goldenlotus Posted July 12, 2017 Share Posted July 12, 2017 I just joined, and in the past day I have received maybe 50 messages...but all from men who are way too old, really unattractive, or a polar opposite to me. I searched for some matches and sent messages to 12 men. These have mostly all been read, but not responded to. The last time I joined Match, it was a similar experience. It's ok if I don't get responses to my messages - I've deleted a bunch of them myself because I wasn't attracted to the person. I'm probably above average when it comes to looks. I've dated average to attractive men, and I get attention when I go out. I have a ton of pics on my profile. Are a lot of men just messaging the most attractive women they see? What's your experience with Match? What about some other OLD sites? Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted July 12, 2017 Share Posted July 12, 2017 My match.com story is from about 5 years ago. I joined late on a Friday night and when I woke up the next morning, one of my 7 matches was the roommate of one of my college boyfriends. We ended up messaging and emailing for quite a while and developed a bond (he was way smarter than I had thought he was when I knew him in college!). We met once for dinner and talked forever and made out in the car and he was the worst kisser I've ever experienced. Funny thing was he told me at dinner that he's terrible at kissing and sex lol! We didn't have sex, but I can vouch for the kissing! Other than that, I can't really remember if I met anyone else from there. I think with Match there are a lot of messages at first when someone "new" comes on the scene, but then they taper off to like one or two every few days. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author goldenlotus Posted July 12, 2017 Author Share Posted July 12, 2017 That's hilarious!!! I can't believe he also told you he was really bad at that sort of thing! You know, the worse kisser I ever experience was a beautiful man who had done some modeling. He BIT. My lips were black and blue the next day and I didn't even know that could happen! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SwordofFlame Posted July 12, 2017 Share Posted July 12, 2017 Tried Match once and noticed it tends to skew older. I'm late 20s, almost 30 and had far more options on okcupid and the other free apps like Tinder, Bumble and Coffee Meets Bagel. Link to post Share on other sites
central Posted July 12, 2017 Share Posted July 12, 2017 I had very good experiences with match, but that was many years ago. I can't say how it is now, or if it has changed - or if how people use it has changed. Almost all of my many dates came from match, and my wife and I found each other there. I have friends who are currently using OKCupid, and having some success. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted July 12, 2017 Share Posted July 12, 2017 Tried Match once and noticed it tends to skew older. that's interesting. All my mid 30s - 40s friends claim it skews younger to the 20 somethings. Once you put it out there, you can't control who sees your Match profile or who responses. Although I didn't care for OLD & it's come a long way since I did it 10+ years ago I went with e-harmony because it was expensive & a giant time-consuming p.i.t.a. to fill out their questionnaire. I was more confident that only somebody who wanted a serious relationship, possibly marriage, as opposed to a hook up would go through all that trouble. Although the system matched me with quality people who "fit" me on paper, none of them got my motor running. Link to post Share on other sites
Author goldenlotus Posted July 12, 2017 Author Share Posted July 12, 2017 I'm currently on Bumble and OkCupid as well. I usually have a lot of matches and messages. I like OkC a lot, but I noticed that a lot of the men, who are the type of guy I usually date, weren't responding to me or messaging me. If I did get someone who was more my type in the looks department, he tended to not be a good match otherwise. I was inundated with messages from men I wasn't attracted to. I noticed the attractiveness of the men went up on Bumble (almost like attractive guys left OkC for Bumble), but I don't like that app because I can't find out enough about the guy to know if we would be a good match. I also tend to think that most men prefer to pursue women and, while they are always happy to be messaged, hold women they themselves pursue at a higher level. POF seemed to be have a lot of guys that were screwing around as well as not my type. I was on it years ago and no longer have an account. Lots of men on Tinder but all seemed to be looking for a hookup, so I disabled my account. Link to post Share on other sites
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