Tina Posted May 9, 2001 Share Posted May 9, 2001 I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years now. We have a 18mo old daughter and we are content. He works, I stay home with child and do stocks. But it just seems to me I can never do good enough. I tell him about loosing on stocks or just making a little and he always reminds me "it's better than a job". It just seems to me like he's almost threatening me. Like you can either do stocks (which I don't really enjoy) or get a job. Which would mean I would make very little after paying for daycare. I have no friends (1 in WA.) so it's not like I get out much and have anyone to talk to. I have talked to him about it and he just says "well, isn't it better to stay at home and make money than to go to a job 40 hours a week?". I would agree if I could have a guarantee that I would make a certain amount every week. No guarantees in stocks though. I usually just go through moods and then I don't think about it much, but I would really like to figure it out and get on with whatever it is I decide. But I'm a little confused about what to think or what to ask myself. Any ideas or thoughts? Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
JustAGirl Posted May 9, 2001 Share Posted May 9, 2001 here's my humble opinion: 'Which would mean I would make very little after paying for daycare.' - how come it's U paying for daycare? the child is of both of u, shouldn't you both be paying? 'I have no friends (1 in WA.)so it's not like I get out much and have anyone to talk to.' - make some friends! maybe fellow-mothers-of lil kids? fellow-"stockers from home"? anyone with same interest as u? maybe take a class or something? I think the problem is that you're so locked up and all you see is your family ... Maybe you can get a part-time job, which will allow u to continue working with stocks? I know it's good for little kids to be with mom and not in day care, but mom gotta have a life too, right? Good luck!! ... Link to post Share on other sites
Tina Posted May 9, 2001 Share Posted May 9, 2001 For your comment about him not paying for daycare, it's not like that. We are on his income right now, it's whatever I would make would be extra for whatever (like the daycare or whatever). I've thought about a class but it would have to be a night class and that gets a little tiring if I'm up from 6am (stocks) til 11pm. Not much of an excuse I know. A part time job wouldn't even pay for daycare. Already thought of it. Unless it was at night and in my career (MA) there aren't any night jobs. I was thinking of doing one of those mommy and me gyms but they're too expensive ($250 for 6 times a months). But thank you for your ideas. I do agree I need time to myself, I just need to figure out how or what to do. here's my humble opinion: 'Which would mean I would make very little after paying for daycare.' - how come it's U paying for daycare? the child is of both of u, shouldn't you both be paying? 'I have no friends (1 in WA.)so it's not like I get out much and have anyone to talk to.' - make some friends! maybe fellow-mothers-of lil kids? fellow-"stockers from home"? anyone with same interest as u? maybe take a class or something? I think the problem is that you're so locked up and all you see is your family ... Maybe you can get a part-time job, which will allow u to continue working with stocks? I know it's good for little kids to be with mom and not in day care, but mom gotta have a life too, right? Good luck!! ... Link to post Share on other sites
JustAGirl Posted May 9, 2001 Share Posted May 9, 2001 about classes: take in on the weekend! ... I'm taking a weekend adult tennis class for example ... or join a fitness club? u can go there anytime u get a chance... physical excersice relieved stress SO well... I am also curious about your stocks-from-home job ... what is your education, if you don't mind me asking? I heard trading on the stock market is a huge risk ... does it end up being worth it for u?? ... It sounds like an interesting but stressful way to make money ... Is it necessary to do it 6 to 11?? Thanks, i hope u don't mind my Qns & sorry if you do =) Link to post Share on other sites
Tina Posted May 9, 2001 Share Posted May 9, 2001 I don't mind your questions at all.Thanks for your ear! I don't really have any investment training, but I've been doing this for almost a year and know how it pretty much works. It is a risk. I think of it like gambling almost, but my boyfriend says if you look at the charts and know how they go, you can do it from that. Not true. The stock market goes from 6:30 to 1pm so I'm usually on the computer watching prices. And then of course it housework and play with my child and get dinner ready. I do agree that I need some time to myself it just doesn't seem like too much fun to do by myself. I'm thinking about taking a night class of photography (something I'd enjoy). Maybe 2-3 times a week. You've really helped me think about what would help me though and I thank you for that. about classes: take in on the weekend! ... I'm taking a weekend adult tennis class for example ... or join a fitness club? u can go there anytime u get a chance... physical excersice relieved stress SO well... I am also curious about your stocks-from-home job ... what is your education, if you don't mind me asking? I heard trading on the stock market is a huge risk ... does it end up being worth it for u?? ... It sounds like an interesting but stressful way to make money ... Is it necessary to do it 6 to 11?? Thanks, i hope u don't mind my Qns & sorry if you do =) Link to post Share on other sites
JustAGirl Posted May 9, 2001 Share Posted May 9, 2001 You know what, I still live with my parents, but last summer i was at home all the time, so I was the one who took care of household work & - somehow, i was busy all the time & it felt like i dont have much time for other things, except for going out on the weekend... well guess what! there is! i think it's just a matter of starting to do more things, and u'll find that time is rubber I went to school, and did hmwk, and went out, and still did household stuff... so i think u shd just jump into it! ... Also, I'm sure you can meet other moms in places like playgrounds ... Anyway, good luck & thanks for the stock info. Link to post Share on other sites
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