He flirts with our female coworkers in front of me and in his text messages?

[Annabelle321]

We currently work together. Been dating for 3 months.

 

First 2 months things were good, we kept it a secret.

The third month we told people we were dating. Now, I notice he doesn't give me as much attention as he did at work. He used to always follow me around and help me out and flirt with me. I loved it.

 

Now, he completely ignores me and sometimes I catch him flirting with other girls. Two weeks ago I was talking to him about something, and he completely walked away from the conversation to go and talk to this other girl he's been flirting with named, *Beth.

 

It hurt. And I felt disrespected. But I let it go. Until yesterday, he did it again! With the same girl!

I asked him if he had a crush on her or liked her. He grew red and said that he didn't realize I was talking and that he didn't like her. That he only cared about me but he wanted to tell her something funny that happened.

 

I can see the way he talks to her though. He flirts, he laughs, he jokes. He acts the way with her like he used to with me. I trust that he won't cheat but it hurts and it feels so rude and disrespectful!

 

Then, I went through his messages because I was suspicious, and he asked that same girl *Beth, when she was going to come to one of his house parties. I can never go to those because we have different days off.

 

Him: When are you going to come to one of my famous house parties?

Her: I want to go! But you live too far.

Him: Pretty please come to the one next week? For me? Heart Emoji.

Her: I don't know.

Him: I downloaded the playlist of your favorite songs. The one you texted me last week!

Her: Aww. I'll let you know.

 

She knows we're dating and she seems respectful towards it. I can tell by her plain messages. But HE'S the one who's overly flirtatious.

 

I've spoken to him about it twice. He does it with 2 girls we work with. *Lea, has a boyfriend and I KNOW she is NOT interested at all.

*Beth is single but she is respectful.

 

Should I break up with him? He's ignoring me at work and being overly flirtatious with our co-workers and it's humiliating. I really really like him. But it's hard because we work together!! How can I work beside someone I dumped and someone who will still flirt and maybe even date our coworker??

[elaine567]

He does not respect you one little bit.

I guess he was interested when it was all a secret but now he has lost interest in you.

I suggest you dump him before he dumps you. That, I guess would be very humiliating for you...

[PegNosePete]

Yeah I agree. He is completely disrespectful so I would dump him now while the work awkwardness isn't too bad. If you wait, this is going to end badly. It will make the working environment very hostile because you KNOW whose side of the story all these other girls are going to believe.

[Scarlett.O'hara]

He's not exactly being subtle about his interest in Beth, is he?

 

You may think it would be difficult work with someone you dumped now, but imagine how much more difficult it would be if you find out he has been seeing other coworkers behind your back and then rubbing it in your face day after day. Believe me, it happens.

 

His behavior is already making you feel uncomfortable at work so you have to carefully weigh up the pros and cons of continuing down a path that is already on shaky ground.

 

Personally, I would advise you to prioritize your job and a harmonious workplace over this relationship, but that has to be your decision.

[fred123]

Why did you keep him a secret for 2 months?

[usa1ah]

That's one way to end a relationship fast.

 

I just don't know what to say but leave him.

 

He should still be flirting with you. No one else.

[aileD]

Meh. Don't waste your time. If he's acting like this three months in he's not even worth it