PeanutButter88 Posted July 8, 2017 Share Posted July 8, 2017 My boyfriend is very close to his friends. We went for a 5 days vacations to his family vacation which is located in the middle of nowhere )(it's basically a super small village). Overhere there is like a main village that has one or two bars. To get there you can go by bike but the roads are not lit at all. So if you do not have lights you cannot see anything. If you do not know the way in darkness it is also super hard to find your way back. One night we wanted to go to the main village with his friends. I got mad at him because he waited 20 min for two of his friends to decide whether or not they wanted to come, making me and his other friends wait in the dark. I told him that we were annoyed by his behavior to which he replied: i cant let me friends bike around with no light and not knowing the way. We got in a heated argument. I told him I wanted to go back home but he insisted i went with him to the village. When we arrived i realized i couldn't stay and pretend all was fine (we had had our worst argument ever). I told him i was going to go back home. He just told me: fine just let me know when you get there. He knew well that: 1. I had no light, 2. Did not know the way. Now I am pissed at him because I feel that he treats his friends better than me. He was telling me that I should be able to wait 15/20 min for his friends. That he cannot let then go alone. But he had no issue leaving me go alone without knowing the way because "he was not going to leave his friends and make them wait 10 min" Since then I have troubles with this. I don't know how to cope with that. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted July 9, 2017 Share Posted July 9, 2017 When he was waiting for his friends, were you and your friends unsafe at all? If not, I think your argument over this was quite unnecessary. Sometimes we have to wait for friends....it's annoying but it's part of life. It certainly wasn't worth a huge argument. As for walking home in the dark, it wasn't ideal. But it was your choice to leave. How did you get home if you didn't know the way? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author PeanutButter88 Posted July 31, 2017 Author Share Posted July 31, 2017 Hi Basil Thanks for your reply. To give you more insight we spent 4 days waiting for these particular friends every time we would be doing something. Moreover these friends had the tendency to complain about everything and anything... and while my bf decides every time to wait for them i always ended up on my own waiting for him to wait for them. This is fine once, twice thrice but not 50 times in 4 days. How did i manage to go home? Using the light of my phone and what was left of my 6% battery life to figure out where i was. Maybe you are right and i should not have started an argument over this. But regardless of what happened, he still chose to take the time to wait for his friends and ensure they were safe (despite them being completely ungrateful to him waiting all the time and making all of us wait 10-15 min every time). However for me he decides that i could just go home on my own. I had as much knowledge of the way as his friends and yet this "i have to wait for them to ensure they are safe principle" never applied to me... Also we've been dating for almost 2y so I'm not even the kind of girl he jusst picked uo and barely knows... Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted July 31, 2017 Share Posted July 31, 2017 You shouldn't have been mad about waiting for his friends. I have a feeling it was because you resent his friends to begin with. He should not have left you to get home alone, of course. This is not a good match. Link to post Share on other sites
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