I Was Cheated On

[SayAnything]

Hi, guys.

 

Well, I had been posting in "Second Chances," because I agreed to meet up with my ex last Saturday in hopes of a reconciliation. We were together most of five years, but I broke it off last fall when he refused to move forward and kept leaving town on "business trips" (yeah, I know).

 

Anyway, last Saturday he seemed so excited and so happy to see me. He had been texting me and even sent me a huge gift recently. He said he was single (but had gotten back to try things with his ex while we were apart, and supposedly it hadn't worked). Then, after Saturday - total silence after we spent what I thought was a beautiful day together. Now, after a year of being broken up with the man I believed to be the love of my life, I come to find out he was cheating on me the entire time.

 

I only found out because yesterday, one of my best friends suggested I go online and try to look up if he's married (she's questioned him the entire time and rightly so). I should've done this ages ago. Of course...yes, he is married. To his ex.

 

Well, he cheated on her on Saturday and their "perfect life" is a big lie. I feel bad for all involved, but especially me. The only revenge I have is that I looked pretty good and he looked pretty bad - gained 80 pounds, looked like a total mess. Sadly, I still had feelings for him so it didn't matter but I guess now I see it's a sign he's not a happy person. He lied to me all day that day. "I'm so alone, I miss you so much, my life is so boring..." All lies (I saw her page and she's posting super happy pics - of course he's never in them, but his family is all over them talking about how happy she seems). Now I feel stupid, but I won't let this ruin me. I deserve better than that.

 

Anyway, I just wanted to share. Thanks for listening. I'm sure there are good people out there, and that true love really does exist. I put on blinders and saw what I wanted to see, ignoring the red flags along the way because I made him into exactly the man I wanted him to be and ignored anything that didn't fit into that mold. Big lesson learned. I'll be a stronger person when I come out the other side, I believe that.

[Liesbeth]

Thank you for sharing, this is inspiring. You are really strong! It must have been awful to discover that he is married and your whole relationship was nothing but a lie. I think you are handling this very well!

 

 

Love,

Liesbeth

[Little-Wolf]

I'm so sorry you found out like that. Keep moving forward, you are so strong for sharing your story!

 

He has made his bed, let him lie in it.

 

One day you will look back and you'll have moved on and he'll be stuck in his miserable life.

 

I've known absolutely loads of men like this, that just settle for less than what they want because it's convenient. I worked with two men who admitted freely that they found their wives disgusting, they never had sex, and they married them for money/financial security, yada yada.

 

You just have to laugh and feel safe in the knowledge that one day you'll be happy and all he'll ever be is miserable.