thefooloftheyear Posted June 29, 2017 Share Posted June 29, 2017 That's a really good question. I have had women tell me to smile and men tell me to smile, but I have never heard a man tell another man to smile. What's up with that? Yes, it's condescending. It's because we already know all the bullshyt we have to put up with as men...It's understood....We get it... TFY Link to post Share on other sites
Timshel Posted June 29, 2017 Share Posted June 29, 2017 It's because we already know all the bullshyt we have to put up with as men...It's understood....We get it... TFY Right.... It makes sense now. Link to post Share on other sites
Bastile Posted June 29, 2017 Share Posted June 29, 2017 .... *Bites lip. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted June 29, 2017 Share Posted June 29, 2017 This thread has inspired me to pin down the next guy who does this and find out why he said it. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Timshel Posted June 29, 2017 Share Posted June 29, 2017 .... *Bites lip. Spill it please... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
wmacbride Posted June 29, 2017 Share Posted June 29, 2017 If that guy ever told my oldest to smile, he'd regret it. She has this look that can really wither a person. ( she has asperger's, and smiling is not one of her top priorities) 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author TheAntiHero Posted June 29, 2017 Author Share Posted June 29, 2017 I'd actually love to hear from a man who does this and have him explain why. Hi, OP here: women actually do this to me all the time (just this morning, in fact, "inspiring" my post); should I care what they think? As a man, it's never a problem to me when females "harass" me. I've been catcalled while playing basketball, again numerous times have I been told to smile BY FEMALES, and they've sat down talking about my "lollipop" together giggling among themselves. Why isn't it a problem to me? Am I perverted? I don't think so. The problem I see here is that women are quick to accuse men of being sexual predators, being perverted, harassment, etc. I need people to see this so LIKE if you agree. Link to post Share on other sites
RecentChange Posted June 29, 2017 Share Posted June 29, 2017 Power dynamics come into play. It's rare for men to feel physically threatened by a woman. Is rare for men to be in a lower power dynamic than the woman who is doing the harassing. Have you ever had a woman cat call you, and think, I better give her a little smile otherwise this psyco may start following me, or harass me more? Have you ever had a lady cat call you, then SHOUT at you "hey MR! I just gave you a compliment!" Or have a lady start walking behind you, saying damn.... What I would do to that... While continuing to follow as you quicken your step? No? Until then, save your explanation as to why we shouldn't feel threatened. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted June 29, 2017 Share Posted June 29, 2017 Anti Hero, the women who treat you this way have no decorum and sound pretty juvenile. Now, if you're OK with this, then that's fine. Go you. But the fact that you're OK with it doesn't mean that everyone else should feel the same way as you. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Timshel Posted June 29, 2017 Share Posted June 29, 2017 i think what is worse to be told by a man is to "stop crying...cant be that bad......cheer up" when im crying....its been hell...inside and out..deb You posted the other day a story about a snake. How it almost bit you but it didn't, no accident deb, providence. I remember my dad making me swim ten laps so that I wouldn't be afraid of an alligator. Women smile because we love. I don't know what some men here are saying, that we are burdensome and so they can't smile? Every man I know laughs his butt off and I do also. As a matter of fact, we are off to have the kids start 007 series starting with GoldenEye. Thursday is movie night in our house. I am so sorry deb, one thing I am sure of though, laughter is awesome and it's rare to wipe a smile from my face for a stranger or friend. Being instructed to do anything by someone who doesn't know you or what is happening in that moment is off putting but smiling isn't the worst thing....or as you usually sign off...smiling. Thank you todreaminblue, deb. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted June 29, 2017 Share Posted June 29, 2017 (edited) AntiHero, I would also say that I'm seeing more incidence of women picking up on some of the less desirable behaviours which were previously a man's domain. Violence, road rage and sexual harrassment towards the opposite sex being top of my thought list. The fact that some women copy bad behaviours does not exonerate the men who have also exhibited the same behaviours. (To be clear, I'm talking a minority of men and women here) Edited June 29, 2017 by basil67 grammar 4 Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted June 29, 2017 Share Posted June 29, 2017 AntiHero, I would also say that I'm seeing more incidence of women picking up on some of the less desirable behaviours which were previously a man's domain. Violence, road rage and sexual harrassment towards the opposite sex being top of my thought list. The fact that some women copy bad behaviours does not exonerate the men who have also exhibited the same behaviours. (To be clear, I'm talking a minority of men and women here) It is amazing how a 120 lb woman could feel like a Grizzly bear when they have 4000 lbs of steel around them... TFY Link to post Share on other sites
William Posted June 29, 2017 Share Posted June 29, 2017 Suffice to say such pearls of wisdom will be in shorter supply moving forward. Link to post Share on other sites
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