How people really are

[fred123]

People say every girl or guy is different and every situation is different. I totally agree. What the truth is is that same girl is different to a guy depending on how much she likes him.

People use the fact that every girl is different and how maybe she doewnt like x y or z. But the truth is that every girl treats guy differently depending on how much they like them.

When people come here on LS to tell their story the first thing people say is well shes that type.of girl or maybe shes the type that doesnt introduce a guy so early on to her family etc. But 99 percent of the time its lies and we know it. We have to stop giving excuses for low interest girls. They just aint into you

[CptInsano]

What the truth is is that same girl is different to a guy depending on how much she likes him.

 

Is that a surprise, or am I missing something?

 

But 99 percent of the time its lies and we know it. We have to stop giving excuses for low interest girls. They just aint into you

 

Agreed, "low interest girl" is a euphemism. But who is "we"? I certainly don't use these terms.

[Cookiesandough]

Can you give more specific examples of what you mean...I don't follow

[SwordofFlame]

We have to stop giving excuses for low interest girls. They just aint into you

 

Completely agree. The posts from guys wondering if the woman may just be shy or playing games...usually want that to be the answer. However, in reality it's most likely due to low interest.

[smackie9]

I just wish guys would stop acting like it's some kind of a sin for a girl or girls to be not interested in them.

[carhill]

Avoid excursions into reading their minds, rather assess their actions and if the actions don't match up with what one wants from the interaction, move on. While the buzz in our balls and reptile brain attraction chemicals may appear to impel otherwise, all associations are completely voluntary.

 

Presuming you want to, if you happen to meet a lady whose presence impels that buzz in the balls, then express your sexual interest and accept whatever happens as the result. If you like the result, continue. If not, move on.

[Chilli]

l try to call it how l see it whether it's a guy or a girl and unfortunately in sitches like that yeah, it's usually he or she just isn't into them but there is one sometimes where it might've been something else.

Maybe l read different posts but most other people seem to call it how they see it too.

Edited August 1, 2017 by Chilli

[Cookiesandough]

Oh wait, so you are saying you believe women, in every circumstance, divest themselves of all their individual preferences/values/personalities when it comes to the guys they like. And if they don't then they just aren't that into the guy. Well, I respect your opinion.

[mikeylo]

I don't understand the question but I feel that some people bring out the good in us and the same person may bring out the worst in another. Its about the two people coming together who bring out the best in each other.

[d0nnivain]

This is an international message board on the internet. All you are going to get is generalizations. Very few people on here actually know each other IRL.

 

 

I'm cautious up front. By today's standards many people on LS would classify me as low interest if some new guy I was dating came on here to ask about me. I don't want daily contact. I won't have a text "conversation" with you. If you bug me during work hours I am not going to be generally thrilled. I'm high maintenance & I'm very busy. If I liked a guy I'd work to fit him into my life but I wouldn't drop everything for some guy. For example, I had a standing Friday night obligation when I first started dating my husband. I gave him the option of tagging along but I wouldn't cancel it for him. Now he has joined that group & we both look forward to the Friday night dinners. If he hadn't been willing to compromise on how we spent Fridays we would have seen a lot less of each other.

 

 

Although all you can get from a message board are generalizations, one universal truth is when the specifics of your interactions with another person aren't working for you & you repeatedly get your feelings hurt, you need to take responsibility for the bad relationship & end it. You need to be free to go find somebody good who wants to celebrate you & their relationship with you.

 

 

As bad as your EX-GF was, fred123, this went on as long as it did because you let it. It wasn't until you finally tried to put your foot down & insist on bringing your relationship into the light of day -- that your EX-GF finally ended things because she realized she couldn't keep you under wraps any more. Had you done more to preserve your own dignity earlier, rather than deluding yourself into thinking that just because she was having sex with you in secret that she actually cared.

 

 

For your own peace of mind, learn to love yourself & stop accepting less than you deserve from others who treat you poorly.

[preraph]

Of course, that goes both ways. Do you think a guy is even civil to a fat girl? Men mostly look right through them and look scared if spoken to by one for any reason. The top tier of women often have never been treated bad, at least not on purpose. Women have to put some barriers up to keep from getting in trouble with the wrong guys. It's different than with men. Women have to be careful not to get someone after them because women get assaulted and raped and stalked a lot more than men do. Men don't have to worry about any of that, so what's their excuse?

[Mysterio]

Men and Women date differently. Race/Height/Weight/Age are factored in. Having Kids or not in your personal life.

 

It only simplistic if your both same age and have no kids. Also personal tastes affect how people see you.

 

I am 46. People think I am early mid 30's. I am a Canadian Black male. Shave my head. Clean cut and well groomed. I am 5'9. I am fit 210 lbs, but I am lossing weight. I should be 190 lbs ish. I listen to Rock and Roll/Soul/Jazz/Heavy Metal. I go to a lot of local bands in my city. I am more on the Introspective side and am more conversational than quiet, but I am not a loud mouth.

 

Thats me in a nutshell. Who should I be dating. Will a female version of me suffice. You never know who is going to click or not. Seems to me that when I don't care. Things work to my favor when I am dating. Never when I put the energy into it.

[Zul]

OP, I agree with everything you said except one. Although a girl may treat a guy she's interested in more differently that someone she wasn't as interested in... Her personality remains the same no matter who she is with. What I mean by this is that if she's manipulative, controlling, "psycho", sensitive etc... Whatever it may be, she will always be that way; but it may come out in different ways.

 

My ex treats her new boyfriend like a king, BUT she still told me the first few months of his relationship that she 'loves me still' which makes me laugh. She did that to me when we first started dating too, when she messaged her ex that she still loved him. Once a liar ALWAYS a liar even though she likes this new guy more than me.

 

Certain things will never change, my friend.