Feel like I've just been used for the first time in my life.

[Xiomn]

I just started talking to this girl on a dating website and after chatting for a bit we decided to meet up (in the space of 24 hours after first chatting). I was surprised how quick she wanted to meet up but I personally favour meeting up ASAP anyway because I hate just constantly messaging online.

 

Anyway she stays over at mine for 2 days and we have sex. We were both talking adamantly how we are looking for something serious and hate the whole one night stand kinda stuff that goes on nowadays prior to meeting etc. I was surprised she wanted to have sex too because she told me about how she had been sexually abused when she was younger and suffered from bad anxiety her whole life and all that stuff, typical damaged girl story. In was surprise she wanted to meet so soon too because of this same reason.

 

After the 2 days she stayed over I wanted my own space so when she asked about when she can next see me I said the weekend, giving me 3 days to chill without her.

Over these days she's messaging me typical clingy girl fashion asking how I am all the time how was work saying she cannot wait to spend time with me over the weekend and all love dovy stuff. Telling me how I was the one and how she thought it was going Well, all sorts.

 

Weekend comes and I do a bit of curious digging into her Facebook profile from a friends account only to find she has a post on there from a few days before we met saying she has her boyfriend coming over to visit her and found out she has a fairly new relationship status on there too with a guy.

 

I noticed she wasn't messaging me like she normally would do on weekend and being a bit funny. By this point I had the knowledge she was with someone already and I was pretending I didn't know to see if she came out and told me the truth. Messaged her asking if shes still up for the stuff we planned for today and all of a sudden she blocks and deletes me on all social media except Facebook which I didn't have her on it.

 

 

Never been taken for a mug like that before I'm just so shocked even though i only knew her for a few days not even a week. Wow.

[d0nnivain]

I'm sorry she used you to cheat on her BF.

 

 

I suppose the only silver lining is you found out early. Be done with her & move on.

[Chilli]

Yeah , not good l'm afraid.

The fact that she stayed so easily and so soon alone had warning bells all over it sorry to say.

So none of the rest is any surprise really, she's messed up.

[JuneJulySeptember]

I'm sorry she used you to cheat on her BF.

 

 

I suppose the only silver lining is you found out early. Be done with her & move on.

 

Is that what she was up to?

 

I couldn't even tell from the story.

 

So evil...

[elaine567]

I was surprised she wanted to have sex too because she told me about how she had been sexually abused when she was younger and suffered from bad anxiety her whole life and all that stuff, typical damaged girl story.

 

Promiscuity (and sex addiction) is very common in those who have been sexually abused when young.

Triggered by years of sexual abuse at the hands of her stepfather, she relentlessly sought the attention of men to quell the residual pain of sexual trauma. “[i used] everything at my disposal to try to keep myself from feeling bad,” she says. “Like a shark who must constantly swim to stay alive, I would move from relationships to relationship … wanting to find that place that would make me feel like a safe little girl again

https://www.bridgestorecovery.com/blog/childhood-sexual-abuse-and-hypersexuality-how-trauma-informs-sex-addiction/#sthash.1lX6LBa0.dpbs