AleroGurl Posted August 6, 2005 Share Posted August 6, 2005 so i just found out that my ex is over me...he says he still loves me but hes over me... its been 3 weeks....and hes over me...im at a loss of words right now and i dont even kno what to do anymore...he was my best friend for 4.5 years and hes fine with me not being in his life anymore... i dont kno what to do anymore right now... Link to post Share on other sites
smile95 Posted August 6, 2005 Share Posted August 6, 2005 Well, he may say he is over you and you may think that it only took 3 wks, but he probably started to pull away long ago. #1 If he has someone new, which I do not know, he prob "thinks" he is over you. You are right.....3 wks to get over a 4.5 yr relationship??? No. Does not happen. If he has sonmeone new, then once that ends he will have to come to terms with losing you. It does not sound like he has if he can say he is over you? He even said he loved you. What is going on with him now? New friends? New school? New job? Are you aware that he has anyone else? Link to post Share on other sites
Author AleroGurl Posted August 6, 2005 Author Share Posted August 6, 2005 he is back hanging out with and defending this young 19 yr old sl*t. he lied to me about her for the last year of our relationship. talked to her behind my back, lied to me and blames it on me. says it in my head adn that im crazy... just last night he was defending her to me for like 30 mins til i couldnt take it anymore and blocked him on mSN she isnt even his type. shes tall, not attractive at all(and im not jsut saying that cuz i dislike her), and shes young. but thats all that hes doing. hanging otu with her and stuff. still is making me feel ugly, stupid and insane tho he did say that he still loves me but he is over me. my friends all said that he was and still is emotionally abusing me but i dunno... Link to post Share on other sites
A Fly onThe Wall Posted August 6, 2005 Share Posted August 6, 2005 Why do you even talk to him ? Block him ?? nahhhh Delete him !!! Link to post Share on other sites
lostinmymind Posted August 6, 2005 Share Posted August 6, 2005 Having someone new can make someone think they are over you. They force the feelings to the back of their mind. They can linger there for a VERY long time. Unfortunately, this method is harmful as when they go to face those feelings you are over them.. This doesn't mean that when they go to confront the feelings they will want you back, though. Nothing can ever guarantee that. If this guy is talking to you about the other girl it's a sign of two things: 1) He really has no concern for your feelings. Even an ex should care about you enough to not intentionally do things that will hurt you. This is just a sign that you should go out and find a better person to date. Do you really want someone who disregards others' feelings? 2) He is trying to send you the signal that you and him are over. Although he is doing it in an evil way, this is still what he is trying to say. My suggestion is to block him and get on with your life. Nothing you want to hear is going to come out of his mouth, so why talk to him? Link to post Share on other sites
smile95 Posted August 6, 2005 Share Posted August 6, 2005 I know that it hurts, but you are just making matters worse by keeping this man in your life. Each time you talk, the knife he has in your heart goes a little deeper. There is not reason to keep him around. Link to post Share on other sites
Author AleroGurl Posted August 6, 2005 Author Share Posted August 6, 2005 i guess i want him to wake up and see waht he lost(even tho he says hes happy without me) jsut hoping that hes gonna realize that he DID hurt me and he DID lie to me and appologize for it. i want closure from this guy but i dont think im gonan get it. he actually enjoys the fact that im crying ove rhim and that im depressed... i just wish he wouldnt go around telling ppl im crazy and telling me that i fabricate everything in my head when he KNWOS he did all those things to me... and he is blocked and deleted...as of last night! and beth, i just read ur thread on hopign ur ex will come back to you and that is EXACLTY how i feel. we broke up SO many times in hte past and he did his skank thing adn always came back to me...i guess im hoping and waiting he'll do that again this time.... Link to post Share on other sites
smile95 Posted August 6, 2005 Share Posted August 6, 2005 of course he likes it when you cry over him. What an ego boost for him! The only thing that is going to wake him up is you acting like you do not care. You are still talking to him and he knows he has you in the palm of his hands. He lied and never said sorry? Why in the HE** are you even giving him the time of day. By talking to him and crying over him you are telling him indirectly that he can lie to you and you still love him. Good that you deleted him from IM and start NC. He is not going to wake up and see what he lost when you are still around. He needs a chance to miss you. The worst thing you can do is let him know how hurt you are....he will see what he lost and hopefully by then you will see him for who he is -a liar. Link to post Share on other sites
lostinmymind Posted August 6, 2005 Share Posted August 6, 2005 Originally posted by AleroGurl i just wish he wouldnt go around telling ppl im crazy and telling me that i fabricate everything in my head when he KNWOS he did all those things to me... Just from that I gather he knows he is wrong. He is just being VERY stubborn and trying to justify what he did. That will come back to bite him, eventually...it just takes time. You have to move on. Link to post Share on other sites
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