CptInsano Posted June 25, 2017 Share Posted June 25, 2017 I'm actually the girl. Whoohooo! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted June 25, 2017 Share Posted June 25, 2017 One thing that hasn't been thought of is how big is this woman?? I say this, because it could clearly be a case of her and him being the same height, but she feels lukewarm, because she outweighs him or is just bigger in general.. of course, she wont say that... Most women don't want guys smaller/lighter than they are...So maybe that's the issue?? The average weight of American women now is a touch over 170....And a 5'6" guy with a slight or even average build is not going to weigh that much... Whats the deal, there. NJ? TFY 1 Link to post Share on other sites
phineas Posted June 25, 2017 Share Posted June 25, 2017 Scheduling conflicts. Haven't had time to meet. you mean she is out with a 6'5" dude or you were too busy cause you had to post on an internet forum? it's ok though. i'm home watching kids with their friend who is over for a sleep over. but i do have date with a woman on monday who not only didn't mention anything about weight,height, or folical density, she didn't even ask what i did for a living until this morning. she messaged me 3 days ago. and after she found out she moved on to asking me when we were going to meet. what i'm saying here is a woman who gets inside your brain like an mma fighter with sht-tests is not a quality woman so you need to brush it all off and just go for the sex because she is not ltr potential. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
phineas Posted June 25, 2017 Share Posted June 25, 2017 One thing that hasn't been thought of is how big is this woman?? I say this, because it could clearly be a case of her and him being the same height, but she feels lukewarm, because she outweighs him or is just bigger in general.. of course, she wont say that... Most women don't want guys smaller/lighter than they are...So maybe that's the issue?? The average weight of American women now is a touch over 170....And a 5'6" guy with a slight or even average build is not going to weigh that much... Whats the deal, there. NJ? TFY 170? you sure about that? i'd say 150 tops cause that's about where my knees give out when i try to carry them up the stairs to the bedroom. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted June 25, 2017 Share Posted June 25, 2017 170? you sure about that? i'd say 150 tops cause that's about where my knees give out when i try to carry them up the stairs to the bedroom. I read something to that effect a few months ago. but can't find it...Anyway, here is CDC report from a couple years ago...American women...166.2... CDC: Average Weight of Women Today Same as Men in 1960s TFY Link to post Share on other sites
William Posted June 25, 2017 Share Posted June 25, 2017 Would you be turned off if a woman said to wear heels to be taller than her? CDC reports on that are welcomed 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author NJ123 Posted June 25, 2017 Author Share Posted June 25, 2017 So in an update she apologized & sent me messages saying she didn't mean to upset me & that it's not a deal breaker but maybe it would have been if I was shorter than her. But since we're the same height she said she wouldn't care. She than said she was joking which I'll never be able to tell if she was or not. I may give it a date at least with her to see how she's like in person. Link to post Share on other sites
JS84 Posted June 25, 2017 Share Posted June 25, 2017 Probably somewhat insensitive of her since you obviously have a hang up about your height (which she probably doesn't realize). But are you seriously thinking she wanted you wear heels?? Really??? This reminds me of my friend the other week going on for over an hour about a comment some guy made about him years ago to a mutual friend and I couldn't help but tell him "You've given this guy more thought and commentary in the past hour than he's probably given you in the past 3 years." You've known her for a few days?? And you care this much???? She might have been insensitive as I don't think women think about men being shorter than them as much as shorter men do being shorter than women. The height issue sounds like a far bigger deal for you than her. Ghost the chick and move on. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author NJ123 Posted June 25, 2017 Author Share Posted June 25, 2017 Probably somewhat insensitive of her since you obviously have a hang up about your height (which she probably doesn't realize). But are you seriously thinking she wanted you wear heels?? Really??? This reminds me of my friend the other week going on for over an hour about a comment some guy made about him years ago to a mutual friend and I couldn't help but tell him "You've given this guy more thought and commentary in the past hour than he's probably given you in the past 3 years." You've known her for a few days?? And you care this much???? She might have been insensitive as I don't think women think about men being shorter than them as much as shorter men do being shorter than women. The height issue sounds like a far bigger deal for you than her. Ghost the chick and move on. I was annoyed with it due to her seemingly being serious about it. She seemed genuine with her phone messages she sent me apologzing about this whole thing. So I'll probably at least go on 1 date with her to see how she is in person. Link to post Share on other sites
