Dating a short guy-How does it feel?

[Robratory]

Haha i highly doubt that too lol. I just want to get over the idea that taller guys are hotter. I do want to date him without this idea bothering me.

 

Should it be a factor in your decision, a man who is shorter than average in stature will likely appear to be blessed along a certain length and girth. It's like how B cups look a lot bigger on a 5' 0" girl than a 5' 10" girl.

[toomanyquestions123]

Okay, allow me to be of some assistance. OP, it's okay to dump someone who does not match your height preference. Done.

 

Thank you

[toomanyquestions123]

If you're one of those people that gets more attached after sex, a roll in the hay might solve your problem.

 

Haha in my country having sex immediately OR before marriage is considered very wrong

[toomanyquestions123]

In all honesty, why would he date her?

 

She's admitted he's handsome, fit, successful, and has a six-inch wide dick (or was that another thread:confused:), and she still can't make up her mind to date him. Not marry, mind you. Date.

 

When I did OLD, my height was out there for the world to see on my profile, and some women gave me a chance and met me for when for all they knew, I was some damn doofus... a short doofus.

 

So, if there's women out there for whom height is a non/minor-issue, why would you deal with one who makes such a big deal out of it?

 

Hahahahaah No i didnt have the chance yet to see the length of his dick !! but... short guys thumb theory if you know what i mean lol

[knabe]

The reason why tall women aren't picky is because most look like Big Bird and not like Heidi Klum...

 

Big feet on a woman(which most tall women have) is about as bad as a 4'11" guy that's hung like a doorbell...

 

Not looking to offend anyone, your mileage may vary of course...:laugh:

 

TFY

 

Hey! I resemble that remark! LOL

 

I'm almost 5'10", and for some reason people think I'm pretty. And I wear a size 7 shoe and a size 6.5 ring.

 

I don't look like Heidi Klum though, I'll give ya that.

 

The problem with a lot of tall women is their posture. They were self conscious growing up tall, learned to slump, and it became a habit.

 

I'm with ya on the big feet though. I always feel kinda sorry for my friend who wears a size 12 shoe. Bless her - it's almost impossible for her to find cute shoes.

 

OP, if this guy is awesome, I would work to get past the height thing. Awesome men are a treasure. Don't throw away treasure just because the box isn't big enough.

[smackie9]

I find the older you get the more you don't really care about those kind of things, because what you find attractive will change in some aspect. For me tho I'm still not able to look past beards lol.

 

I'm one of those people that dated short, tall, fat, skinny, unattractive to totally hot. And I know my taste has changed many times through out my life.

 

Maybe the OP is coming to that stage in her life where things are changing for her.

[JuneJulySeptember]

I just found another one this morning while surfing something unrelated...

 

Google ...

 

felipe wu rosane budag

 

They are married.

 

Not only is he well shorter, but he is an Asian guy in a country where there's not that many of them AND in a country where masculinity and femininity roles are on STEROIDS.

 

And he is not rich or famous, they just share a common passion.

 

And I think she is very beautiful (in a normal woman sort of way). Very cute.

 

Again, different people have different ways of thinking.

[toomanyquestions123]

So he revealed how much his height is and it is 5'3" I am 5'2" ))) So wearing heals with him will make me taller than my man Kind of a midget couple.

[Cookiesandough]

Do him a favor and don't date him

[Gaeta]

So he revealed how much his height is and it is 5'3" I am 5'2" ))) So wearing heals with him will make me taller than my man Kind of a midget couple.

 

Do you date for appearances?

 

What's wrong in being a midget couple? You think Amy Roloffs would change her Matthew because he's short. The man has more guts and genius in his head than any 6' tall man. He took his family from a little house in a prairie to stardom with an industry that generates millions.

 

I am rolling my eyes at you really, let that poor man find himself a woman with a little more depth.

[Lil-Miss-Anthropy]

I'm only 5'2" and I love short guys because they're just a little bit taller than me! I love not having to crane my neck to look them in the eyes, kiss them, and dance with them, and it's so much easier to try out different positions for sex and cuddling! I get tired of looking at tall guys' chests all the time and screwing my head into weird positions trying to get closer to them.

 

I can understand the appeal of having a partner of a certain height — I myself am turned off if someone is too tall. However, if you really like someone, it's worth giving it a shot. I have fallen for men I'd consider too tall for me.

 

It's worth examining if your bias is self-imposed or created by your culture. There are a lot of great qualities short men have that you may not have noticed because they are put down in your culture. Maybe you will find that your bias changes as you allow yourself to notice these qualities; maybe not. It's really up to you. If you want to turn down an otherwise great person due to their height, that is 100% your decision to make and it's okay, no matter what anyone tells you. (Just don't tell the person you're rejecting your reason for doing so, as that could hurt their self-esteem.)

[amaysngrace]

I don't mind short men because I'm short too so they may think they're short but to me they're tall.

