Do you expect your spouse to call you when you are away for days at a time?

[GunslingerRoland]

What if that was me? What if I had gotten into an accident in my rental car driving to my Mom's from the airport? He didn't even bother to check his phone for 3 days! Nobody on my end would have been able to contact him. He could have been happily living life and I could have been in the hospital without him ever knowing.

 

 

Like I said, that is very irresponsible to be unavailable for phone calls for days at a time. What is the point of having a phone if it isn't available if someone has an emergency.

 

 

I'm not asking to call or text 10 times a day. I'm asking for a call every other day. We were long distance for 4 years and saw each other like 4 weeks out of the year and yet when I would call him after not speaking to him for a couple of days he would get upset saying "There's nothing to talk about. Nothing has changed". Sometimes he would purposely not answer and not call me back.

 

Your husband is an a-hole to you all the time, in a variety of ways, and it sounds like he always has been. Yet every week you post a new thread about something specific that he does and you act like it's out of character for him.

 

I'm not trying to be harsh, but every day you go to play with the snake it bites you and then you're trying to figure out why it keeps happening. Because it's a snake.

 

Your husband has no respect for your and makes it clear in all of his actions towards you.

[GunslingerRoland]

To be more specific about my last point (I only went back through your last handful of threads):

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/off-topic/personal-rants-confessions/587286-h-s-manager-said-cool-he-skipped-work-didn-t-call

 

He took days off work unpaid at the last minute without even telling you until afterwards just because he didn't want too, luckily he didn't get fired for not showing up at work for no reason.

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/marriage-life-partnerships/619862-husband-being-obnoxious-i-gave-him-dose-same-medicine

 

"I can usually come home from work and find that he's been drinking and smoking pot rather than doing anything productive"

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/marriage-life-partnerships/618946-i-think-i-am-most-boring-person-around-embarrassing

 

He avoids spending time with you, even lying to play video games rather than going to a place you asked him to come to.

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/marriage-life-partnerships/622308-i-love-how-h-always-finds-way-belittle-my-cooking

 

He asks you to cook for him, and then watches over and criticizes you for how you do it.

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/off-topic/personal-rants-confessions/624080-husband-can-t-stand-me-having-cold

 

He shows no sympathy for you when you are sick.

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/off-topic/personal-rants-confessions/624391-apparently-i-m-not-allowed-express-when-i-m-upset-worried-because-upsets-h

 

He shows no concern for your opinion.

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/off-topic/personal-rants-confessions/625627-h-once-again-pulling-his-bs-not-going-into-work-lying-about

 

Skips work again because of drinking and lies again.

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/marriage-life-partnerships/622876-mr-blame-everyone-everything-else-but-him

 

Blames you for the mistake he makes.

 

And now this thread... so what do you get out of this relationship? Why do you stay through all of this abuse?

 

It sounds like you moved across country for him, when he was already treating you like crap.

 

I also noticed looking at your threads that he has a daugther, so not only was he putting you in danger if he ignored calls for multiple days, he put her in danger.

 

At the very least he has addictions to drugs, alcohol and video games. If you can't put your foot down on those issues at minimum nothing will change.

Edited June 27, 2017 by GunslingerRoland
Added the last sentence.

[Mapper71]

There are landlines still .

 

It's concerning he didn't think "I miss my wife, I wonder what she's up to, maybe I'll just give her a call to say I love you"

 

EXACTLY! Then when we finally do talk he goes "Well nothing has changed. I'm just sitting here every night playing video games and watching tv. I'm not out at the bars or anything". Like because I want to talk to him every day or every other day he makes me feel bad because he thinks I want to do that to make sure he's not doing anything he shouldn't. I simply want to hear your voice and know that everything is okay! Why is that such a huge deal? You ARE my husband!

[anna121]

EXACTLY! Then when we finally do talk he goes "Well nothing has changed. I'm just sitting here every night playing video games and watching tv. I'm not out at the bars or anything". Like because I want to talk to him every day or every other day he makes me feel bad because he thinks I want to do that to make sure he's not doing anything he shouldn't. I simply want to hear your voice and know that everything is okay! Why is that such a huge deal? You ARE my husband!

 

Doesn't really sound like it. JMO.