MeadowFlower Posted July 4, 2017 Share Posted July 4, 2017 Do you think if someone is meant for you it will happen no matter what, when the time is right? Link to post Share on other sites
angel.eyes Posted July 4, 2017 Share Posted July 4, 2017 Only in fairy tales and Disney movies. In real life, if you want a relationship to happen, you need to put yourself out there to meet people, then put in the work to make dating and a relationship successful. Passively sitting at home hoping your perfect guy will magically appear in your life won't take you very far...unless your soul mate is the UPS guy...and you order constantly from Amazon. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
divegrl Posted July 4, 2017 Share Posted July 4, 2017 Yes. Everything happens for a reason. We just need to LET GO and trust GOD. Good luck my friend! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CptInsano Posted July 4, 2017 Share Posted July 4, 2017 Only in fairy tales and Disney movies. In real life, if you want a relationship to happen, you need to put yourself out there to meet people, then put in the work to make dating and a relationship successful. Passively sitting at home hoping your perfect guy will magically appear in your life won't take you very far...unless your soul mate is the UPS guy...and you order constantly from Amazon. Agreed. One can put faith in whatever he or she wants. But in my experience pretty much nothing happens if you don't pursue it or make everything possible for it to happen. Also, I don't believe that there is THE ONE out there, just people who are close enough that it is worth giving it a shot. I have met many women in my life who would have fit that category, but circumstances were only right for a few. Relationships are also a lot about working on them, and even wanting to make them work before that. That boils down to determination and skill, and the latter is truly something you will learn and is not something given to us. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted July 4, 2017 Share Posted July 4, 2017 I agree that this is the stuff of fairy tales. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
salparadise Posted July 4, 2017 Share Posted July 4, 2017 ...unless your soul mate is the UPS guy...and you order constantly from Amazon. Have you heard about the new service rollout... Amazon PrimeMate. Due to carrier restrictions, it's initially it's limited to specimens less than 4'10" and under 110lbs. Yes. Everything happens for a reason. We just need to LET GO and trust GOD. Good luck my friend! Exactly. And that's the reason that God made men that fit in small boxes. But you do have to enable one-click ordering to make it work. Link to post Share on other sites
central Posted July 4, 2017 Share Posted July 4, 2017 I don't believe that people are meant for each other, in that there is no external agency to cause this. They, themselves, are the only ones responsible for getting (back) together, regardless of timing or obstacles. For example, there was a recent thread somewhere about a woman who left her husband of 40 years to get back together with a high school crush, after his wife of 40 years died. I guess she settled for 40 years, but after 40 years, her old love may not be the person she remembers, either. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted July 4, 2017 Share Posted July 4, 2017 Meadow Flower Take your theory to the absurd conclusion: A woman thinks her neighbor growing up, Bob, is her soulmate & that they are meant to be. However, Bob joins the military & gets stationed 1/2 way around the world. There he meets & marries another woman then proceeds to have children with her. The first woman would be fool to sit home, shut herself away & think that eventually Bob will come back. At the very least the 1st woman must conclude that she was wrong; Bob isn't meant for her. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
angel.eyes Posted July 4, 2017 Share Posted July 4, 2017 Have you heard about the new service rollout... Amazon PrimeMate. Due to carrier restrictions, it's initially it's limited to specimens less than 4'10" and under 110lbs. I tried Amazon PriMate! Unfortunately, rather than one of the two guys in the ad, they sent me a bonobo. Still waiting for my refund. Gave them a 1-star review in the meanwhile. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Chilli Posted July 4, 2017 Share Posted July 4, 2017 Oddly enough then for most peoples ideas by the sounds of it , anyone l've ever met worthwhile has basically just been an accidental encounter somewhere. But still , maybe that was just me, l honestly have no clue how it's really suppose to work. As far as meant to be , have seen it and lived it, but yet here l am,so no clue about that one either lately these days. l think for the lucky some though , yeah for sure, some were just meant to be , they got lucky. l do think you can def' try too hard though, see it a lot but you know what they say , chase something and it will run away from you sooooo, who knows. Does seems to work for some though. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mikeylo Posted July 4, 2017 Share Posted July 4, 2017 I do believe that if it's meant to be , it will be , no matter what. It is true in many cases. Against all odds , people meet even when timing is not right and it works out. While sometimes people can meet at right time, but it doesn't work. It's an exception to the rule kinda thing 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted July 4, 2017 Share Posted July 4, 2017 I really don't think any meaningful answers can be given without some context behind your question. If we were talking about two students who are temporarily finding it difficult to date because they have no time or money, my answer would be different compared to, say, if we are talking about someone who has been in an affair with a married person for years and naively believes that the person will leave their spouse to be with them "when the time is right" 