5x5 Posted June 25, 2017 Share Posted June 25, 2017 I'll likely never have many chances with women around my height or taller due to the whole height hangup most women have. It sucks since there's so many women around my height or taller that are very attractive to me too. I'm so glad I don't think like you. Being 5'3" I've had lots of attractive sexual partners of whom most have been taller than me. I've been married twice to two taller women who took interest in me first. My ex-wife had sex with me within hours of our meeting. While my wife asked me out on a date, had sex with me on our third date and later asked me to marry her. I have had a fair number of one night stands mostly from women who approached me at clubs, pubs and parties. While I have also been in other sexual relationships with other women who I have met at work, clubs, pubs and parties, that lasted weeks or through months and years. That said I'm not shy about coming forward either. When I was divorced I had sex with one married woman who just broke up with her husband that used to hit her. And have been sexual with another married woman who I didn't know was married. I have also turned down plenty of women who have asked me out on dates, or asked me to be their with them and have turned down explicit offers of sex as well from single women and some married women as well. Being shorter than you has never held me back from having a smorgasbord of non-vanilla sexual relationships with plenty of women. Or having offers and or opportunities for more of the same. Including with my wife of 18 years who I have been with for 21 years, where as always we still happily share lots of very frequent and varied sex together. At the end of the day I can't recall ever experiencing a shortage (pun intended) of female suitors. Your height isn't the problem. Your attitude on the other hand, certainly does you no favours. lol why is everything always a negative with shorter guys for? It isn't. Just seems a lot of women never have anything positive to say when mentioning short guys. Just seems women are ruthless towards them & always remember the negatives with them but not with taller guys. Change your mind and the sex will follow. She than said she was joking which I'll never be able to tell if she was or not. She was joking and you were being overly sensitive. If you want to limit your chances with women, keep feeding that chip on your shoulder. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
5x5 Posted June 25, 2017 Share Posted June 25, 2017 I was annoyed with it due to her seemingly being serious about it. She seemed genuine with her phone messages she sent me apologzing about this whole thing. So I'll probably at least go on 1 date with her to see how she is in person. Here's another tip. You would do well to avoid encouraging sexual relationship dynamics that see your partner/s, having to tip toe around your delicate sensitivities. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
GemmaUK Posted June 25, 2017 Share Posted June 25, 2017 So in an update she apologized & sent me messages saying she didn't mean to upset me & that it's not a deal breaker but maybe it would have been if I was shorter than her. But since we're the same height she said she wouldn't care. She than said she was joking which I'll never be able to tell if she was or not. I may give it a date at least with her to see how she's like in person. So she has done the thing which you previously said would make you feel OK about it but you still don't seem OK about it with saying you 'may give it a date at least'. If you are as upset as you have appeared page after page then why waste your time (and hers)? That is the part I really don't understand because your upset over this has gone beyond feeling a little upset and has turned into 'women always berate short guys and seem to have a right to do so'. It's gone much further for you than just being upset in which case she is doomed if she wears a heel higher than 12mm - which is about the flattest shoe you can buy. Let's hope neither of you have rounded up or down in your barefoot measurements. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
telemakus Posted June 25, 2017 Share Posted June 25, 2017 I'm so glad I don't think like you. Being 5'3" I've had lots of attractive sexual partners of whom most have been taller than me. I've been married twice to two taller women who took interest in me first. My ex-wife had sex with me within hours of our meeting. While my wife asked me out on a date, had sex with me on our third date and later asked me to marry her. I have had a fair number of one night stands mostly from women who approached me at clubs, pubs and parties. While I have also been in other sexual relationships with other women who I have met at work, clubs, pubs and parties, that lasted weeks or through months and years. That said I'm not shy about coming forward either. When I was divorced I had sex with one married woman who just broke up with her husband that used to hit her. And have been sexual with another married woman who I didn't know was married. I have also turned down plenty of women who have asked me out on dates, or asked me to be their with them and have turned down explicit offers of sex as well from single women and some married women as well. Being shorter than you has never held me back from having a smorgasbord of non-vanilla sexual relationships with plenty of women. Or having offers and or opportunities for more of the same. Including with my wife of 18 years who I have been with for 21 years, where as always we still happily share lots of very frequent and varied sex together. At the end of the day I can't recall ever experiencing a shortage (pun intended) of female suitors. Your height isn't the problem. Your attitude on the other hand, certainly does you no favours. It isn't. Change your mind and the sex will follow. She was joking and you were being overly sensitive. If you want to limit your chances with women, keep feeding that chip on your shoulder. Can you explain in a little more detail? I'm not sure I follow you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author NJ123 Posted June 25, 2017 Author Share Posted June 25, 2017 So she has done the thing which you previously said would make you feel OK about it but you still don't seem OK about it with saying you 'may give it a date at least'. If you are as upset as you have