Zerkaa Posted July 29, 2017 Share Posted July 29, 2017 The one for me that was the worst was with a girl for six weeks , she wasn't over her ex and that became quickly clear so I left. Link to post Share on other sites
Grumpybutfun Posted July 30, 2017 Share Posted July 30, 2017 I had to think about this. My worst was a girl in college who just used me for sex only. She was quite angry with guys who hurt her but was beautiful so I gave her a chance. I learned to guard my body and my heart like the Great Wall of China. Hurt people are the meanest people. She was unable to differentiate between a good person and a bad one and that was not my fault. G 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gr8fuln2020 Posted July 30, 2017 Share Posted July 30, 2017 My recent ex. Gorgeous. Professional. And damaged. Didn't find out until I had invested way too much into her. She was also still 'stuck' on her ex. No cheating in the traditional sense, but she continued to think it was a good idea to remain in contact with an abuser (both physical and mental) and user. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Steve51 Posted July 30, 2017 Share Posted July 30, 2017 I had three bad ones. The first was a live in girlfriend who walked in on me and my three friends asking us to gang bang her. The other was a girl I had oral sex with and then found out she is married. No ring, no mark on her finger and no mention of a husband until he showed up angry. Plus my ex fiance cheated on me with a friend of mine while I was overseas engaged in combat. That is always welcome news when you are staying alive by thinking of the girl you love and want to go back to. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted July 30, 2017 Share Posted July 30, 2017 Although the relationship had some good points, I suppose my worst relationship was with my last EX. He was bipolar & a real handful when he was off his meds. His EX was a drama queen who was screaming on my lawn one day. Eventually I discovered he lied to me about his divorce; it had gotten postponed again but he told me it was entered. I broke up with him for lying. I was calm & quiet when I told him to leave. I actually had to give him $500 to get him out of my house because he was chronically unemployed & couldn't afford to move. He committed suicide about 2 years later after a flight with his new GF, when he was off his meds. He left behind a then 18 year old son but never did manage to finalize his divorce. The whole thing was a mess. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
wmacbride Posted July 30, 2017 Share Posted July 30, 2017 My worst was my first long term relationship. He was extremely abusive, and I , being a kid with zero self esteem and also very naive, I didn't see it until it was too late. Link to post Share on other sites
Shanex Posted July 30, 2017 Share Posted July 30, 2017 My first relationship lasted about 4 months with a not-so-attractive girl, we were 18 year old, she loved me when I was getting my wallet out, despite not being so wealthy at the time. The only thing she offered to me was an ashtray which isn't much in use anymore as a non-smoker. I invited her countless times to not so bad restaurants, good wines and things. Oh pot too of course. Took a bit for then naive me to understand I was used for money and sex too. A gold digger bum-chum in short. Last I heard she is living the good life in Oz, and has dragged in some chump. Link to post Share on other sites
dichotomy Posted July 30, 2017 Share Posted July 30, 2017 (edited) Between marriages I got involved with a divorced woman with boy who had cancer. We both had ex spouse who cheated and hurt us - and she had her sick boy. All around neither one of us was ready/healthy for a relationship - but I was kind and supportive (what she needed) and she was very pretty and interested - and looking for a father figure for her son (what I needed). Her son passed away shortly after we got involved, and within a week of that - she ghosted me and remarried her ex. I was hurt again for another few months by her actions - and it delayed my healing on relationships. She quickly had another son with her husband (makes sense) and divorced again in 4 years. More "the most sad" - then "the worst" I guess. Both of my marriages have been very difficult for me.Take too long to describe those. Edited July 30, 2017 by dichotomy 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted July 30, 2017 Share Posted July 30, 2017 You know, I have been thinking about this since the post went up and am surprised to say I still haven't thought of anything all that bad. The only one I feel really bad about it the one I was going to have to break up with because he was too smothering, but a nice guy. And got a phone call from a casual bf of six months prior who I really connected with and who I had been worried about because his last communique had been depressed (long distance). Me and the smotherer weren't exclusive as far as I knew but for not being able to get him off me long enough to go to the ladies' room, but anyway, it hurt him, me talking to the guy and he stormed off. But what he didn't know is I was going to have to do it soon anyway. I feel bad about it though. He didn't deserve to be hurt -- but then it's rare anyone really deserves to be hurt and yet most of us are eventually. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted July 30, 2017 Share Posted July 30, 2017 My marriage. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
MonkeyLogic Posted July 30, 2017 Share Posted July 30, 2017 Worst was my ex. Most likely BPD. Or at least symptoms thereof. But worst generally = women with bad childhoods or male role models growing up. And not surprisingly, women that had wonderful fathers have been my best relationships!! Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted July 31, 2017 Share Posted July 31, 2017 When I first saw this thread my intention was to come in here and share my story about my failed marriage. I don't think I will. It suddenly occurs to me that any crappy girl I dated, my cheating ex-wife, anyone that might qualify for a thread like this, at one point, they meant something to me, and I think I meant something to them. Relationships are hard and we are all human. I'm glad I met everyone that I did and I wouldn't change a thing. I'm glad I met my exH too because I love my children but our children are about the nicest thing he ever did for me. His next wife had it worse. She saw our two kids, six and seven at the time, and must've wanted babies of her own because she had a nursery set up for a few years. They're divorced now but I doubt he ever did tell her he had a vasectomy after our daughter was born. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Wookin Pa Nub Posted July 31, 2017 Share Posted July 31, 2017 I was 25 and desperate for some reason. My office had a 19 year old receptionist that just starting working there. A little cute but nothing to write home about. Hosted some work people over after holiday party including her. She showed interest by flirting. Ended up in my bedroom and even before we got physical or kissed I told her I didn't want a gf and this was just going to be a one time thing. I laid on bed and said if you're still interested take off your clothes and come have sex with me. We did. She was calling me the next day wanting to chat and then wanted to come over to hang out. Do gf-bf stuff. That was bad sign but I used her for booty call a couple more times. Link to post Share on other sites
