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[Maolya]

I fell hard for one of my sisters friends "Olga" and she keeps sending me this weird mixed signals that I don't know what they mean. But I'll I'll explain to you our story so you can get a better understanding.

So I met Olga through my sister and the night life in the city we both live in. It started as a cover to get this girl off me (I know it sounds cheesy but it was her idea). So she would pretend to be my date for the night so a girl I really disliked wouldn't approach me. After a while we both took the role too serious and started hooking up. After the first time it became a routine, we use always see each other Friday hook up and go home together, it was a great time.

 

But during that period I herd that she liked me and wasn't to sure what I wanted to do... so this carried on for 2-3 months until we all went back home to our home countries (myself the USA and she went back to the Ukraine). During our vacation she sent me a long message basically saying "that's she really liked me and that it was hurting her that we were going no where and she needed to move on if it wasn't going to lead to anything".

 

As soon as I got that message my feelings changed because I didn't want to loose her from my life.

 

So when we got back we didn't talk for maybe 2 max 3 weeks, until we saw each other in the club and the same thing happened, she then started texting and snapping constantly throughout the day (and this is when I really started to fall for her).

 

So time went by like that and I would ask her out a lot but usually in the club, she would reply very vague and tell me to do it sober.

 

So I came up with the idea to surprise her with flowers and an invitation to go out so I contacted her sister to help pick her favorite flowers and restaurant. On the flowers I wrote a note "the flowers represent how much you really mean to me, I hope you can join me for dinner Wednesday night"

 

But when they arrived it didn't go 100% planed, she said thank you and that they were supper thoughtful, that she didn't want to do it, because she waiting so long but she didn't want it to be awakard between us and she didn't want to loose me. Naturally I said it was fine, but it killed me inside.

 

I didn't talk to her for a couple of weeks until my graduation, we were going out with my sister and a couple friends and she asked if she could join, and texted me directly saying congratulations for graduating and we chatted a bit.

 

She later on met us at the club, in the club the attraction instantly came back I was drawn to her and she to me, we hanged out the majority of the night flirting and stuff, but I stopped myself from kissing her because I was still hurt about the flowers and wasn't 100% sure what her intentions were.

So we both went home alone that night.

 

My mom was in town because of my graduation so I had big dinner with my sister and her friends, surprisingly when I got to the restaurant there was my sister, Olga, and her sister all sitting with my mom. It was very weird for me because I still had such strong feelings for her and I had no idea how she felt.

 

Well anyway I had dinner with them and tried to make it as least awkward as I possibly could, nothing really happened we talked a bit but at the end she went to have drinks with my sister and I took my mother to her hotel.

 

So around 2 weeks passed, and my sister invited her to stay out our vacation home just outside the city, she told Olga that she will be home alone and that I will be there.

So Olga comes with her sister to the house, I take all 3 of them to one of my friends house that lives near to me and we start to drink, play games and talk.

This whole time Olga and I flirting touching each other hugging, I was so happy.

 

At the end of the night we go home, when everyone is in bed she sneaks into my bed and starts making out with me and it was supper passionate. She then stops to ask me "do you still love me?" I answered saying "Olga what do you want me to say?" I said this because I wasn't sure if she felt the same and I didn't want her to think that I think of her as much as I do, basically to protect myself from getting hurt.

She then just continued to kiss me. That carried on for a couple hours and we cuddled, until she sneaked but into her room. The next we acted supper relaxed and didn't kiss or do anything, so I'm not sure if what to think or do.

 

She left this week, I feel like I can still have a shot with her and I really want her to be mine. I just don't know what to do or what these signals mean.

 

I don't know what I should do now... if I should call her, text, wait till I see her.

 

I'm so confused I just know I do have feelings for her I just don't know if I should act or move on.

 

Thank you for reading

[Ariadne]

Hi,

 

I think your time with Olga has passed.

 

You had some good times with her, but now you are romantically involved and she isn´t.

 

It seems like she wants to distance herself from you, but at the same time enjoys the fact that you like her. Like in the vacation home.

 

You´ll get over.

[Superchicken]

Dude, you have to do what you want to do.

But before its too late, and, like myself, I cant even tell what she wants. No man knows what a women wants.

They found it easier to decipher hieroglyphics than trying to figure out a women's thought train.

 

Anyway, me, I would make an all out attempt to win her.

 

 

None of this crappy tender talk rubbish.

Dude, show a little manhood, and get the answers you need to make a decision whether to get involved with her, or just have fun.

She can be the worst nightmare for you, or the greatest partner in your life.

Straight forward hard questions..

 

 

She obviously likes you, or she wouldn't have spent any time with you.

So you have that going for you.

 

 

 

 

Ted.

[preraph]

She acts like she likes you but the one thing she's said is "if it's going nowhere," which I suppose means "are we getting married," which is of course premature. I'm afraid she may be just trying to find someone she can marry right away and maybe move to the US? Has there been any discussion that she is trying to move to the US? Or is she just frustrated because you both don't live in the same country so she can't see how it can be a real relationship? Beware of the first but just keep your ears open and try to figure out what she's really angling for. Why not just ask her: What would be the ideal situation for you? That way, if she says that you move to live where she lives, at least you'd know she's not just looking for a visa. If she says for her to come US to live, then you'd still have to question her motives.