Does your husband share you with other men?

[hunbun92]

Ok so my husband and I started talking about our fantasies one night and his fantasy is to see me with another man while he watches and also joins in. Hes told me about it before but we were drinking and it was never brought up in until recently.

 

See my husband is 40 and I'm 26. He likes it when other men look at me or hit on me. He trusts me more than anything in the world. He knows I love him and only him. Well we discussed his fantasy and the person he wants to share me with is his best friend. His best friend is 3 years younger than him and hes attractive. His best friend knows about this and wants to do it. I'm all for it, I'm actually a little excited and nervous at the same time because my husband told me if I like it then I can do it again when ever I want.

 

My husband however doesn't want anything out of it. He just wants to get off on it. He has admitted that he has a hard time keeping up with me cause of our age difference. I really don't mind it I love him no matter what and he treats me like a queen. I just need some advice before it happens... Of course I'm gonna have a few drinks before it happens but any tips on getting comfortable?

 

I am nervous but the more I think about it the more I want it and it turns me on even more. Also any couples out there that have done this and can share their experience with me? I cant tell my girl friends cause they wont understand and think its weird.

 

I don't think its weird I love the fact my husband will let me have sex with another man in front of him. But its not for everyone.... Please share

Edited August 7, 2017 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[bachdude]

I have a difficult time taking this post seriously.

[PegNosePete]

If you do this then it will most likely be the end of your marriage.

 

Some fantasies should be left as fantasies.

[darkmoon]

if you need a "few drinks" you are forcing yourself, so stop this unpalatable event, close the door on it

[caveman621]

You don't say in your profile where you are. Let me know if you want more guys for the gangbang.

 

Yeah, sarcasm there. Shouldn't this be in the sex discussion? Probably not serious.

[Jj66]

This should be in sex area instead of dating.

 

Of course it could be real. This kind of stuff is actually not as uncommon as you might think. I was a third once. A lesbian asked me to have sex with her wife. She watched and even brought us drinks during a break.

 

The sharing with the best friend thing... I think that has a LOT of potential to destroy the marriage. It would be safer to bring in someone you barely know and won't ever have to see again.

[RecentChange]

With his best friend is a bad idea.

 

These things can go south real quick, and if it's someone intertwined in your life, it can make it exponentially worse.

 

Are you both interested in having some sort of triad relationship with this guy? Not for me, but I know some people are into that sort of thing.

 

If it's just sex.... Get someone who isn't a part of your social circle.

[Novz]

Leave your fantasy there. Please do not use it and create a reality out of it.

[GorillaTheater]

Not a ****ing chance.

[smackie9]

I say whatever floats your boat, BUT if I were you I would keep close friends, and coworkers out of your bedroom. This sort of thing is private. You think this BFF is going to keep his mouth shut? Hell no he's gonna brag about it and your friends, and maybe even your family is going to hear about it. Think first before you do. You need to go over some rules so everyone is safe and protected. There are private clubs for this sort of thing, and even websites. If I were you I would research this more before diving in. And keep his friend out of it.

[central]

Standard cuckold fetish. Only go there if you want to, but keep his friend OUT of it. Is your relationship really, really strong to begin with? Then it may work - otherwise, don't.

 

 

Cuckold scenario has NO appeal for me, but it is a very common fetish. We've done FMF and MFM threesomes, but nobody is just watching.

[Cephalopod]

Don't do it.

[aileD]

So what's going to happen most likely is this.

 

You'll do it and love it. He'll love it.

 

You'll do it again....he'll get insecure. Thought sill go through his head:

 

"I'm too old for her she wants the younger guys"

"She's going to leave me for them"

"She likes it with them more than me"

 

Then, he'll accuse you of cheating and really believe you are and hound you about t and become annoying or mean about it. Then you'll actually cheat with someone because your husband makes you feel horrible and you're unhappy and he's mean to you.

 

Then. Divorce.

 

I think things like this CAN work out but to be blunt and honest the age difference is a disadvantage. You're going to get so much attention from younger and hotter guys and no matter how much you love your H, he's not going to believe it once the attention starts .

[hammyy2k]

he wants you to behave as his personal whore, slut or porn star. it is very erotic fetish for few times but even if its 'your thing' it will wear off very fast, you'll get tired and it will ultimately effect your marriage one way or another even if he doesnt get jealous and all.

 

its not good believe me, i have read stories about the damage and have same kinda fetish but its very bad for marriage and personal life as a whole, it will end up no where.

 

it is a very sick fetish to be honest and some wives even go as far as getting impregnated by their FB

 

marriage is not a cup of tea to play with like that.

