeks. You've blown this one rejection by a woman you don't know anything about way out of proportion. Link to post Share on other sites
Author the_lost_1 Posted June 18, 2017 Author Share Posted June 18, 2017 I mean I've been rejected all my life, and I continue to be rejected. So I don't really know what to do except ending my life... Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted June 18, 2017 Share Posted June 18, 2017 I mean I've been rejected all my life, and I continue to be rejected. So I don't really know what to do except ending my life... Please talk to your family, or see your counsellor, or call a suicide prevention line... Really, nothing in life is so bad that you should want to end your life. That is an impulsive decision made in a dark moment... When the truth is, you have no idea what the future may bring for you. There is always hope for a different and better tomorrow. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted June 18, 2017 Share Posted June 18, 2017 You act as if life isn't worth living if you can't get who you want. Life is full of times you can't get what you want for all of us, and you need to learn to cope with it. And you need to have other interests besides finding a woman. This world is full of wonders and you're feeling so sorry for yourself that it's like you're just having a tantrum because your mom wouldn't let you have a candy bar. You need to snap out of it and get out in the world and live life and find activities you enjoy. Because I got news for you: There isn't a woman on earth who can change an unhappy person who pities himself himself into a happy one. Not a one. Another person can't fix your basic tendencies. That comes from within. Get in counseling and work on that, but mostly get out in the real world and deal with real life instead of dreaming up what would be ideal for you in your mind and then wallowing in self-pity when it doesn't just materialize. And to motivate you to get out and try new things, remember this: You have to be interesting before someone will be interested in you. Go. Link to post Share on other sites
Author the_lost_1 Posted June 18, 2017 Author Share Posted June 18, 2017 Yeah, I guess sh*t happens to the best of us. Thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted June 19, 2017 Share Posted June 19, 2017 Thanks for the support guys On a side note I think she could be my source of motivator to help me get better but I don't know. Maybe get myself in a position when/where she actually wants me, and have the opportunity to reject her back? Hahaha....thanks though. I assume you're kidding, but it won't work anyway. Also, don't try to get her to be your motivator. Find another candidate for whom you don't have feelings for that role. Otherwise, it will just become more awkward and painful when you see her interest in you is still nothing beyond friendship. Link to post Share on other sites
Author the_lost_1 Posted June 19, 2017 Author Share Posted June 19, 2017 I assume you're kidding, but it won't work anyway. Also, don't try to get her to be your motivator. Find another candidate for whom you don't have feelings for that role. Otherwise, it will just become more awkward and painful when you see her interest in you is still nothing beyond friendship. i mean to be honest, i feel like i failed her and i shouldn't have... Link to post Share on other sites
misspalmy Posted June 26, 2017 Share Posted June 26, 2017 for every 9 weeds theres one rose out there, your find your rose, some guys are pigs, Link to post Share on other sites
Author the_lost_1 Posted July 1, 2017 Author Share Posted July 1, 2017 Fk she just unfriended me on fb great Link to post Share on other sites
Author the_lost_1 Posted July 1, 2017 Author Share Posted July 1, 2017 Cold hearted woman..... Link to post Share on other sites
Author the_lost_1 Posted July 1, 2017 Author Share Posted July 1, 2017 I guess it's my fault 'cause she knew that I liked her more than friends but whatever Link to post Share on other sites
Author the_lost_1 Posted July 1, 2017 Author Share Posted July 1, 2017 So obviously it seems that she doesn't want to be part of my life anymore for some reason..... Link to post Share on other sites
Author the_lost_1 Posted July 1, 2017 Author Share Posted July 1, 2017 Oh man, after telling everything to her about myself, even my childhood love stories and everything she unfriends me lol Link to post Share on other sites
Author the_lost_1 Posted July 1, 2017 Author Share Posted July 1, 2017 maybe the problem is i was probably infatuated by her that's probably it Link to post Share on other sites
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