He gave me HPV

[BaileyB]

Or your husband has passed it onto you and isn't aware that he has this. Maybe he's having an affair as well. Either way now the truth has to come out.

 

It would've been easier if you had posted this info (that you were married) in your opening post.

 

Exactly, her husband could have given her HPV and for all she knows, she gave it to mm and his wife. You may never know.

[reboot]

Ok everyone has HPV and most of the time it's not a big deal. (I don't literally mean everyone, it's just really common). It's impossible to tell if MM was responsible for it but it's definitely not serious enough to contact him about it. Trust me, you'll be fine.

 

If you'd like more personal information and my experience, feel free to message me.

 

Not everyone is fine. Some women, and even occasionally men, get cancer from it. Just because you're fine doesn't mean everyone will be. I have a very good friend that got cervical cancer from HPV (that her cheating husband gave her).

[Whoknew30]

You don't know if he's cheated before or has another OW on the side.

 

Obviously you were clean before this so it had to come from him. Or maybe his wife is having an affair too his wife and gave him something which he passed on to you.

 

You owe him the truth. There's a chance he has no idea. It would be pretty crappy (and illegal I think) to have sex with you knowing full well he has an STD.

 

This is completely false...medically speaking. HPV can take years to show, you can get it as a teen & it may not show until one is middle aged & then you can show it in one pap & not the next.

 

Reading this post has completely flabbergasted me that so many sexual active adults really are so uneducated about STD's. HPV really isn't that bad unless you have one of the 4 that are cancer causing, there are 100's of different strands of HPV, of one has had a simple wart, you have HPV on your system.

[lostgirl87]

Not everyone is fine. Some women, and even occasionally men, get cancer from it. Just because you're fine doesn't mean everyone will be. I have a very good friend that got cervical cancer from HPV (that her cheating husband gave her).

Omg. MOST of the time people are fine. HPV does not automatically mean cancer or warts or anything like that. Better?

[lostgirl87]

This is completely false...medically speaking. HPV can take years to show, you can get it as a teen & it may not show until one is middle aged & then you can show it in one pap & not the next.

 

Reading this post has completely flabbergasted me that so many sexual active adults really are so uneducated about STD's. HPV really isn't that bad unless you have one of the 4 that are cancer causing, there are 100's of different strands of HPV, of one has had a simple wart, you have HPV on your system.

Seriously. It's scary how misinformed people are lol

[stillafool]

Omg. MOST of the time people are fine. HPV does not automatically mean cancer or warts or anything like that. Better?

 

"Most of the time" would not be a big enough guarantee for me. This stuff is nothing to play with and no one wants to end up with a nasty disease.

[reboot]

Omg. MOST of the time people are fine. HPV does not automatically mean cancer or warts or anything like that. Better?

 

Yes much better thanks.

[elaine567]

Sexually transmitted HPV types fall into two categories:

 

• Low-risk HPVs, which do not cause cancer but can cause skin warts (technically known as condylomata acuminata) on or around the genitals and anus. For example, HPV types 6 and 11 cause 90% of all genital warts. HPV types 6 and 11 also cause recurrent respiratory papillomatosis, a less common disease in which benign tumors grow in the air passages leading from the nose and mouth into the lungs.
  
• High-risk HPVs, which can cause cancer. About a dozen high-risk HPV types have been identified. Two of these, HPV types 16 and 18, are responsible for most HPV-caused cancers (2, 3).
  

Which cancers are caused by HPV?

High-risk HPVs cause several types of cancer.

 

• Cervical cancer: Virtually all cases of cervical cancer are caused by HPV, and just two HPV types, 16 and 18, are responsible for about 70% of all cases (7, 8).
  
• Anal cancer: About 95% of anal cancers are caused by HPV. Most of these are caused by HPV type 16.
  
• Oropharyngeal cancers (cancers of the middle part of the throat, including the soft palate, the base of the tongue, and the tonsils): About 70% of oropharyngeal cancers are caused by HPV. In the United States, more than half of cancers diagnosed in the oropharynx are linked to HPV type 16 (9).
  