knabe Posted July 31, 2017 Share Posted July 31, 2017 In the end, it would probably be my failed marriage. But it gave me wonderful children, so I can't dismiss it. I had a long relationship where I was cheated on, but even that one was awesome prior to the cheating. And all of it, in some way, put me in the place to meet my now fiance....so I'm thankful. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Grumpybutfun Posted July 31, 2017 Share Posted July 31, 2017 Between marriages I got involved with a divorced woman with boy who had cancer. We both had ex spouse who cheated and hurt us - and she had her sick boy. All around neither one of us was ready/healthy for a relationship - but I was kind and supportive (what she needed) and she was very pretty and interested - and looking for a father figure for her son (what I needed). Her son passed away shortly after we got involved, and within a week of that - she ghosted me and remarried her ex. I was hurt again for another few months by her actions - and it delayed my healing on relationships. She quickly had another son with her husband (makes sense) and divorced again in 4 years. More "the most sad" - then "the worst" I guess. Both of my marriages have been very difficult for me.Take too long to describe those. Hey D, Those of us who have been around need no explanation. You had a rough go, but are one of the best here. Grumps 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Grumpybutfun Posted July 31, 2017 Share Posted July 31, 2017 When I first saw this thread my intention was to come in here and share my story about my failed marriage. I don't think I will. It suddenly occurs to me that any crappy girl I dated, my cheating ex-wife, anyone that might qualify for a thread like this, at one point, they meant something to me, and I think I meant something to them. Relationships are hard and we are all human. I'm glad I met everyone that I did and I wouldn't change a thing. It occurs to me that worst often means the best lesson. My worst wasn't even that bad in retrospect, but it did teach me to hold my own council and never feel responsible for others' baggage. Your post is my favorite post in this thread. Respect, G 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted August 1, 2017 Share Posted August 1, 2017 My first marriage and most people here know all about it. Link to post Share on other sites
GemmaUK Posted August 1, 2017 Share Posted August 1, 2017 Someone I dated for a few short weeks. I think I was feeling lonely at the time and gave this guy a chance even though I wasn't at all attracted to him - like not in the slightest. I found out he was unemployed and an alcoholic, he loved arguing and would take and pick anything for a totally pointless argument. Plus he seemed to have women orbiting around him all the time - later I found out why. It took a lot to get rid of the guy - he was attempting to be controlling and was incredibly needy but he saw himself as a jack the lad. I ended it but just couldn't get rid of him and this was before I had any option to block on my phone. Even my phone provider couldn't block - I know - I asked if it was possible. Roll on 4 years later after just 5 weeks of LD dating (so I didn't even go on many dates with him) I still couldn't get rid and he was still contacting me - I twigged this was why he had orbiters - he never let anyone go. Finally the police got rid of him. I had blocked him on my new phone by then and hadn't ever replied but they intervened once they saw all the crap he was sending me. I actually spoke to another woman who got in touch with me sometime after I ended it - she had dated him too and had pretty much the same story as me. He was clearly a serial nutter. Link to post Share on other sites
cocorico Posted August 1, 2017 Share Posted August 1, 2017 My first marriage. He revelled in mental illness and decided being an adult with responsibilities was not for him, after having kids. Having kids OTOH made me get my **** together, so I wasn't up for lying around, smoking dope, romanticising self-harm or depression or suicide. I was also unwilling to enable complex emotional stuff that was pretty abusive. I needed to get the kids, the pets and myself away from that, and I did. Link to post Share on other sites
Michelle ma Belle Posted August 1, 2017 Share Posted August 1, 2017 When I first saw this thread my intention was to come in here and share my story about my failed marriage. I don't think I will. It suddenly occurs to me that any crappy girl I dated, my cheating ex-wife, anyone that might qualify for a thread like this, at one point, they meant something to me, and I think I meant something to them. Relationships are hard and we are all human. I'm glad I met everyone that I did and I wouldn't change a thing. I was going to post the exact same thing. Every experience, good and bad, have made me the woman I am today and I absolutely adore her Link to post Share on other sites
SammySammy Posted August 1, 2017 Share Posted August 1, 2017 Probably the fling with the crazy, abusive, jealous, police officer ex-husband. My friend had started seeing this girl who had a roommate. He wanted me to come along with him to entertain the roommate. Knowing we would probably hook up. Things go as expected. The ex-husband somehow finds out some guys are visiting his ex-wife and her roommate (they were cousins). This guy comes over while he's on duty and starts banging on the door. Getting angrier and angrier. We're all scrambling to to put our clothes on and he starts kicking the door down. Meanwhile, his ex-wife had called the police. Luckily, the police arrive when he kicks the door down and arrest him because she had a restraining order. Saw her a few times, but it fizzled because she was so shaken by this guy. Traumatized. Poor thing. That's probably my worst experience. But, I have stories for days. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted August 1, 2017 Share Posted August 1, 2017 But, I have stories for days. Besides being outstanding educational experiences, this is the other big benefit of a screwed-up relationship. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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