[Just a Guy]

Hi hunbun, what you and your husband are contemplating doing is known as the Hotwife kink. There are websites for this kind of thing. However, I would tend to agree with everyone who has warned of the dangers as these are very real. If you really love your husband and vice versa then keep all this as a fantasy between the two of you. It could make for spicing things up in the bedroom. Warm wishes.

[harrybrown]

Save yourself the trouble.

 

Get a D now.

 

 

How would you like sharing him with another woman, your best friend?

 

That is next.

 

will you use protection to avoid a pregnancy? Who pays the child support after the D?

 

will you get tested for stds before and after?

 

Just split the property and get the D. Do it before the deed.

[mikeylo]

He is only 40 and can't keep up with you ? Hard to buy it unless he has a medical condition.

 

People have their own dos and donts in their marriage. We are no one to tell you what to do or not do. But the consequences aren't good.

[sandylee1]

It sounds like he asked his best friend, before he asked you.

 

Like others, I think it will ruin the friendship and you should have an acquaintance you don't see often to do this with.

 

It's too close for comfort.

[lucy_in_disguise]

Sharing your partner is a minefield of unintended consequences in any scenario but bringing your husband's best friend into it is a horrible idea. What if you, your husband, or the friend regret the experience? It will cause irreparable damage to your relationship. Even if it goes well, it will add complication and potential awkwardness to the mix. The friend may be single now, but what if he gets in a serious relationship? His future partners may not be thrilled with your set up and pressure him to drop the friendship.

 

Besides, do you really want your husbands friends thinking of you in that way? Do you want people in your community talking about and judging your marriage? What you do with your husband is no one's business but sleeping with his friends is basically begging for discussion and condemnation.

 

If u really want to do this- do it with a stranger. And be prepared for reality to be more complicated than the fantasy.

 

As a side note- I think it's disrespectful that your husband discussed this with his friend before talking to you.

[GorillaTheater]

As a side note- I think it's disrespectful that your husband discussed this with his friend before talking to you.

 

 

A great point, and absolutely right.

[mikeylo]

How is one time or other random here and there sex with this guy , going to satisfy you forever ? He has to live with you guys !

[SaveYourHeart]

So I'm going to go against the grain here and say go for it! Some people have bad experiences with this kind of kink, but there are tons of people who have success with this kink. If you think it's hot and he thinks it's hot, and you screw like horny teenagers because of it, then you're doing it right. Put your husband and your marriage first, sex second and you'll be fine. Have fun!

[Rockdad]

We have several close friends that swing and or share for many years. We find them great to hang and socialize with as they are very happy fun loving couples. There is no judgement from us for their choices. They don't judge us that we don't roll that way.

 

I've seen it go bad for some that experimented with it as well when jealousy and insecurity arose. It really depends on the personalities of those involved. I don't agree with telling the OP she is destined for divorce. I know a lovely older couple that has been playing their entire 40+ yr marriage.

 

I believe sharing and swinging are practiced more than many people are aware of.

[Bastile]

Eh, not into it.

 

If I want to screw around, I'll stay non-exclusive.

 

Never had a ltr where I wanted to see my girlfriend get nailed. I would want to break the guy's face.

 

If we aren't exclusive, there really isn't that jealousy. She can do whatever she wants.

 

If a girl wanted me to "share her", then I'd be expecting an open relationship where I can go see other women too. And frankly, very few women that I've ever been with were open to that.

 

The one's that were, was when I was too young to even appreciate it. Which actually gives me the impression that they were open to it precisely because I was too stupid to take advantage.

 

I don't think women put themselves at a disadvantage in a relationship. If being open benefits the man more than the woman, then they don't seem to want any part of it.

Edited August 11, 2017 by Bastile

[Michelle ma Belle]

I've known and chatted with many people who are into this. There are various scenarios that can be boxed into this type of fantasy including the one where hubby just wants to watch his wife get banged by another man while he sits and gets off. Nothing more.

 

I agree that this fantasy isn't as uncommon as some people think but it does take a certain type of person and definitely a certain type of couple to go down this rabbit hole and come out of it unscathed.

 

Are you that couple? Who the hell knows.

 

I do worry that including his best friend in the mix. I think an objective third party would be much better but it's not my life or my marriage. As for him discussing and planning this out with his friend before talking to you? Yeah, disrespectful might be too kind of a word to use in my opinion.

 

As for me, HELL to the NO!

 

I have ZERO interest in sharing or being shared. Nothing turns me on more than knowing we are each others most wicked fantasy.