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So I've been talking to this girl on an OLD site for about a week. The conversation goes pretty well. We've talking about getting together, and now she just asked me for additional pictures, allegedly "to get a better idea of me". My profile has 4 different shots, which is about the standard number for OLD profiles. I confess that request caught me a little off guard since this is the first time a girl asks me for more pictures.

What do you think? Is it a good/bad sign? Would you give them to her?

 

Thanks in advance

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So I've been talking to this girl on an OLD site for about a week. The conversation goes pretty well. We've talking about getting together, and now she just asked me for additional pictures, allegedly "to get a better idea of me". My profile has 4 different shots, which is about the standard number for OLD profiles. I confess that request caught me a little off guard since this is the first time a girl asks me for more pictures.

What do you think? Is it a good/bad sign? Would you give them to her?

 

Thanks in advance

 

I feel that people who use OLD should have a really thorough representation of who they look like TODAY and not what they looked like 6-months ago or 1-yr ago unless you have not changed. This should include shots that reveals the whole body.

 

Do you have shot of you that are more recent and show the WHOLE you? I don't think there is anything wrong with what she is asking. I do it. If you do, you have nothing to hide. If you don't you either don't have any for legitimate reasons or you don't feel that there are others that are flattering.

 

I have, within the last two weeks, been burned by lovely ladies who were less than I expected in person.

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IMO, appropriate full body shots are needed for profile photos. IMO, current photos within one year are fine. Photos should include a close up shot of your face without sunglasses or a hat in good lighting.

 

Did she ask for something specific?

 

One time, a guy wanted to see a picture of me in a bikini. I already had full body photos which accurately represented me on my profile. We had just started emailing back and forth. Sorry, I am not sending a bikini photo to some guy I have not met. I politely declined.....and that was that....NEXT...

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That's the first time I ever heard of a woman asking a man on OLD for more pictures. I say don't do it. Usually when I bend and give them a photo they say I am not what they are looking for. I am tall and thin but I think they want to see something racy, and I just send them a headshot of me or of me in something not sexy. Not too long ago I sent a guy a shot of me in shorts, T shirt and flip flops and he texted back "You're not what I am looking for". I was hurt by that and said I would not use this app anymore. Which I haven't.

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I think common sense should kick in when someone is asking you for something risque or more revealing than you are comfortable with. But, if the request is to get a better representation, full body that doesn't try to hide anything, then it is fine and frankly, fair request.

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Just tell her you'd rather meet up tomorrow than mess around with pictures. After all you don't know if she's really a man either so there's risks on both sides.

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Gr8fuln2020 Established Member

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Just tell her you'd rather meet up tomorrow than mess around with pictures. After all you don't know if she's really a man either so there's risks on both sides.

 

Could be...:p

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Sara1989 Established Member

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I usually ask for their FB profiles if I want see more pictures. One time this guy looked totally different in his recent FB photos then the ones posted on dating site.

 

I would just send more pics.

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It's always bad. Male or female. For men it's either spank material or making sure what you look like, but for women it's probably mostly making sure what you look like. She wants to be sure she's attracted to you. Are your pics clear and all? Full body?

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So I've been talking to this girl on an OLD site for about a week. The conversation goes pretty well. We've talking about getting together, and now she just asked me for additional pictures, allegedly "to get a better idea of me". My profile has 4 different shots, which is about the standard number for OLD profiles. I confess that request caught me a little off guard since this is the first time a girl asks me for more pictures.

What do you think? Is it a good/bad sign? Would you give them to her?

 

Thanks in advance

 

Then you ask her for more pictures? How are you suppose to send her the pictures on OLD or through email (scammers use the email to send more pictures) but the rest are right time to meet you in person.

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So I've been talking to this girl on an OLD site for about a week. The conversation goes pretty well. We've talking about getting together, and now she just asked me for additional pictures, allegedly "to get a better idea of me". My profile has 4 different shots, which is about the standard number for OLD profiles. I confess that request caught me a little off guard since this is the first time a girl asks me for more pictures.

What do you think? Is it a good/bad sign? Would you give them to her?

 

Thanks in advance

 

This is easy.

 

Send the picture. She may or may not like what she sees. gl

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Just tell her you'd rather meet up tomorrow than mess around with pictures. After all you don't know if she's really a man either so there's risks on both sides.

This. Although only tell her the first part, not the second!

 

Assuming your 4 pics are good quality, varied pics, that is. They should show you in a variety of poses, including at least 1 head shot and at least 1 full body. If not then her request for more pics before meeting is understandable.

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I don't see it as a sign of anything tbh. The reason she gave sounds fine to me. I wouldn't feel bad if someone asked this of me. I'd just send one. If they wanted a risque photo and got miffed they didn't get one, I wouldn't want to meet up with them anyway - this saves my time.

 

I recently had an OLD date and he looked really quite different in all his pictures. I could have asked for additional photos to get a better sense of what he looked like in real life.

 

If you aren't comfortable sending another photo, then don't bother. You have nothing invested in this yet and can very easily move on. I wouldn't see it as a sign of anything though.

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What everyone else said! Real helpful, right? Even if you are the nicest guy in the world, people first look at pics on OLD. If you have at least one clear, recent face pic and one clear, recent body pic that should be enough. I once made the mistake of meeting a woman with no body pic on her profile. Yes, superficial of me, but not what I was looking for. I felt bad about saying after the date "not what I'm looking for" and I'm sure she wasn't crazy about it either. After that I made sure there was at least one body pic.

