How to Keep Woman in a Friend Zone Without Hurting Relation?

[HotPepper]

It seems I am attracted to a good looking women that I hesitate to approach and attract women that I am not attracted to. Those are women that I would keep in a friend zone.

 

I don't want to hurt their feelings and ruin their hopes so I tend to not show interest and ignore them. I learned that it's great to have connections in life for potential opportunities etc. so I thought I may be missing something and that it's not always necessary to ignore those women. There could be a better way... But in order to keep those I must keep women that I am not attracted too.

 

How would I do that without hurting them and still remain their friend?

 

Thanks

[Redhead14]

It seems I am attracted to a good looking women that I hesitate to approach and attract women that I am not attracted to. Those are women that I would keep in a friend zone.

 

I don't want to hurt their feelings and ruin their hopes so I tend to not show interest and ignore them. I learned that it's great to have connections in life for potential opportunities etc. so I thought I may be missing something and that it's not always necessary to ignore those women. There could be a better way... But in order to keep those I must keep women that I am not attracted too.

 

How would I do that without hurting them and still remain their friend?

 

Thanks

 

ruin their hopes??? -- If you're ignoring them and not showing interest and they are clinging to hope, there's something wrong with them. You aren't doing them any favors by friend zoning them. Just leave them be if you know they want something more.

 

Most secure women know the difference between a man who wants friendship and one who is looking to develop a romantic relationship with them and most secure women won't accept friendship if they are hoping for more.

 

You don't try to manage a woman's emotions -- she needs to do that for herself.

[HotPepper]

ruin their hopes???

 

Ruining their expectations would be more correct. If I don't want relations to be more than a friend relations and woman still attempts to push it, then how do I respond without being rude? Do I calmly and politely tell it like it is i.e. that I want to remind friends or I have no feelings for her beyond friend?

[loverboy69]

I run into this problem with women all the time.

 

I'm a gay male and I hate losing great female friends over this but I've had girls accuse me of breaking their hearts and playing with them all because I was just (in my own words) being nice.

 

To the OP: I feel your pain man.

[HotPepper]

@loverboy69 Yeah. And even if you manage to keep them in a friend-zone, for some of them it will be harder to stay that way because there will still be that feeling of attraction or hope. I heard that in such cases it's best to not even friend-zone them but you won't really know until you do.

[TaylorW]

I think it depends on the woman. I'm in the same boat with a female friend who has feelings for me and it can become really messy, because they start to see signals of interest where there aren't any and then become frustrated because you are supposedly playing games. Then you can get a weird friendship thing with a lot of drama, because of the underlying frustration.

 

I would say it depends on the person but also on the level of interest. In either case, I would let them decide for themselves (except if you feel the friendship thing isn't working), because sometimes it can work. And having a lot of female friends is awesome