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted July 4, 2017 Share Posted July 4, 2017 I think you have a brain for a reason and that God has better things to do than micromanage everyone's love lives. I'm 64 and I've seen NO evidence that any relationship is "meant to be." Everyone I knew felt it was that way (because of fairytales) when they were young and inexperienced, and none of them ended up with the person or persons they felt they were "meant to be" with. None. Zip, zero. Now, if someone keeps entering your sphere, then there is a reason for that, and the reason is either proxmity or common interests, and that's how most people end up with someone, because they're nearby and have something in common, but it was never "meant to be" and will require hard work to make it work if it's even going to and doesn't just to a fast burnout. Just because you are attracted to someone doesn't mean they are attracted back, and in fact, they more often than not are not. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted July 4, 2017 Share Posted July 4, 2017 i have to agree with pre raph...love equals work and effort....i disagree on god micro managing love lives.....there is no more important thing to god than love......and gods love is intrinsically based ...wanna know something i didnt even know what intriniscially was had to google it after i wrote it....it means in an essential way or natural...so god micro managing love lives isnt a stretch.....GOD IS LOVE we are a simple extension of gods love.... we as humans though have to work at loving others...and its maintenance...ongoing work i do believe god places people we need in our lives close to us he helps us find each other and you get that feeling sometimes fo knowing someone when you dont know them....you feel that connection and that when its meant to be...BUT it might not be for love it might be for friendship or to help them or for them to help you..... praying to god and talking to him can help settle the confusion....or maybe not settle it at all.... like me ....it doesnt settle the confusion at all... god does want us to make our own choices in life.....the choice is ours...the responsibility is for us to choose right......and that...i am working on......i would actually prefer god say ok deb that guy there...that's the one for you clearly....and seeing i often hear more than one voice in my head...god needs to write it down in a letter and post it to me..until then...i have to trust my prayers......and his answers...and my own judgment...somewhere someone really smart wrote ....what will be will be.....gods will be done....and whether we like it or not....it is gods will that is done...when we choose right...that is gods will....including love.........deb 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted July 4, 2017 Share Posted July 4, 2017 Oddly enough then for most peoples ideas by the sounds of it , anyone l've ever met worthwhile has basically just been an accidental encounter somewhere. I don't think your experience is odd. My partners have also come about from an accidental encounter. However, I believe it was chance. It wasn't pre-ordained by the universe or whichever God one believes in. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted July 4, 2017 Share Posted July 4, 2017 Do you think if someone is meant for you it will happen no matter what, when the time is right? No I don't. I beleive in compatibility. I beleive there are several men out there that would make a perfect mate for me and I just need to find one. When I look back when I was young and remember those guys I felt we were *meant to be* I am thinking to myself: What the heck was I thinking!! Like Garth Brooks song's says: I thank god for all those unanswered prays. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted July 4, 2017 Share Posted July 4, 2017 ^ I agree. But not everyone is easy to match, and I am one of those. I think the more kind of mainstream a person is, combined with how easy going they are and not being as focused on looks increases their selection of mates. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
LivingWaterPlease Posted July 5, 2017 Share Posted July 5, 2017 If you're referring to the term "meant to be" as meaning purposed by God to be your spouse, I believe God will be as specific in your life with all things as you'll allow Him to be. And as vague and stand offish with all things as you'd like him to be, also. Hence the differing answers on a forum, imo. I base this on what I've read in scripture and also experienced in my own life and observing the lives of others. If you don't want Him involved and want to make your own choices, you can have that. And a lot of people do, or don't realize He can be very specific, which is where I've been at a point in my life. If you want Him to be specifically involved in your life He will get very specifically involved with you has been my experience. It's your call! God's not one to force His way into a person's life. But, He's there to experience life and choices for those who want Him to be. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
somanymistakes Posted July 6, 2017 Share Posted July 6, 2017 There is no one future that is meant to be and will happen no matter what. We have free will - that means we can throw away gifts, no matter how many times they are offered to us. And we have a responsibility to the world, as well. You can't sit back and do nothing and expect that god/destiny/whatever will drop a happy ending on your lap no matter what. You have to participate. You have to contribute. You have to do your share, give your share. There are many people in the world who could be a good match for you, and many who will never be. Fate may play a role in the oppportunity it brings, but it still depends on you to make decisions, to define yourself by your choices, to BE a good partner for someone else. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
.thumb.jpeg.56e67a05e0caac554e185e2bfbc79b36.jpeg)
Recommended Posts