Does a hug mean anything?

[CarbonCopy]

Are you friendly with his wife as well? Meaning see her on occasion too. If not, and you say you've been in that situation before, why even bother hanging out with him? Even more so since you have some feelings for him. He knows you're interested and is flirting. He may be testing to see how far he can cross the lines, testing YOUR boundaries to see what he can or can't get away with.

 

It really is up to you how this plays out from now on.

 

I am not friendly with her. She knows of me because of mutual friends but I don't think she knows he and I are friends.

[CarbonCopy]

How long have you known him? Why is the friendship so important to you? It isn't purely platonic on your end and he knows you "like" him so the hugging you three times (because you let him) and as you said "wrapped yourself around him tightly" he isn't stupid, he read the signals you were giving him (the green light).

 

I have male friends and I don't hug them 3 times, let alone wrap myself tightly around their body. You two are playing with fire. I think you know this otherwise you wouldn't be posting here.

 

If you lose the friendship it'll be because you two end up getting too involved/too emotionally attached or even make out and take it too far....

 

Does his wife know of your friendship with him?

 

We've been talking for almost two years now? It's not like we physically see each other often but we text a lot. He has always said he wouldn't cheat and I believe him.

[basil67]

We've been talking for almost two years now? It's not like we physically see each other often but we text a lot. He has always said he wouldn't cheat and I believe him.

 

Two years talking. His wife doesn't know about your friendship. A friendship which is very important to you. And now he's giving full body hugs.

 

Oh yes, all sounds totally innocent <sarcasm>

[MuddyFootprints]

There is a difference between a friendly hug and an intimate embrace.

 

I'm a hugger. (always with a warning...I'm coming at ya, beware I probably stink and am covered in dirt!)

 

I embrace my spouse. He doesn't get a warning. He likes my stink, though.

[whichwayisup]

I am not friendly with her. She knows of me because of mutual friends but I don't think she knows he and I are friends.

Don't you find it odd? I mean imagine if you were married and your husband was secretly texting and spending time with another woman that you barely knew, was texting her often and hugging her... I'm sure you wouldn't be pleased at all.

 

Most married people don't have secret hidden friendships from their spouses. It only leads to trouble and I'm very surprised that you don't see what's coming around the corner... You're single yet investing and spending time with a man who is your so called friend (in what sense is he your friend? What does he provide for you?) and married, never really met his wife and she's unaware of how much contact you have with him.

 

We've been talking for almost two years now? It's not like we physically see each other often but we text a lot. He has always said he wouldn't cheat and I believe him.

 

Says the man who hasn't formally introduced you to his wife....

 

And, you've been down this road before, it's shocking you don't see the red flags CC!

 

Why do you believe him? Just because he says he wouldn't cheat doesn't mean he won't. (Hence the 3 hugs and him allowing you to wrap yourself around his body...Platonic friends don't do that)

[CarbonCopy]

Don't you find it odd? I mean imagine if you were married and your husband was secretly texting and spending time with another woman that you barely knew, was texting her often and hugging her... I'm sure you wouldn't be pleased at all.

 

Most married people don't have secret hidden friendships from their spouses. It only leads to trouble and I'm very surprised that you don't see what's coming around the corner... You're single yet investing and spending time with a man who is your so called friend (in what sense is he your friend? What does he provide for you?) and married, never really met his wife and she's unaware of how much contact you have with him.

 

 

 

Says the man who hasn't formally introduced you to his wife....

 

And, you've been down this road before, it's shocking you don't see the red flags CC!

 

Why do you believe him? Just because he says he wouldn't cheat doesn't mean he won't. (Hence the 3 hugs and him allowing you to wrap yourself around his body...Platonic friends don't do that)

 

Yes, I have been in this situation before and it was totally different. He and I are not making plans, sneaking around to see each other. We hardly ever see each other in person - it's usually texting and occasionally a phone call. We were talking on a public street practically in front of his job. We hugged. We weren't making out or doing anything sexually inappropriate. I consider him a friend because I enjoy talking to him and he's a good person. Are we best friends? No. But I'm happy to have met him. Obviously he and I flirt jokingly and he has made jokes sometimes about my crush but he's never done anything to make me think he'd actually cheat with me.