[toomanyquestions123]

Sooooo I went out with this guy for the first time on Friday and he is exactly my same height maybe 2 cms taller than me, with very big muscles so basically a mini hulk. First date we went for a fancy dinner and then for drinks on a rooftop, i was really distracted by this subject so i asked him if he ever had a problem with girls because of his height he told me he really likes girls to be taller than him and nicely said you can wear high heals if u want with me. Yesterday we went to movies and a dinner and wore high heals and it was a surprise, i liked being taller than him more than being same height as him. I really liked his personality too, hes very caring and into me. I think i will give it a real shot ) Thank you all for the support !!!

[toomanyquestions123]

[]I wrote a forum about if i should date a very short guy (5.4 ft). Well I have an announcement, We went into 14 dates in 3 weeks & he is travelling again today for 3 weeks. We had our first kiss yesterday ( he surprised me with a romantic dinner on the beach and we made out on the sand :$ ).

 

Whilst he seems the nicest person i have ever met, i had some struggles accepting his height in some few occasions. When we first went out with his friends and most of them are extremely tall i was totally turned off by him & even thought of cutting it off. There was this occasion where i had to introduce him to my friends and i was a little bit embarrassed by his height.

 

Then i came to the sense where i either break up or stay but it was a very hard decision since he is seriously a very very nice guy that every girl wishes to be with to build a future with. Yesterday was magical, i was so into him and attracted to him ( not sure if it is the wine ) but i finally developed some attraction towards him and was able to kiss him. Any of the fellows here with similar stories ?

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[CautiouslyOptimistic]

That's great .

 

Oh, and also, 14 dates until the first kiss!? Not only is he nice, he is patient!!!

 

Glad you're giving him a chance .

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[Bastile]

Any of the fellows here with similar stories ?

 

I actually saw this 5 foot 4 man that everyone keeps going on about on Saturday.

 

I swear to god, I was coming out of a shop, and there he was.

 

I forgot about that

 

Good you're having fun, love. Don't worry about what (or maybe whom?) everyone else is or isn't doing.

[TheBathWater]

I was reading some research recently that said, on average, men who are short marry later in life and also have more stable marriages.

 

I'm 5'6", and I know that I've had to make my way a little bit harder in life at times because I'm not tall. I once had a coworker who is 6'3" or so and was easily the worst employee in the department but was the first to receive a certain coveted promotion, while I had overqualified credentials. I've also had to focus more intently on developing aspects of my personality to attract women since I don't get my foot in the door initially as easily with some women as tall men do.

 

I guess what I'm saying is that, for some of us guys who aren't tall, we have developed a higher quality of character that makes us more suitable long-term partners for the lucky women we end up with. I am glad you have decided to go outside of your usual expectations for the sake of your own happiness. Who knows? You may be at the start of a very rewarding relationship.

[5x5]

I was reading some research recently that said, on average, men who are short marry later in life and also have more stable marriages.

 

I'm 5'3" and I first got married when I was 19 to my 5'6" 18 year old ex-wife who I got pregnant, that marriage was rather unstable and I ended it near our first anniversary. Then later got married for the second time when I was close to turning 28, to my 5'7" wife who was close to turning 29. My second marriage has thus far lasted 18+ years. Yet my height has absolutely nothing to do with the longevity of my second marriage, or of the 21+ year sexual relationship that marriage is part of.

 

I'm 5'6", and I know that I've had to make my way a little bit harder in life at times because I'm not tall.

 

I don't think you should sell yourself short for being short.

 

Being 5'3" I/ve never found being short, has ever disadvantaged me or made my way a little bit harder in life, since being short is not a disability.

 

I had no trouble being a young leader of men (21 through 28) as a Section Commander (Squad Leader) and Platoon Sergeant in infantry where I was the shortest guy in the Battalions I had served in. While I had also never lacked for attractive female sexual partners and offers of sex either.

 

I have no doubt that if I thought my height was a limitation, it would certainly be a limitation, because I would have made it a limitation as a consequence of my own behaviour.

 

I once had a coworker who is 6'3" or so and was easily the worst employee in the department but was the first to receive a certain coveted promotion, while I had overqualified credentials.

 

I've been in a sexual relationship with a woman who is 6'2" and plenty of other tall women. While on my fathers side most of my male cousins are 6'1" to 6'5", while most of my female cousins are 5'11" to 6'2". Yet I've never felt my lack of height is an issue.

 

As to your coworker who got a promotion where you didn't, they may have better leadership qualities than you. Interviewed better, addressed the position description criteria better etc.

 

My wife has been in various government management roles for the last ten years (and leadership roles for almost a decade before that), and employs men and women with various qualifications inclusive of multiple tertiary post graduate qualifications. She has hired many people (inclusive of for management roles) and over time has let some go, written various position descriptions, and been on many interview panels for her own services and as a guest for other agencies and government bodies. While she is also on a panel that awards scholarships for rising stars in her professional field.

 

Yet she has never discriminated against anyone based on their gender, race, religious belief or lack of. sexual preferences or height etc. The only times she has ever not given overqualified people roles or interviews, was when they failed to address the criteria properly, or were applying for entry level traineeships that called for a lack of qualifications (which goes back to criteria), or there were better candidates for the role based on all of the criteria not just qualifications.

 

I am very sceptical that your height saw you not get the position you mentioned.

