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What would make you give someone a second chance?


Littlebird95

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Littlebird95

Hey guys,

 

Im not actually in a spot where I want a second chance with my ex, because i dont think there is any chance at it and even if there was any, I'm not sure I would try it.

 

But I was wondering what make you guys give someone a second chance? Is it if you feel the person has changed? Is it just a better timing in life? Is it just time telling you this person is the one?

 

I was just kinda curious about that. I mean, every break up occurs for a reason, but why would you go the opposite?

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I'd like to see a person:

 

1) Take responsibility for their actions and place in life. Just own it without blaming anything or anybody. Without making excuses.

 

2) Correct the behavior that caused the breakup. I'd be even more impressed if they were working to improve other areas of their life also.

 

3) Treat me exceptionally well.

 

Do those three things and I would consider taking a person back.

 

The bottom line is I just want to be treated well. Or I'd rather be alone.

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CautiouslyOptimistic

At this point in my life, nothing. Been there, done that, got the T-shirt and burned it.

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My ex-h promised all kinds of change when I left him. I didn't believe him capable of the changes....and I was just done with him anyway.

 

Had he proved me wrong and become a changed man, he would have discovered that I'd already moved on.

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I second that. Been there a couple of times and the second go around is always an extension of the first go around. The same problems that were there are still there.

And if you try to work it out with someone who cheated on you will always be suspicious of anything they do.

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I gave someone a second chance in my younger days ...I wouldn't do it now. Not worth it.

 

My kids are old enough to cope with a split if it came to that.

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