grazyexes Posted July 1, 2017 Share Posted July 1, 2017 What should I do in this situation where I don't know if I like this girl or not? She is very beautiful and we have slept together few times and she seems to be so into me. We had first date two weeks ago. Is it too early to know if i want this girl or not? Same thing happened with different girl before, I didn't know what to do and kinda rejected her at some point. When I saw her dating someone else, I started to like her. I started to chase her and when I noticed she didn't want me so much anymore, I chased her even more to the point where i couldn't think anything or anynone else anymore. Im afraid that if I now reject this girl and she starts to date someone else, the same will happen again. Why my mind is behaving like this? Do I have some kind of issues with me or what is this im so confused right now... Link to post Share on other sites
mikeylo Posted July 1, 2017 Share Posted July 1, 2017 Probably you don't know what you want and need validation ( when other guys date them, you feel validated that those women are right ). Maybe you are not ready and forcing yourself to date them even if you don't like them. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted July 1, 2017 Share Posted July 1, 2017 Sounds like you have some insecurities and so what you like is the validation of having a woman, but either you haven't found the one you connect with or you have a problem with connecting and intimacy (mental). You don't want them but you want them to want you. That's some type of insecurity and needing validation. Maybe a few therapy sessions would get to the bottom of it, but maybe you'll meet someone you allow yourself to become vulnerable with and love sometime too. Hope so. Link to post Share on other sites
spiderowl Posted July 2, 2017 Share Posted July 2, 2017 Physical attraction can be instant but getting to know a person and bonding with them mentally, emotionally and physically takes longer. It seems perfectly natural to me that you would not know if they were right for you straightaway. You can know you like spending time with them, but allow yourself time to get to know them better before making any major decisions. The only thing to be aware of is that if you are so uncertain that you are not reassuring them you want to continue to date, they may think you are not interested and give up. It seems that might have happened before. I think it is reasonable to have a talk along the lines of 'I'm really enjoying your company. It takes me a while to get to know someone so please bear with me if I seem a bit distant at times. I would love to spend time with you and see where this goes.' Link to post Share on other sites
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