[stillafool]

Yes, I have been in this situation before and it was totally different. He and I are not making plans, sneaking around to see each other. We hardly ever see each other in person - it's usually texting and occasionally a phone call. We were talking on a public street practically in front of his job. We hugged. We weren't making out or doing anything sexually inappropriate. I consider him a friend because I enjoy talking to him and he's a good person. Are we best friends? No. But I'm happy to have met him. Obviously he and I flirt jokingly and he has made jokes sometimes about my crush but he's never done anything to make me think he'd actually cheat with me.

 

I hope that YOU would not enter another affair with a MM. Knowing you have a crush on this guy and still texting with him is wrong. He is not really your friend or you would be friendly with his wife as well. I would think you would do everything in your power to stay away from situations like this and devote your mind space to single men.

[Novz]

And by hug I mean tight, full body hugs, my chest (boobs) pressed against his. I couldn't help myself and wrapped my arms around his back. Was this totally inappropriate on both our parts?

 

But he is unavailable. Perhaps, not giving a meaning to it will save you from ache later

[CarbonCopy]

I hope that YOU would not enter another affair with a MM. Knowing you have a crush on this guy and still texting with him is wrong. He is not really your friend or you would be friendly with his wife as well. I would think you would do everything in your power to stay away from situations like this and devote your mind space to single men.

 

I wouldn't. Trust me, I've had opportunities. I think I'm permanently scarred by everything that happened in the past. My mind space is devoted to single men. I just found the whole thing out of character for him, which is why I posted.

[GunslingerRoland]

In general, no, hugs mean nothing. But these hugs do sound like they meant something.

[knabe]

if you aren't going to cheat, then there's no need to let tghis take up head space. Just stop thinking about it.

[don't talk to me]

A hug is conscious body contact with someone. If you did a full body hug 3 times I suppose you are both very attracted, at least physically. Careful not to get your heart broken!

[I AM HERE]

Just based on the fact that it was out of the norm for one hug and he initiated 3, yes it was inappropriate. He was probably having some relationship issues at the time and wanted to feel close to a woman that he knows wants him. Try to help yourself next time. But there is nothing wrong with hugs, though not the pressed bodied one you described.

[basil67]

Yes, I have been in this situation before and it was totally different. He and I are not making plans, sneaking around to see each other. We hardly ever see each other in person - it's usually texting and occasionally a phone call. We were talking on a public street practically in front of his job. We hugged. We weren't making out or doing anything sexually inappropriate. I consider him a friend because I enjoy talking to him and he's a good person. Are we best friends? No. But I'm happy to have met him. Obviously he and I flirt jokingly and he has made jokes sometimes about my crush but he's never done anything to make me think he'd actually cheat with me.

 

And yet his wife doesn't know about you. If it's all so innocent, why hide it from her?

[CarbonCopy]

And yet his wife doesn't know about you. If it's all so innocent, why hide it from her?

 

I don't know? I guess you're right, if he's hiding our friendship with her then there's something inherently wrong. But like I said, he's never done anything to make me think he'd cheat? Not that we've actually been alone together much before.

[whichwayisup]

I don't know? I guess you're right, if he's hiding our friendship with her then there's something inherently wrong. But like I said, he's never done anything to make me think he'd cheat? Not that we've actually been alone together much before.

 

Either way, YOU have feelings for him and are already beginning to read into stuff he does (and soon stuff he will say). It complicates things as you know now.

 

Ask him if you can meet his wife, all of you get together and go for lunch. (Lunch is more casual) Watch his reaction.

[Mysterio]

Men and Women can only be friends if there is a Brother/Sister. Aunt /Nephew. Father/Daughter. Mother/Son vibe to the relationship. I have a friend that is 66 to my 46. She is smoking hot to me. Its hard just even giving her a hug and kiss hello and goodbye.

 

We know there is a little bit of sexual tension between us. We just play off as a fun vibe. I even told her a long time ago that I was sexually attracted to her. She seemed delighted and said she know that already.

 

To honest. Its hard being friends with the opposite sex. I always want more of a romantic vibe with a woman. My female friends are great, but its hard for me to aquire more if the situation arises. I am more like women that come into my life are more aquintaces now. I can't handle just being friends with any new woman that comes into my life.