should i believe him? please give me advice i need it bad

[confussed]

me and my ex brokeup bout 3 months ago and after we broke up when ever i saw him he would just stare at me and one time he almost wreaked his bike when he saw me drive by. and all mine and his friends say he still loves me he is just shy on how to tell me cuz of the way i will act towords it sunce he brokeup with me.but the other day his best friend imed me and said that he still loves me alot and then he got jelouse and kinda mad when i told him i had a bf. and then monday he called me 3 times but i was sleepin and so i didnt answer. and on tuesday he called me 6 times and the 7th time i answered and we talked from 12-3am and his friend told me that he still loves me and wants to bang me still. all our friends tell me i should believe him and his friends and 1 of my friends who went out wit him told me to believe him but i dont know wat to do ....wat does it sound like to u do u think he really still loves me or do u think he is just playen??? .......but i still love hom alot so this is really important to me so please answer me asap

[d'Arthez]

Well, if you are happy with just a banging relationship, it sounds perfect. I doubt however that that is the case.

 

You must have broken up over various reasons. Have they been adressed? Just because he may want to get back together, does not mean that:

1) you want or should get back with him

2) that the issues have been adressed

3) that misses you for more than just the "benefits." I would not be flattered if I had an ex who stated that she missed me for the banging benefit

4) that everything will work out

 

Sure you can get back to him, but if the underlying causes of the break-up have not been properly adressed you will run into problems again and again.

 

Saying "I love him / her", does not prove that one loves the other. Actions count. And he has not made any real effort to get back with you it seems; but the same seems to be true of you.