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I was looking through my yearbook today and I noticed I had a gummy smile, otherwise my picture was great. I think my gummy smile is much improved now, could that have been a reason some girls weren't interested in me? because I have the blonde hair blue eyes and muscular.

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CautiouslyOptimistic

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Could be? A gummy smile is a huge turnoff for me :(.

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Socially awkward personality, dorkiness, acne, terrible clothes, wrong hair cut, poor hygiene, halitosis, lack of deodorant...

 

There's a long laundry list for what might have been wrong in your high school days.

 

FYI, most people are still blond in high school, especially during the summer and fall when they're exposed to lots of sun. Nothing special there.

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Good for you. :)

 

I wouldn't worry about high school. Focus on now--meeting and dating the right people now.

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I still have a gummy smile. It's never been a problem.

 

If I remember correctly, you're aspie. For those on the spectrum, high school is a notoriously bad place to find acceptance.

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bradt93

 

 

If memory serves you just graduated with your 2 year college degree. How you smiled in your HS yearbook picture is not a factor in whether women want to date you now.

 

 

If you really think you have a gummy smile, curl your tongue inside your mouth & press your tongue to the roof of your mouth when you smile. A photographer taught me this trick. When your tongue is on the roof of your mouth, you can't smile too wide & thus your lips will remain covering your gums. Problem solved.

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bradt93

 

 

If memory serves you just graduated with your 2 year college degree. How you smiled in your HS yearbook picture is not a factor in whether women want to date you now.

 

 

If you really think you have a gummy smile, curl your tongue inside your mouth & press your tongue to the roof of your mouth when you smile. A photographer taught me this trick. When your tongue is on the roof of your mouth, you can't smile too wide & thus your lips will remain covering your gums. Problem solved.

I don't really have that problem anymore though, I was just asking what could've been my problem in H.S. why a lot of girls weren't attracted to me.
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I don't really have that problem anymore though, I was just asking what could've been my problem in H.S. why a lot of girls weren't attracted to me.

 

You've said that you don't really talk to girls or go out? Right.

 

That was probably your primary problem in high school as it is now.

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I'm positive that it was not your smile. Based on what I've learned from your threads it seems that you have a problem relating to women.

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I'm positive that it was not your smile. Based on what I've learned from your threads it seems that you have a problem relating to women.
I just don't want to ask women out, because of my fear of rejection. If I get rejected, let's just say my temper gets the best of me. I need to realize something though, not every girl is going to like me. Different women have different tastes just like men. me and you are both guys, we get how complicated women can be and how unfair they are.
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I just don't want to ask women out, because of my fear of rejection. If I get rejected, let's just say my temper gets the best of me. I need to realize something though, not every girl is going to like me. Different women have different tastes just like men. me and you are both guys, we get how complicated women can be and how unfair they are.

 

Never was anything great achieved without danger.

 

All courses of action are risky, so prudence is not in avoiding danger (it's impossible), but calculating risk and acting decisively. Make mistakes of ambition and not mistakes of sloth. Develop the strength to do bold things, not the strength to suffer.

 

Niccolo Machiavelli - The Prince.

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I just don't want to ask women out, because of my fear of rejection. If I get rejected, let's just say my temper gets the best of me. I need to realize something though, not every girl is going to like me. Different women have different tastes just like men. me and you are both guys, we get how complicated women can be and how unfair they are.

 

Agreed, the majority of women will not be interested in you, for a whole number of reasons. You may still enjoy the interaction, or she may offer an invitation to a party, some food, or simply a ride to your hotel or restaurant. Or you may get hooked up with a friend, or end up with a group of people eating deep-fried turkey in a garage at 3am. Just go along with what develops. It may not follow your plan exactly, but it may still work out.

 

It troubles me that you use the word "unfair", because it doesn't apply to this situation. Women don't owe you anything, hence they cannot be unfair, unless they verbally abuse or deliberately deceive you.

 

This is all about what you can negotiate, what you can gain, and not about what you deserve.

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More importantly, why are you dwelling on the past?

 

Girls didn't care one bit about me when I was in junior high and even later on. You can make progress about interacting with women, but you seem to keep ignoring what you've been gently adviced here numerous times.

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Agreed, the majority of women will not be interested in you, for a whole number of reasons. You may still enjoy the interaction, or she may offer an invitation to a party, some food, or simply a ride to your hotel or restaurant. Or you may get hooked up with a friend, or end up with a group of people eating deep-fried turkey in a garage at 3am. Just go along with what develops. It may not follow your plan exactly, but it may still work out.

 

It troubles me that you use the word "unfair", because it doesn't apply to this situation. Women don't owe you anything, hence they cannot be unfair, unless they verbally abuse or deliberately deceive you.

 

This is all about what you can negotiate, what you can gain, and not about what you deserve.

Then I'm not going to waste my time. I'm not going to "negotiate" the person I am. I won't change for anyone and if someone really wanted a relationship, then they wouldn't ask you to change. Noones going to be the "perfect" guy.
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Then I'm not going to waste my time. I'm not going to "negotiate" the person I am. I won't change for anyone and if someone really wanted a relationship, then they wouldn't ask you to change. Noones going to be the "perfect" guy.

 

It's not about negotiating who you are, but rather what you give and get in a relationship or what you mean to each other. What I was referring to is that you can't expect anything without asking or working for it. It's completely voluntary on both sides. You don't owe them and they don't owe you anything.

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