Can't but feel sad after ex unfriended me

[guy45]

I checked my Facebook today and realized that me and my ex are no longer friends on there. I was the one who broke up with her but I still can't help but feel sad she unfriended me. She was someone really special to me even though it didn't work out.

[bummer]

harsh ego burn right?

[Gr8fuln2020]

If she is trying to move on, she did the right thing. Not certain if you two were actually 'friends', but the one who was dumped typically isn't all that keen on just being friends.

[guy45]

I completely understand her deleting me and I would have done the same. I guess it's just a harsh part of reality to accept.

[Zul]

I checked my Facebook today and realized that me and my ex are no longer friends on there. I was the one who broke up with her but I still can't help but feel sad she unfriended me. She was someone really special to me even though it didn't work out.

 

It's all ego as the first comment said under your post.

 

Unfortunately, when I went NC with my ex, she beat me to it by blocking me on Instagram. I'm pretty upset that she beat me to it, because it kills my ego more than it got hers. It's all a game my friend, it's who can beat who to the block button first.

 

It's a goofy website, don't even stress over it. Facebook is nothing more than a means for girls or guys to cheat. My ex 'reconnected' with all of her 'boyfriends' on Facebook. I look at Facebook as a facilitator of bad feelings and ruining relationships.

 

Be glad she's gone off of your Facebook, now you don't have to look at her anymore.

 

It's just because she unfriended you, if you did it to her, she'd be the one feeling what you do.

[guy45]

It's all ego as the first comment said under your post.

 

Unfortunately, when I went NC with my ex, she beat me to it by blocking me on Instagram. I'm pretty upset that she beat me to it, because it kills my ego more than it got hers. It's all a game my friend, it's who can beat who to the block button first.

 

It's a goofy website, don't even stress over it. Facebook is nothing more than a means for girls or guys to cheat. My ex 'reconnected' with all of her 'boyfriends' on Facebook. I look at Facebook as a facilitator of bad feelings and ruining relationships.

 

Be glad she's gone off of your Facebook, now you don't have to look at her anymore.

 

It's just because she unfriended you, if you did it to her, she'd be the one feeling what you do.

Thank you for your advice.

I'm confused why I feel this way though since I was the one who broke up with her due to me not being attracted anymore, even though I don't think she's ugly.

 

If there were some way I could fix things and get back together with her I would in an instant, but in the back of my mind, I will always be thinking if I could find someone I'm more attracted to. She was my first real gf if that makes a difference.

[loverboy69]

I don't agree that Facebook unfriending is of no consequence. It can and does have the same familiar sting that losing a friend in person can have especially for millennials and younger.

 

Remember the opposite of love is not hate it's indifference. I doubt we are talking about hate here.

 

Many millennials like myself have lots of friends and acquaintances on our friends' list and we're not bothered either way. That's indifference.

 

Deleting, blocking an ex does give off a vibe of emotional vulnerability and tells the other person that seeing your face on their feed causes them emotional distress. If anything that should give the OP the ego boost he so desires.

 

I've had friends "unfriend," me on Facebook because they liked me in a romantic way and felt no reciprocation on my part.

Edited August 16, 2017 by loverboy69