appeared page after page then why waste your time (and hers)? That is the part I really don't understand because your upset over this has gone beyond feeling a little upset and has turned into 'women always berate short guys and seem to have a right to do so'. It's gone much further for you than just being upset in which case she is doomed if she wears a heel higher than 12mm - which is about the flattest shoe you can buy. Let's hope neither of you have rounded up or down in your barefoot measurements. No, I don't care if she wears heels. I just don't want her to feel uncomfortable around me where it's like she's embarrassed or isn't that attracted to me. The whole issue was with her stating I should wear heels. She apologized & sent me 2 audio messages in iMessage & she really sounded sincere with what she was saying. So I'm just going to see how things play out. And as I said earlier I wouldn't care if a woman was taller than me. I'd gladly go out with a woman that was 5'9" for instance if I liked her personality & found her physically attractive. Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted June 25, 2017 Share Posted June 25, 2017 Listen to 5x5, he has walked the walk... You would do well to avoid encouraging sexual relationship dynamics that see your partner/s, having to tip toe around your delicate sensitivities. Agreed. Personality is all. Women tend to be attracted to "strong" men. It may not be right, it may not be fair, but few women want to deal with a man who is going to need appeased and soothed regularly as his feelings are hurt over jokes and banter... Banter IS often cruel, most jokes are at the expense of someone. The trick is to not to take the words to heart, or lose that person from your life, if someone is deliberately pushing your buttons to upset you. Most normal women do not find a man she feels she needs to "mother" very sexy. I think this girl may flake due to embarrassment of being thought of as a height shamer, or being made to feel she is on the back foot, or on reflection, it is just too much like hard work when she hasn't even met you yet, sorry. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
SammySammy Posted June 25, 2017 Share Posted June 25, 2017 Listen to 5x5, he has walked the walk... Agreed. Personality is all. Women tend to be attracted to "strong" men. It may not be right, it may not be fair, but few women want to deal with a man who is going to need appeased and soothed regularly as his feelings are hurt over jokes and banter... Banter IS often cruel, most jokes are at the expense of someone. The trick is to not to take the words to heart, or lose that person from your life, if someone is deliberately pushing your buttons to upset you. Most normal women do not find a man she feels she needs to "mother" very sexy. I think this girl may flake due to embarrassment of being thought of as a height shamer, or being made to feel she is on the back foot, or on reflection, it is just too much like hard work when she hasn't even met you yet, sorry. ^^^ My point all along. Even if his height is not a problem, all of this emotional sensitivity, insecurity, and fragility is a turn off. It's not masculine and will sabotage any relationship he has before height becomes an issue. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Haydn Posted June 25, 2017 Share Posted June 25, 2017 Depends on the heels.... 2 Link to post Share on other sites
tetrahedral Posted June 25, 2017 Share Posted June 25, 2017 No, the conversation was fun & no bad vibes at all. Than she flat out asked how tall I was. And that's when it happened. Here's the convo almost word for word. Her: I'm 5'6" how tall are you? Me: 5'6" myself Her: Are you really? Me: Yeah why? Her: Well I typically go for taller guys like 5'9 and up Me: Oh I see Her: Do you mind wearing heels? Me: It doesn't matter to me Her: Okay you wear 3 inch heels and it will be perfect Me: lol you're not comfortable with me being the same height? Her: I think if you end up being my guy it wouldn't matter She was teasing you. People do that. Probably partly to see how you'll respond. People want to figure out if you're a confident dude or not. Instead of rolling with the punches you got defensive. I would have asked her if this is a roundabout way of telling you she's into drag queens. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
knabe Posted June 25, 2017 Share Posted June 25, 2017 "Ifyou want to limit your chances with women, keep feeding that chip on your shoulder." This pretty much sums it up. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Chilli Posted June 25, 2017 Share Posted June 25, 2017 l'd say no because l'd be way too tall in 3in heals. beats me why girls who are already reasonable tall wanna ware heals anwyay, must be a girl thing haha. Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted June 25, 2017 Share Posted June 25, 2017 Heels make a lot of outfits look better, make you look slimmer, and make your butt look better. Now you know! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
phineas Posted June 25, 2017 Share Posted June 25, 2017 I read something to that effect a few months ago. but can't find it...Anyway, here is CDC report from a couple years ago...American women...166.2... CDC: Average Weight of Women Today Same as Men in 1960s TFY jeez. and for men it's 195. hey i've been above average and below average in the last yr. lol! Link to post Share on other sites
phineas Posted June 25, 2017 Share Posted June 25, 2017 Heels make a lot of outfits look better, make you look slimmer, and make your butt look better. Now you know! and a lot of women can't even walk in heels and look like a clown from the circus on stilts when they walk. blows my mind why they think that looks sexy. ya know what i think makes a woman look slimmer and their butt better? Diet and exercise. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
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