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She wants more photos because the ones she has aren't making her motor run. She's trying to figure out if she is attracted to you. Odds are the pictures are going to cause her to say thanks but no thanks. As bad as that is, it's still better & quicker then driving somewhere, spending time, gas & money only to be rejected later.

 

Snap a selfie, pass it along & hope for the best.

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I don't see anything wrong with it...Some people are picky...All speculative, as I never used any types of sites, but body type is pretty important to me, and I don't think I would be willing to take chances with a bait and switch..

 

I can only say this...

 

When I used to have a FB account, of the women I had as contacts, ALL of them looked better(almost to a point of being unrecognizable) than what they did in real life...I think I read on this site something that's probably pretty true...He(she?) said its more likely to get an "enhanced" picture from a woman than it is from a man..Women seem savvy to the technology involved with enhancing pics, while guys generally don't give a crap about it, so you would be more likely to be "getting what you see"...I dunno, tho..does seem to make some sense anyway...*shrug*.....

 

And while I do respect a woman that wouldn't send a bikini pic, I don't necessarily find it offensive of a guy to ask ....That is providing he's willing to send a pic of himself in his BVD's...

 

TFY

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It's always bad. Male or female. For men it's either spank material or making sure what you look like, but for women it's probably mostly making sure what you look like. She wants to be sure she's attracted to you. Are your pics clear and all? Full body?

 

Yes, my pictures are recent, clear, full body and head shots close enough and without sunglasses. I wated them to to be that way since I have nothing to hide.

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She wants more photos because the ones she has aren't making her motor run. She's trying to figure out if she is attracted to you. Odds are the pictures are going to cause her to say thanks but no thanks. As bad as that is, it's still better & quicker then driving somewhere, spending time, gas & money only to be rejected later.

 

Snap a selfie, pass it along & hope for the best.

 

That's what I am thinking too. If I only had 1 or 2 pictures, with sunglasses or something like that I would get it, but that is not the case. I am a bit reluctant to send more personal things like pictures can be, just to try to prove myself to someone on OLD.

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If you don't want to send more pictures, then don't. It's OLD. There are thousands of other women on there.

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That's what I am thinking too. If I only had 1 or 2 pictures, with sunglasses or something like that I would get it, but that is not the case. I am a bit reluctant to send more personal things like pictures can be, just to try to prove myself to someone on OLD.

 

I'm sorry, but you could 20 pictures up and all 20 would not tell the complete story. It depends on the poses, views. You mention sunglasses or 'something like that', but do you have a recent, full body pic giving the person a non-dubious idea of what you look like? If not, then don't be surprised if people ask for more. I've seen plenty of profiles of ladies with more than 10 pics and none of them of their full body. Do you think they are hiding something? I do. That and the description of average or even athletic and my experience is that they are not showing their full body for a reason...

 

As others have said, don't make this into a mountain. If you object, just don't and then let the girl make up her own mind.

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I've seen plenty of profiles of ladies with more than 10 pics and none of them of their full body. Do you think they are hiding something? I do. That and the description of average or even athletic and my experience is that they are not showing their full body for a reason...

 

 

Yes. The reason is (always) they are large. Which I don't understand. Either the guy's gonna be into it anyway, or will be disappointed when he meets you. Might as well give the full picture so to speak.

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So I've been talking to this girl on an OLD site for about a week. The conversation goes pretty well. We've talking about getting together, and now she just asked me for additional pictures, allegedly "to get a better idea of me". My profile has 4 different shots, which is about the standard number for OLD profiles. I confess that request caught me a little off guard since this is the first time a girl asks me for more pictures.

What do you think? Is it a good/bad sign? Would you give them to her?

 

Thanks in advance

 

In my opinion, it's a bad sign.

 

It means her priorities in life are unlikely to mesh with mine. Typically when I met women in real life, 90% of the time, they were better looking than in their photos. But you see, so much of that is perspective, because most people here would say the opposite. And the 10% weren't too far off from their actual photos, so I went about my business. Other people have a different opinion, and you should formulate your own.

 

That said, I would likely send the picture anyway and try and meet up. Not much to lose and OLD was an exercise in rejection for me anyway.

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She wants more photos because the ones she has aren't making her motor run.

 

She's trying to figure out if she is attracted to you. Odds are the pictures are going to cause her to say thanks but no thanks.

 

I'm sorry, but you could 20 pictures up and all 20 would not tell the complete story. It depends on the poses…

 

If you are honest with yourself and you think that you are an above average dude and you have a solid profile well written, good job, decent income, and decent pics and a woman asks for more pics? Don’t bother. Especially if you think she is an attractive woman, someone that likely a bunch of dudes are talking too…

 

(You) “aren't making her motor run.” And it is highly unlikely you ever will, move on. Too many choices to waste your time.

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RecentChange Established Member

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Yes, my pictures are recent, clear, full body and head shots close enough and without sunglasses. I wated them to to be that way since I have nothing to hide.

 

If you have nothing to hide, what's wrong with snapping a selfie?

 

I hate pictures for the most part, but I am who I am so wouldn't have any problems snapping a pic...

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Skype if she is curious and wants to know what you look like.

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