He's playing me but I can't let him go

[Magaly14]

I'm 25. Never been in a relationship but Not virgin.

 

So there's this young man I know for 4 years now. 2 years ago he started showing interest in me and at that time I didn't care about him. We had sex a few times but then I noticed that his only interest in me was to have sex, he would never invite me to do anything with him so I cut him off by blocking him and calling him names, It happens 3 times. 3 times we argued I was mean to him and then blocked him BUT he would always come back. Coming to my house saying that he has something for me that he doesn't understand, some kind of attraction, He said he forgives me and we end up talking again and have sex again.

 

With time, I stated developing feelings for him, I'm extremely attracted to him we both moved in a new city (he probably thinks I followed him, I'm sure he thinks I'm in love with). I'm not in love but I'm highly attracted to him.

 

Here he's meeting new people and lots of girls (I'm jealous), he would never find time to see me, he never invited me to do anything, the only time we saw each other it was to have sex and nothing else.

 

Now I know it sounds obvious that the guy is only using me for sex but I can tell you that I've been really really mean and disrespectful to him and he would always come back and forgive me so I started thinking that maybe he likes me but his actions don"t match that part. When we're not talking, he wants me but when we are talking he's avoiding me.

 

Last weekend I wanted to do a lap dance for him so I invited him and I bought new underwear and all and then he canceled last minute. when I told him I was upset he stopped responding me. He said we could see each other next weekend. so I was waiting for him to contact me so we could meet but he didn't and I could see on his snapchat that he was out with his friend partying Friday to Sunday and didn't contact me at all

 

So I was like I'm done and now I've blocked him swearing that he would never ever get any news from me. it's been 3 days and I can't stop thinking about him; I want him so bad and it hurts because I feel like he only wants me for sex cuz I'm the only girl making him cum (sorry but that's true, I don't know what his problem is with other girls)

 

I feel like I need to talk to him about all of that face to face but I hate the fact that I have to make the efforts for him to actually come and meet me so we can talk. I know I should cut him off and block him for life but there's so many things I want to know and want him to know.

 

what would you do? What do you think? what should I do ?

 

thanks for reading

[travelbug1996]

Do you really believe you're the only woman that pleases him? Honey don't fall for that crap.

[spiderowl]

Pretend you can't hear a word he says. What do his actions tell you? That he is only using you for sex. He does not want your time otherwise. Don't listen to what he says. You know deep down he is only coming to see you when he wants sex. Trust yourself and keep away from this guy. You are only going to get more of the same from him. Don't you deserve someone who genuinely loves you and wants a commitment with you?

 

I know it is hard to resist someone you want but he is not offering you all you want only bits when he feels like it. He is in control of things now. Take control back and turn him down.

[d0nnivain]

You know he's bad news & that he's using you but you keep going back for more. The reality is you are going to continue on this path until either kicks you to the curb for good or until you finally get fed up & stop. Sadly you are not yet fed up. You still think there's some kind of a chance & if you keep having sex with him, eventually he's going to magically turn into Prince Charming.

 

 

When you are ready you will be done. For your sake I just hope that is before 1). he gives you a disease; 2). you get pregnant or 3). he concludes he's done with you.

 

 

Right now you are in charge of your own destiny but no one knows how long that will continue.

[Steve51]

You are a cheating man's dream girl. The answer is simple. You continue to let him play you or you leave. So many women end up marrying guys like this and then come here crying about their husband's cheating. What you see now is what you will get in the future. You cannot change men simply by marrying them or taking them back.

 

I was a player and I will make a very long story short, my wife shared me with her best friend for 30 years after having threesomes with all of her other friends. She wanted to keep it under our roof and controlled. Seems that some women see a player as a challenge. We are lucky that my wife is bi and wanted women as much as I did, but kept it secret. So we both got what we wanted in a way that did not risk our marriage. She agrees with me that if we tried to be monogamous we would have divorced a long time ago. Is this the life you want? Can you share a man with other women as my wife did for so many years? If not, leave and find yourself a monogamous man. There are plenty out there but since more than half of them cheat, I will wish you good luck.

Edited August 1, 2017 by Steve51