Sleeping in different bedrooms

[whichwayisup]

My family is pretty upset about my decision, saying I'm being childish and that I'm making a mistake. But they're not the ones in my situation. The thing with his ex been going on for far too long. He'd always apologize, say he doesn't want her and wants to be with me, saying he's not cheating but yet he can't completely cut her off. So I'd always "forgive" him and we'd act like nothing happened till it happens again. Like i said we've never slept apart for the past 3-4 years, and I don't know what sleeping in different bedrooms will change but I'm not trying to be disrespected like this. I'm sure he wouldn't like if i was doing what he's doing.

Your family isn't the one marrying him! Do they know the details and how much he's hurting you? If they are aware of this and still want you to marry him then there's something very wrong with them. no offense....

 

 

At this point I don't know what i should do next.

Do i talk to him, do i wait for him to talk to me first?

I'm just pretty upset about the whole situation and feeling depressed especially about the wedding

 

Lay it out for him and be honest. That you don't want a life with someone you can't trust and goes against his word. You deserve a man who will adore you and treat you with love and respect.

[Bufo]

Congrats are in order no matter that they may seem inappropriate now when the cancellation is so recent. Does your family know exactly why you cancelled? If a wedding or saving social face is more important to them than keeping you safe from a cheating husband, all I can do is ask you how it feels to be the adult in your family. Besides in my opinion, weddings are like Cinderella's ball --over with a poof at midnight. (Yes I'm a man). The rest if your life goes on for better or worse as the saying goes .

 

Have you had the needed serious talk with him yet? You shouldn't delay too long or you might find yourself drifting back to the relationship you had when you moved in together. Not a good place to be.

 

I would also suggest that you start exploring alternate living arrangements. Unless you want to play detective for an indeterminate length of time which most posters who did that would agree it isn't a good place for a relationship and absolutely no fun.

 

One more thought. Don't expect your parents to fund another wedding. That's called a necessary consequence of what has just happened. I know it's expensive to cancel, but it's cheaper than a divorce.