so gutted Posted July 8, 2017 Share Posted July 8, 2017 Have any of you progressed beyond the second or third date from OLD? Even if you join a better site (match.com etc) you will still see that guy on Tinder with a horny version of his profile. I feel that they are very predatory, they just want one thing. They will disguise on one forum but reveal in another. Its not specific to any grouping. From high achievers to low, they all want the goods and want to do less to get them. Is this what there is out there? I don't want a sexual relationship, Link to post Share on other sites
guest569 Posted July 8, 2017 Share Posted July 8, 2017 2 relationships from tinder and 2 from other OLD sites. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted July 8, 2017 Share Posted July 8, 2017 I never progressed beyond 1 date from OLD, my choice. If OLD isn't working for you, get off OLD. IT's only 1 tool. People met & successfully coupled up for thousands of years before the advent of the internet. Try meeting people in real life. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted July 8, 2017 Share Posted July 8, 2017 I am in a 1,5 year relationship with a man I met on a regular dating site. Doesn't matter what men want, what is important is for you to know how to filter them. Don't go on dates with men at high risk of playing you. Don't meet men from outside of town. Don't go on dates with men that don't act like gentlemen with you. Don't go on dates with men that starts their communication with sexy, sweetie, gorgeous, honey etc. Keep it SIMPLE. Search for a simple man! that has a simple life! 5 Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted July 8, 2017 Share Posted July 8, 2017 I don't want a sexual relationship, You mean initially, right? Because if you don't want a sexual relationship at all, you will never find what you are looking for on these dating sites. If that is the case, you should be clear that you are looking for friendship. You should not be "dating." 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Ieris Posted July 8, 2017 Share Posted July 8, 2017 I haven't used OLD for many many years but I did meet one of my ex boyfriends on there. There were quite a few I could of pursued a relationship with, but I chose that one in the end. There are some good guys on there who are looking for something serious, you just have to weed out the horny ones. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted July 8, 2017 Share Posted July 8, 2017 Well, weeding out the horny ones pretty much eliminates all men, but at least just try to find the ones who have honorable intentions and a life plan and aren't ONLY out for quick sex. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Shining One Posted July 8, 2017 Share Posted July 8, 2017 I'm currently in a 3-year relationship with a woman I met on Match. We also had sex on the first date. I'll give a bit of insight into how I approach dating. Sometimes I'm looking for a relationship. Sometimes I'm looking for a casual fling. While searching for a relationship, I'm happy to have one-night-stands or brief flings along the way. Thus, a man having a profile on Tinder (for casual sex) is not in conflict with him having a profile on Match (for a relationship). Furthermore, while dating a woman and attempting to build a relationship, I may determine that she is not relationship material. From her point of view, it may appear that I was only after sex. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
joseb Posted July 9, 2017 Share Posted July 9, 2017 I don't want a sexual relationship, Then don't go on dating sites. You are wasting their time as well as yours. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
goldenlotus Posted July 9, 2017 Share Posted July 9, 2017 I read once that "women look for love and find sex along the way, men look for sex and find love". I think a lot of men and women want to have sex but they are open to more. I never sleep with anyone on the first date - no judgement for people who do, just a personal choice - because at that point I don't want an intimate experience with someone I may never hear from again. I inevitably feel rejected and angry with myself. If someone likes me enough, I'll see him again and there will be sex in the future. I never sleep with anyone who pressures me, I never go out with someone who is way too sexual at first. I focus on men who are legit trying to get to know me and are respectful of me and my boundaries. There are a lot of guys like that out there. So my advice would be to keep dating men but decide your personal boundaries and enforce them. Lots of men will be happy to get to know you and not push for sex until you are ready. Link to post Share on other sites
goldenlotus Posted July 9, 2017 Share Posted July 9, 2017 Oh, and if you mean that you don't want a sexual relationship at all, you have to spell that out in your profile, and go to forums specifically for people who want romantic relationships but not sexual ones. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
MidwestUSA Posted July 9, 2017 Share Posted July 9, 2017 Oh, and if you mean that you don't want a sexual relationship at all, you have to spell that out in your profile, and go to forums specifically for people who want romantic relationships but not sexual ones. I believe OP is in the 'wait till marriage' camp. Surely there's a site for that? Tinder isn't it. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted July 9, 2017 Share Posted July 9, 2017 If you don't want a sexual relationship, stop doing OLD. Just surround yourself with good friends. Link to post Share on other sites
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