mamat Posted August 9, 2005 Posted August 9, 2005 I am German man 40 years old married to Brazilian woman 36 years old. My marriage already 10 years. I have a marriage problem already long time and now I ask for divorce from my wife. I found her cheated on me already 3 years with a man in my neighbor that she always told me that he is her best friend. I found her intimate email's to this man. She also controlling me all the time, and provocating me also all the time, so almost everyday fighting. We don't have any kid from our marriage, she has daughter from her former husband. The fighting makes me stress and effected to my business coz I could not concentrate on my work if she all the time trying to make a fighting. She cannot keep her words, coz she always changed her mind every minutes. We agreed to to divorce, first she said she will leave the house and busy looking her new appartment. I said I will help her. But few weeks later she changed her mind doesn't want to leave the house, she wants me to leave and also she treated me that she will hire someone from russia to fight with me. She has a complicated personality, and I notice all now..it bring a fear in me. For me, I don't have a problem about the sharing that I should give to her according of divorce rules in German, but I could not leave the house coz I have my own business at home. I tried many time talked with her in good way, but she always start fighting again with lots of threaten. What should I do to handle the situation, i really getting stress and it makes my business going down. How I can handle this person? How to make her leave the house?
doodlefairy Posted August 10, 2005 Posted August 10, 2005 I live in Germany but don't really know all of the rules for divorce and who gets what etc because I was never married BUT if she is threatening you, you should go to your lawyer and to the police. You probably need to go to court first and have a judge issue a "Näherungsverbot" and a "Zutrittsverbot" and even a "Kontaktverbot". (I've got to say sorry to the english speakers here - I don't know what they are called in english - basically that a person is not allowed within a certain distance of you and that they are not allowed to even step on your grounds, in your house or your appartment). A judge can also decide to have her removed from your house if they think that your life is in danger, the police will then make sure she is removed if she doesn't then leave of her own accord. I would say she changed her mind because someone is telling her that as she is the "wife" she doesn't need to move out BUT in this case the court would rule differently because she ruined your marriage between you, not you.
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