Fantasies

[Mike61]

The other day my wife and I were in the kitchen cooking/cleaning up and I had a laptop on the counter. I came across an article, “10 Fantasies Every Woman Has.” I asked my wife if she’d respond to them (yay or nay) and after a quick roll of her eyes she said yes. I can’t remember all of them but they seemed familiar, being dominated, sex in an inappropriate place, etc. To all of them she kind of shrugged until I got to “have a threesome.“ She said she does fantasize about threesomes but only with me and another woman.

 

Now I know my wife and when she says this is a fantasy she means fantasy and while I fantasize about this same scenario it would never be something we’d do. However, I was pretty damn interested in hearing specifically what she fantasizes about. She is not a person given to talking about fantasies and I thought this might be a gap in the door.

 

Later that night I asked her if she’d care to maybe give me a little glimpse into this fantasy. She seemed to brush it off a bit and I thought I’d encourage her by admitting that I had fantasized about the same thing. As soon as I said that she said, “Well, why don’t you tell me?” So, I gave her a part of a threesome scenario I have thought about with her and another woman, a part where my wife is front-and-center with the other woman along for the ride. When I was done my wife smiled and said, “Well, that was specific.”

 

Of course she didn’t respond in kind and I feel like she left me hanging. I realize I started it, but it would have been nice to hear her fantasies or at least get a look into a part of her I rarely see.

 

Is it hard for some people to open up about their fantasies? Do people view that as private too themselves? I think the dynamic between wanting to know a fantasy your spouse has while they may want to keep some mystery is at least interesting. Do you guys share fantasies with your spouses or prefer to keep some things a mystery?

[RecentChange]

Hum...

 

For me, my fantasies aren't so specific. It's not like I have imagined some detailed thing that I could then described in a play by play.

 

It's more of images, or perhaps a little "flash" of something, the vast majority of the time these things come to me while I am masterbating or having sex.

 

For example I have thought of a MFM threesome.... Buts it's not like I have played out a whole scenario, it's usually a faceless 'him'.... Maybe I will be receiving oral and imagine having another dick to play with stuff like that.

 

It's similar to how I like short little Tumblr gifs instead of "porn" videos. And I know many other women feel the same way. I like just a glimpse, maybe a little image for my mind to take hold of.... But I am never going to write a mental screen play.

 

If my husband asked me what my fantasies are, I would have a hard time answering.

 

I am open about what I enjoy though, I always say I rather make memories I can play in my head again and again, rather than watch porn or focus on fantasy.

[Mike61]

Thanks for the observations RC. It may be that her fantasies are more in the way of imagery or feeling. But it doesn't hurt to ask

[Popsicle]

She may be afraid that you will actually or eventually want to act on it whereas it's just a fantasy for her.

[Mike61]

That's possible, but I think it's unlikely. For me anyway it represents a part of my wife that is unknown and that is intriguing to me. It could be that her fantasies are flashes or nondescript in some way?

 

I don't have any desire to play out that particular fantasy for many reasons but I'm always curious to know something "new" about my wife.

[mercy]

I'd never tell my fantasies! They're mine alone. If I told h they wouldn't be fantasies anymore.

[JHandy]

Be happy your wife shared her fantasy. Then let it go. She wants you not her fantasy world.

 

My wife is similar. At first i obsessed over it and it frustrated her. But as time went on, we got to a great place with it all. My wife recently said she is bi. She doesn't have a want to be with a woman but she fantasizes all the time.

 

She will say she will never be with a woman but then doesn't want to close that door either. Leaving a 1% chance it could happen.

 

What we have today is a rich sex life that incorporates that kind of stuff. She's hotter and I'm hotter.

 

Id recommend you not obsess over it. Play with it. If your wife is like mine, that 99% is more than enough to have a fulfilling sex life for you both. Obsessing over that 1% could land you in a big world of nothing.

 

If I were to write a book about straight men with bi-wives, I'd call it "she picked you knucklehead." Literally out of practically every human being, she picked you. Enjoy her and enjoy your marriage. It just got a little richer.

[Mrs. John Adams]

I really dont have fantasies....I must be wierd.

[JHandy]

I really dont have fantasies....I must be wierd.

 

Not weird at all We are all different.

[Michelle ma Belle]

Hum...

 

For me, my fantasies aren't so specific. It's not like I have imagined some detailed thing that I could then described in a play by play.

 

It's more of images, or perhaps a little "flash" of something, the vast majority of the time these things come to me while I am masterbating or having sex.

 

For example I have thought of a MFM threesome.... Buts it's not like I have played out a whole scenario, it's usually a faceless 'him'.... Maybe I will be receiving oral and imagine having another dick to play with stuff like that.

 

It's similar to how I like short little Tumblr gifs instead of "porn" videos. And I know many other women feel the same way. I like just a glimpse, maybe a little image for my mind to take hold of.... But I am never going to write a mental screen play.

 

If my husband asked me what my fantasies are, I would have a hard time answering.

 

I am open about what I enjoy though, I always say I rather make memories I can play in my head again and again, rather than watch porn or focus on fantasy.

 

RecentChange, reading your posts makes me wonder if we aren't two sides of the same coin lol.

 

I will echo word for word what RC said here.

 

Although I am often the first one to ask my partners about their fantasies in an effort to connect and build sexual intimacy, when asked to reciprocate, I'm often lost for words as my 'fantasies' are never quite as detailed or choreographed as those of the men I've been with.

 

Perhaps some of it has to do with the fact that I've been fortunate enough to play out so many amazing sexual scenarios that the novelty of being asked to share has tempered a bit, as if its some buried secret just busting at the seams to be let out to play which seems to be the case with many men I've met. That hasn't been my experience at all.

 

The fantasies I tend to have these days are really more about exploring all sorts of sexual experiences with my current partner. And like RC said, it's more about building and banking memories with my partner, whatever they may be, for ages to come.

 

Whatever partner I'm with and committed to is and always has been my greatest fantasy. Nothing can hold a candle to him when it comes to alone time and the playlist of images and sounds and feelings that come from those experiences together.

[Cephalopod]

I really dont have fantasies....I must be wierd.

 

 

 

I don't really have fantasies either. Some people don't live inside their own heads.

[Mrs. John Adams]

I don't really have fantasies either. Some people don't live inside their own heads.

 

Maybe because if either of us want something sexually we talk about and it and agree try it or not.

[Mike61]

Be happy your wife shared her fantasy. Then let it go. She wants you not her fantasy world.

 

My wife is similar. At first i obsessed over it and it frustrated her. But as time went on, we got to a great place with it all. My wife recently said she is bi. She doesn't have a want to be with a woman but she fantasizes all the time.

 

She will say she will never be with a woman but then doesn't want to close that door either. Leaving a 1% chance it could happen.

 

What we have today is a rich sex life that incorporates that kind of stuff. She's hotter and I'm hotter.

 

Id recommend you not obsess over it. Play with it. If your wife is like mine, that 99% is more than enough to have a fulfilling sex life for you both. Obsessing over that 1% could land you in a big world of nothing.

 

If I were to write a book about straight men with bi-wives, I'd call it "she picked you knucklehead." Literally out of practically every human being, she picked you. Enjoy her and enjoy your marriage. It just got a little richer.

 

 

Thanks JH, I'm somewhere between intrigued and fascinated. While I'm not the brightest crayon in the box, I recognize good advice when it floats by. I'll just imagine what she's imagining.

 

If you ever write that book, put me down for a copy - thanks!

[Mike61]

I don't really have fantasies either. Some people don't live inside their own heads.

 

Oh, it's not so bad, my head could use a little dusting though....