SevenCity Posted June 28, 2017 Posted June 28, 2017 The other day I ran across a website that offers assistance with online dating services. They have a phone interview with you to figure out what you are all about and what type of women you are most interested in. They will create your profile (on appropriate OLD sites depending what you are looking for), send clever / witty messages to women, and even go as far to setup dates for you (and also offer photography services if desired). You then just show up for the scheduled dates - potentially never having actually interacted with the woman. The service is geared towards men who don't have the time or interest to go through the whole OLD scene. I never knew such a thing existed and I'm curious if anyone has tried a service like this. I'm sure it's nothing you can't accomplish on your own, but there is something to be said about companies who specialize in a particular field.
tetrahedral Posted June 28, 2017 Posted June 28, 2017 The other day I ran across a website that offers assistance with online dating services. They have a phone interview with you to figure out what you are all about and what type of women you are most interested in. They will create your profile (on appropriate OLD sites depending what you are looking for), send clever / witty messages to women, and even go as far to setup dates for you (and also offer photography services if desired). You then just show up for the scheduled dates - potentially never having actually interacted with the woman. The service is geared towards men who don't have the time or interest to go through the whole OLD scene. I never knew such a thing existed and I'm curious if anyone has tried a service like this. I'm sure it's nothing you can't accomplish on your own, but there is something to be said about companies who specialize in a particular field. So we went from dating to online dating, then online dating to online-online dating. What a time to be alive. 2
jay1983 Posted June 28, 2017 Posted June 28, 2017 Sounds like it may save you time and frustration from writing back and forth with dozens of time wasters, but I'm not sure it'll lead to many more face to face meetings. I assume once they wheel them in, you take it from there and set up a meeting. That's still gonna make for a lot of flakes.
Author SevenCity Posted June 29, 2017 Author Posted June 29, 2017 Sounds like it may save you time and frustration from writing back and forth with dozens of time wasters, but I'm not sure it'll lead to many more face to face meetings. I assume once they wheel them in, you take it from there and set up a meeting. That's still gonna make for a lot of flakes. The one I saw said it would setup the dates as well and you just show up. What I like about the idea is it keeps it (so they claim) out of your hands so you avoid the flake frustration. I may look into it if I go back on old. No idea what it costs so I'm sure it's not cheap.
PegNosePete Posted June 29, 2017 Posted June 29, 2017 Personally I wouldn't use it. Why not? Well, imagine you're on a date. She says "oh in your message you told me XXX YYY ZZZ". You then have choice: lie and say yeah and start to talk about XXX YYY ZZZ, or confess that the person she was corresponding with wasn't you. Which do you choose? Neither is a good way to start a relationship. So no I wouldn't use such a service because although it might get you first meetings, I don't think it would get you many 2nd dates. A professional profile writing service on the other hand, yeah I can see why that would help many people because the vast majority of OLD profiles are TERRIBLE, and the owners are totally ignorant of how terrible they are. They all think their profile is great and can't understand why the hot chick fairy keeps passing them by. So having someone experienced and successful to look over the profile and give advice - whilst still maintaining your personality - could help a lot. But then there's forums which do this for free so I'm not sure there's much point paying for it. 2
Chilli Posted June 30, 2017 Posted June 30, 2017 My rich mate tried one ,paid them 5k, no luck. He's a great looking guy and wealthy , has no problem meeting girls , but he couldn't meet the right one so he resorted to them. Eventually he fell for this Russian he just met in the mall shopping. Been with her awhile now wants to marry her.
Popsicle Posted June 30, 2017 Posted June 30, 2017 I can definitely see the need for this. After seeing so many poorly constructed profiles, I can see that some people need this.
normal person Posted July 1, 2017 Posted July 1, 2017 I can definitely see the need for this. After seeing so many poorly constructed profiles, I can see that some people need this. But it also adds another dimension of misrepresentation for people to deal with. Right now we've got people using fake, outdated, or altered pictures, lying about their height/body type, etc. I can only imagine some people will use services like this to misrepresent how literate, witty, and engaging they are. Then you'll get women complaining "He messaged me and it read like Oscar Wilde. Then we went out and I couldn't be sure if he'd even graduated high school." People are surely free to use these services if they want. I'm very much of the opinion that if you're too incompetent to figure out how to do OLD correctly, or not willing to work hard enough to raise yourself to the standard expected of you from the people you're trying to date, the market decides your fate for you. And if you just aren't good enough, you have no business deceiving people into thinking otherwise. This is just misrepresenting yourself in a different way, and they're going to figure it out eventually. Of course it's not like online dating is "natural" but we've reached a place with it where there are some basic standards and everyone knows what's acceptable and what's not. Perhaps if there ever comes a time where using these services is "normal," then the landscape will change and there will be a whole new set of rules for what's acceptable. Some people will be able to hire better writers, some people won't be able to hire writers at all and they'll be in a different class of people. Some people will be able to afford it but still will insist on writing it themselves in an attempt to use authenticity as their niche, etc. Eventually everyone's going to video chat before meeting up and then the landscape will change yet again. In the end, you can only hide who you are for so long. If you want to be successful with online dating, or dating in general, there aren't many "shortcuts." You need to actually be a desirable person. 5
Philosopher Posted July 2, 2017 Posted July 2, 2017 Surely these services are really misleading to those people whom you are dating. The person whom is reading "your" profile, instead is reading what someone else has written about you. Similarly your messages are not actually yours, they are instead someone else's, pretending to be you. I think you can gauge quite a bit from the profile and the messages, such as what there sense of humour is like, how sloppy they are when it comes to writing (and possibly other areas of life), whether they have an optimistic or pessimistic outlook on life, etc. If using these services however all that may be inaccurate. Using these services may help you get first dates, but once they realise you are quite a bit different from your messages and profile, they will most likely stop dating you.
angel.eyes Posted July 3, 2017 Posted July 3, 2017 (edited) Surely these services are really misleading to those people whom you are dating. The person whom is reading "your" profile, instead is reading what someone else has written about you. Similarly your messages are not actually yours, they are instead someone else's, pretending to be you. I think you can gauge quite a bit from the profile and the messages, such as what there sense of humour is like, how sloppy they are when it comes to writing (and possibly other areas of life), whether they have an optimistic or pessimistic outlook on life, etc. If using these services however all that may be inaccurate Not really. When I did OLD, I always had a phone call before agreeing to go on a date. It was obvious when a guy had help with his profile and/or his messages. Big disconnect once he was on his own for communication and no longer had his personal Cyrano de Bergerac in the wings communicating on his behalf. We didn't even get to a first date. Edited July 3, 2017 by angel.eyes
Miss Spider Posted July 18, 2017 Posted July 18, 2017 (edited) How do they know you'll even be attracted to the person? I mean you can say you like tall, thin redheads that like sports but there's a lot more that goes into attraction than that? And if someone writes your profile and you don't match the "vibe" it gives off?? Sounds like a disaster Edited July 18, 2017 by Cookiesandough
preraph Posted July 18, 2017 Posted July 18, 2017 They're going to find out you're not that person eventually. If you're looking for someone truly compatible, this isn't the right way. If you're looking to go to lots of first meetings and just looking for a hookup, it might be someone doing the work for you, kind of like a madam. 1
bluefeather Posted July 18, 2017 Posted July 18, 2017 Hmm... sounds like a good potential money-making idea. Clever. Also, incredibly dishonest. If a relationship develops, it would be founded on a lie.
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