Texting/Calling In a Relationship

[KBob]

While sitting around the campfire last weekend some friends and I got on the topic of texting/calling frequency while dating and then after the transition to a relationship. The opinion was a 50/50 split between both sides of the spectrum, so I'm curious to see what people on here have to say. Do you text more often as you enter a relationship? Do you change the duration it takes you to respond? Does texting get replaced by phone calls entirely?

 

Myself, I find as I become more attracted to a woman and become more involved in each other's lives, I step up my texting frequency and time I take to reply, and I start sending and like receiving the good morning and good night texts. I will start to enjoy talking to each other on the phone more, as well. Oddly enough most of this starts happening without me even thinking about it. I can't say that the women I've dated haven't thought about it either, but it seemed that most of them transitioned their texting and calling the same way as I did.

[bminusredd]

Maybe it depends on the line of work and schedules also. But I may be wrong. In my last relationship, we text less when were in the relationship but that was because she got a big promotion and was more busy. However, we saw each other more too because she moved closer to where I live. I think it depends on a lot of things? And it is different for every couple.

[Blanco]

Quite a lot in the beginning stages. It dwindled a bit as things progressed, and became all but logistical stuff once we moved in together.

 

Honestly, I would find it exhausting to hold a text conversation throughout the day, nearly every day. For one, I'm actually busy with things during the day. Secondly, what the heck are you supposed to talk about when you see each other if you've both been updating the other about every minor detail of your day?

[GemmaUK]

If you have discussed frequency of texting and calls face to face and you're both free enough to up or keep upping the consistency and are both vary happy with that then great.

 

If you haven't had that discussion then you should have it (not over text).

 

Over texting can be a total pain and for me shows a lack of consideration and respect for the other person's time.

[spiderowl]

I think texting and message should probably roughly reflect when you have the impulse to communicate with each other. If you get the impulse to send a message asking about something, then why not? Obviously, both should take care not to be obsessive or overwhelming about it, but generally anyone in a happy relationship is pleased to know the other is thinking about them and including them in their life.