on dating exes

[The Urbanyst]

You seem like someone who either doesn't learn from your mistakes, loves emotional abuse or is desperate.

 

This woman is making a complete fool out of you.

[jerrygordon3]

She would insist she saw me looking at a girl. Porn. She would speculate for hours and days that I was watching porn. As soon as things were just smooth and healthy she would start in. And then it would be a day. Then as we kept on. It was much much worse. She would hide me. Keep me a secret. She manipulates me... is what she does. I left her because she was a shady, verbally absuive, cheat. And I was madly in love with her because I'm sick. Idk if it was the way I was raised idk. But she's the only woman I've let walk all over me ever. And I keep going back. When I left her. It was easy. Because I had had enough. She was claiming she was pregnant ( ya right). She refused to show me proof. And I blocked her number. Turns out she was pregnant.... so she was devastated. And the months leading up to this she was desperately trying to keep me. Trying to be a family. Anal. Screwing my brains out. Asking me t marry her. Wanting kids. But I saw right through it for the first time and laughed as she threw herself at me. So now a year later. She'll Statt to open up. I misss you. I wish you were here. Cuddly. All that. I love you. Etc. then after we have sex she immediately starts in. You know jerry I just want to remind you this isn't going anywhere. You better not be telling people about us. I can't give you anything right now. I love you jerry yes but I'm not in love with you. All the while just dismissive, no eye contact, suddenly the typical. This conversation is over. I have **** to do. I'm not talking about this anymore... and I'm just like... whoa... all that love I was feeling... everything... and for some reason I have this little bitch whip weakness for this one girl.... I fall hard and easy and see it working and then... destroyed

[jerrygordon3]

I was faithful, loving, romantic, patient. Also I did watch porn and she hated that shot. But she would change my name in her phone when she went out and put my number on do not disturb. And if I fought her on it she would dump me. She would be the rudest bitch ever and I would leave her and then she would literally be sobbing tearing my pants off. Crying so hard she was shaking and her nose was bleeding. Just trying to wrap herself around me when I had finally been like.... f this. We're done.

[BaileyB]

So really, what do you want people to say?

 

It's all been said - unhealthy relationship, absolute train wreck... Should never have gone back to her. What else can anybody say to help you in this situation?

Edited August 19, 2017 by BaileyB

[Blanco]

You are both addicted to drama and don't learn from your mistakes.

 

Additional analysis is unnecessary.

[healing light]

Now we are both killing it in life.

 

Well, the only thing she seems to be killing is her multiple pregnancies.

 

 

Seriously, now, why would you be with this:

 

I can't give you anything right now

I love you jerry yes but I'm not in love with you

she was a shady, verbally absuive, cheat

It's exhausting and makes me feel bad about myself and who I am

She would be the rudest bitch ever

I know it's because she loves me and she has a personality disorder

 

She sounds borderline or bipolar to me. You hinted she had a substance abuse problem and yet still works around alcohol. She's obviously messing around with someone to get pregnant, even though you claim she's not dating.

 

You are obviously co-dependent and addicted to this woman. The quality of the relationship isn't going to get magically better. You need to protect yourself before she falls pregnant with your child and you're tied to the push/pull for life, or before she puts your physical health at risk. She's already ****ing around with your head space. I would find a good therapist and support group in order to try to work through this toxic addiction.