WCSU1987 Posted June 22, 2017 Share Posted June 22, 2017 Hi, so thing's between my wife and I have been okay. We are not perfect, but who is. Not sure if anyone remembers my older thread about different timeframes between my wife and I about when we want children. Now my wife is frustrated at me saying to me "I'll never get what I want. I worked hard for this and what I accomplished." "Don't know why I married you." "Just leave me don't think I wouldn't divorce you." So Forth. The issue is my wife wants to be more independent and move out of the MIL place, which is great. However, in reality it's not a possibility. Feels as if circle talk I try to explain to my wife about if we do rent need to be able to go 50/50. Rents are a little on the high side difficult to find a rent below $1000. Explained to my wife about going $500/$500. My wife says that is something can't afford now. My wife thinks it will be cheaper to buy a house. Tried to explain again without a down payment and plans not to stay in the area more than 5 year's buying isn't a good option. I encouraged my wife to consider the idea of paying $200 to $250 a month for rebt and I do the same. Then each of us puts $200 to $250 a month into a savings account. That way if we want to buy will hopefully have a decent down payment. Also gives us an wnevebcy fund if need be. The MIL is trying to sell her place so I think that's part of the reason sparked interest in buying. If the MIL does sell I encourage my wife to rent. Because we don't plan to stay in the area more than 5 year's and move to a less expensive/quieter area of the State. Also my wife is an LPN, but planning to go back to college again for her RN. Myself am hoping to be accepted into a program in 2018. So being in school and limited fibaves renting seems likevabettee option. Feedback think I am reasonable or unreasonable? Link to post Share on other sites
aileD Posted June 22, 2017 Share Posted June 22, 2017 what is this 50/50 crap? you're married. Pool your money. Get the hell out of MIL place, get a friggin studio if you have to. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Bufo Posted June 23, 2017 Share Posted June 23, 2017 Is the plan to leave town in 5 years really a mutual an or your idea? If she isn't on board with that plan, owning a house could be her anchor. You are right that it takes a few years to recoup purchasing/moving expenses. The problem, however, is that you are chasing a moving target if you live in an area of appreciating housing prices. Or does she really want her own place away from everyday contact with Mom? Don't worry, she'll appreciate her more if she has a baby. Or maybe Mom wants her peace and quiet. Thus the plan to move. You're planning for financial stability. She's planning for emotional stability. You better really talk this out before the problem morphs into how to pay the lawyer bills. Link to post Share on other sites
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