what456 Posted August 8, 2005 Share Posted August 8, 2005 why is it that some guys, when they approach you, are scared to look at you? they talk to you but are looking some place else.....? Link to post Share on other sites
Horse Posted August 8, 2005 Share Posted August 8, 2005 Because they are shy. or You are hot and it intimidates them. or you are really ugly and they can't stand to look at you. Link to post Share on other sites
loony Posted August 8, 2005 Share Posted August 8, 2005 Originally posted by what456 why is it that some guys, when they approach you, are scared to look at you? they talk to you but are looking some place else.....? Um, they are shy and nervous and that's why they avoid looking at you directly? What's so difficult about this to understand? Link to post Share on other sites
Blackfrost Posted August 8, 2005 Share Posted August 8, 2005 most likely has to do with confidence level in the guy. The cocky guys will stare ya down, the shyer ones, will usually avert their stares. It's doesn't mean they aren't equally as interested in talking to you, they just lack a bit of self confidence, which they will gain in time, as they get more used to you. Link to post Share on other sites
loony Posted August 8, 2005 Share Posted August 8, 2005 Originally posted by Horse you are really ugly and they can't stand to look at you. They wouldn't be talking to her if she was ugly. But I know that you attempted to make a joke. Link to post Share on other sites
loony Posted August 8, 2005 Share Posted August 8, 2005 Originally posted by Blackfrost The cocky guys will stare ya down What? Stare me down? Help! Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted August 8, 2005 Share Posted August 8, 2005 Originally posted by what456 why is it that some guys, when they approach you, are scared to look at you? they talk to you but are looking some place else.....? cause they have little confidence with women or little sexual confidence. does not mean they don't have confidence in other areas in life... I had a lawyer friend a number of yrs ago who could go into a courtroom and come off as totally confident but when it came to asking women out on a date or chatting them up he would fall flat on his face.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author what456 Posted August 8, 2005 Author Share Posted August 8, 2005 well, this has happened to me a few times. My ex does this alot. when i see him he will be really nice and talk but avoid looking at me and he acts really shy even though i have known him for quite some time! this has also happened to me yesterday at a wedding where i kind of know this one guy and he approached me but couldn't look at me. it was weird... both guys are really goodlooking! but when guys do that...it seems as though they are uninterested ..... Link to post Share on other sites
Marshbear32 Posted August 8, 2005 Share Posted August 8, 2005 Some people are just uncomfortable looking at someone and will give you the evasive glances and roaming eyes. I absolutely hate a girl who can't look at me when she is talking. It is a deal breaker to me. I guess it is one of my pet peeves. I can't take it. If he used to look at you and then he can't look you in the eye it could mean he is hiding something and feels guilty. Or maybe you have a really big rack and he just can't get is eyes off of them. Link to post Share on other sites
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted August 8, 2005 Share Posted August 8, 2005 Horse hit all three nails on the head. I went to a walk-in clinic and the doctor would not look at me when he spoke. It was weird. I cant look my exH in the eye.....GUILT. Link to post Share on other sites
Author what456 Posted August 8, 2005 Author Share Posted August 8, 2005 so, you think he was guilty...about what? Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted August 8, 2005 Share Posted August 8, 2005 Sometimes I do this on purpose to avoid bonding with people. Or maybe I'm just shy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author what456 Posted August 8, 2005 Author Share Posted August 8, 2005 why though..why would someone go out of their way and talk to you then...simply not just look at you...i hate guys. i am not the one apporching them..it's them.... Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted August 8, 2005 Share Posted August 8, 2005 Originally posted by what456 why is it that some guys, when they approach you, are scared to look at you? they talk to you but are looking some place else.....? Who really knows the real reason why. Could be shyness or socially not comfortable in that particular setting. Maybe a bad day or a something else. Making eye contact for some is extremely difficult and when you see someone doing that, make them feel more at ease, maybe that could help them feel more comfy around you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author what456 Posted August 8, 2005 Author Share Posted August 8, 2005 it's funny because my friends and I were at a party and they told me the whole night that he was staring at me..non-stop. but when he came up to me to talk to me....he wouldn't look at me...like he would look else where. i also heard that he was talking to another girl (he hardly knew) and was talking to her normally....but with me he was shy.... this guy is weird. Link to post Share on other sites
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted August 8, 2005 Share Posted August 8, 2005 Originally posted by what456 so, you think he was guilty...about what? no, I meant ME. I am the one full of guilt. I cheated. Link to post Share on other sites
MadManMike Posted August 9, 2005 Share Posted August 9, 2005 from what i have read, I would say you are probably hot looking or your dress emphasis your upper anatomical development or both. Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted August 9, 2005 Share Posted August 9, 2005 it's funny because my friends and I were at a party and they told me the whole night that he was staring at me..non-stop. but when he came up to me to talk to me....he wouldn't look at me...like he would look else where. Given your past posts on this guy, I think its purely a matter of him still finding you objectively attractive (him staring at you) but making sure he keeps you at a firm distance from him (refusing eye contact). Link to post Share on other sites
Author what456 Posted August 9, 2005 Author Share Posted August 9, 2005 That's odd... I wonder why he would keep me at a firm distance....we have talked many, many, times before. Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted August 9, 2005 Share Posted August 9, 2005 I can tell from your posts that he talks to you. I can also tell that he is very careful about keeping you at an emotional distance, too. You can talk to someone every day, but still hold them at a distance emotionally. Your strict adherence to your virginity in light of knowing that his primary interest in sex might have something to do with it. (I'm not saying that keeping your virginity is a bad thing - its just that it isn't what he has in mind, therefore he will constantly keep his options somewhat open in case you change your mind, but that doesn't mean he wants a relationship with you - it sounds like he just wants the chance to take your virginity). Remember this? Originally posted by what456 If a man wanted you for sex and you called him out on it...would he ever call you back? like you thought you were friends..before but only found out it was a sex thing.... Link to post Share on other sites
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