• Rarer cancers: HPV causes about 65% of vaginal cancers, 50% of vulvar cancers, and 35% of penile cancers (10). Most of these are caused by HPV type 16.
  

High-risk HPV types cause approximately 5% of all cancers worldwide (11). In the United States, high-risk HPV types cause approximately 3% of all cancer cases among women and 2% of all cancer cases among men (12).

 

https://www.cancer.gov/about-cancer/causes-prevention/risk/infectious-agents/hpv-fact-sheet

[BaileyB]

"Most of the time" would not be a big enough guarantee for me. This stuff is nothing to play with and no one wants to end up with a nasty disease.

 

If you've had more than one sexual partner, you probably already have it...

[Mycatsnuggles]

First the educational portion of my post. From my understanding currently there is not test for men to determine hpv status, women are routinely checked during the Pap test as hpv is the usual cause of cervical cancer. The Pap test is checking for cervical cancer.

 

Hpv is the most common std. approximately 80% of sexually active people have Hpv. Generally there are no sysmptoms, unless you have "genital warts" which is one strain of hpv, there are over 100 strains.

 

HPV CAN BE TRANSMITTED EVEN WHEN A CONDOM IS USED!

 

Hpv is a virus that once infected with you have for life, but like a virus it can be dormant for years and often has few if any symptoms.

 

As to me. I had along term affair with a mm, I am a mw. We discussed sexually history and std's, we used condoms. Did I believe everything he told me, no why I used condoms. I was shook when I posted the first time. I really didn't expect practical advice but it surprises me the ignorance of some people. As soon as the doctor told me I began educating myself and have since had a second conversation with my doctor to gain an understanding of hpv and the potential harm.

 

I have no "proof" it was mm. He is the only other man besides my h. I was actually thinking of his w. Knowing they are trying to conceive. But now I realize she would have been tested by her dr and is potentially going thru her own little hell addressing this. I don't need to intervene in their lives and bring more drama. Maybe my inclination even came from a obscure want of mm's comfort. My logic has returned and I won't be emailing or contacting. It would serve no purpose but to reconnect with someone I shouldn't. Mm is not a bad person, I am not blaming him. I take responsibility for my choices. I was angry at him at first, I was definitely shocked I was exposed to hpv. I do not have aids or herpes, or any other std. I have hpv and most likely you do too.

[skywriter]

It's a schock my mind hasn't quite comprehended yet. Did he know he had it? I know it's possible he didn't know, does his wife have it? I assume yes unless he reall told the truth about limited sex and condoms always. We talked about histories and std's. --- So now what? Anyone have experience with hpv. Waiting for my biopsy results and thinking I should tell him. I don't like the idea of sending an email but I believe this is the best way. Gives him an opportunity to think of the answer he wasn't to provide not just the standard denial. Does it even matter - most likely the denial will come followed by the claim that I'm a ******** who brought this in. I don't have my biopsy results yet I get a chance. To tell ap or no.

 

My karma go ahead and gloat. But I'm hoping a few have practical advices

 

 

Mycatsnuggles,

 

I'm sorry for what you are going through, but you were smart for going to the

dr. My daughters best friend, in high school, had sex with a long time friend of hers and lost her virginity to him, consequently, she contracted the genital warts. This was life altering for her. Since then, she has graduated high school, went on to college, gone into the medical field for her career and is now engaged to a wonderful young man.

 

The practical advice I'd give you, would be, this could be a turning point to bow out of this A. If you are married as I've been reading in others post, make some decisions, with your spouse on the future of your relationship.

 

By the way, the young man that my daughters friend contracted the hpv virus from told her, he knew he had it, but didn't feel inclined to share the information with her.

 

Take care.

[Ahurtgirl]

Hpv doesn't only happen in affairs. Teens dating get it also. They have vaccinations for it now which tells you it has become an epidemic. Most people probably have it at this point.

[BTDT2012]

Hpv doesn't only happen in affairs. Teens dating get it also. They have vaccinations for it now which tells you it has become an epidemic. Most people probably have it at this point.

 

I've been tested and don't have HPV. A friend of mine had HPV show up on a PAP smear and she has been celibate for 10 years.