 

I've also had to focus more intently on developing aspects of my personality to attract women since I don't get my foot in the door initially as easily with some women as tall men do.

 

I've always found it easier to just be myself. Since for some reason there have been plenty of women, that have been drawn to me and have thought I was attractive in a variety of ways.

 

As to getting ones foot in the door, there are plenty of short guys who have no trouble with this at all, just as there are plenty of tall men who do.

 

I guess what I'm saying is that, for some of us guys who aren't tall, we have developed a higher quality of character that makes us more suitable long-term partners for the lucky women we end up with.

 

I don't think that shorter men as a consequence of being short, make for better long term partners than taller men.

 

Character of any quality is not particularly inherent to any particular height of any people. There are lots of great tall people, just as there are lots of short people who suck at being decent human beings.

 

I am glad you have decided to go outside of your usual expectations for the sake of your own happiness. Who knows? You may be at the start of a very rewarding relationship.

 

Maybe she is at the start of exactly that, I hope she enjoys wherever it takes her.

[5x5]

Any of the fellows here with similar stories ?

 

My wife (5'7") of 18+ years had never dated any man shorter than 6' tall and had likewise never asked a man out on a date. Yet when she was close to 26 and I (5'3") was close to 25, she thought I was very attractive and asked me out on a date. Then went on a date with me, then dumped the taller guy she was in a sexual relationship with, then had sex with me on our third date. Till she eventually asked me to marry her and 21+ years later we are still together having lots of fun and sharing lots of sex.

 

That said my wife did take a while to get used to dating a man who was shorter than her. Yet through more than two decades as always she still holds on to me closely while we walk around together while out and about. Personally I've always thought it is hot when my wife wears heels or boots making her even taller when we're out together.

 

When my ex-wife who is 5'6" first met me at a party she thought I was hot, so she asked a friend to ask me to come over and say hello to her. This then led to her asking me to kiss her after she told me how beautiful my eyes, face and smile were. Which then led us to sharing sex together a couple of hours later through the rest of the night. Which led to a happy relationship that had run it's course at the end of 18 months.

 

The only thing that went wrong for us is we were still having sex after it was over and I got her pregnant, despite birth control. Which led to a short and pretty crappy 2½ year marriage inclusive of a 1½ year legal separation before we got divorced. Since I thought it was better than her getting an abortion, which is what she wanted. That said we've both had long relationships with our respective second spouses, so it's not like either of us have been unsuited to enjoying long term successful relationships.

 

Then there was my third longest relationship, where I liked her and she was shorter than me at 5'2" yet I asked her out we went on one date, where I kissed her goodnight at her door afterwards and she said something along the lines of "no more, I'm not like that", and I thought I've got her next time then.

 

So we then went on a second date, where she asked me to go to a party with her which sucked, since I hardly saw her because it was some sort of Christian party where the women were separated from the men. Then on the way home with her the next day, I had decided I was going to let her go since I am not into religious people. Yet she made it clear she thought they were weird and she wasn't one of them, she just gave in to their constant nagging at university. So we went to hers and had sex and then dated for a long time afterwards, till I eventually dumped her.

 

Then between all of them I have dated and or had sex with a fair number of other women most of whom were taller than me and of them the majority chased me in the first instance, while I turned down plenty of others as well.

 

It's simply always been the usual fair of girl likes boy so girl asks boy out and boy also likes girl, so they have fun together. Or boy likes girl so boy asks girl out and girl also likes boy, so they have fun together.

 

Anyway that said I hope you have lots of fun with this guy, so good luck.

[toomanyquestions123]

Thank you all for your support. 5*5 WOW your stories ring a bell a lot. Never thought of dating a guy who is similar to my height but it happened that this guy is such a sweetheart & at this point of my life i need a man like him;Supportive in all aspects, extremely into me & extremely successful in his profession. However I really felt weird when going out on parties with him and me wearing heals, i felt like in a world of midgets I am a giant lol. So i looked for shoe elevator lifts on amazon that can lift you up for about 2.5 ft & since this guy is such a mature guy he ordered them because i felt uncomfortable while dancing. He didnt complain & said thats me either you take it or leave it. BTW He told that i am the first one that raises a concern about his height, told me all his exes are taller than him & they loved it lol.

 

Cautiouslyoptimistic HAHA i usually kiss by the 3d date maximum but i was not that attracted at the beginning to kiss him until i was

[toomanyquestions123]

I was reading some research recently that said, on average, men who are short marry later in life and also have more stable marriages.

 

I'm 5'6", and I know that I've had to make my way a little bit harder in life at times because I'm not tall. I once had a coworker who is 6'3" or so and was easily the worst employee in the department but was the first to receive a certain coveted promotion, while I had overqualified credentials. I've also had to focus more intently on developing aspects of my personality to attract women since I don't get my foot in the door initially as easily with some women as tall men do.

 

I guess what I'm saying is that, for some of us guys who aren't tall, we have developed a higher quality of character that makes us more suitable long-term partners for the lucky women we end up with. I am glad you have decided to go outside of your usual expectations for the sake of your own happiness. Who knows? You may be at the start of a very rewarding relationship.

 

BTW thats so true & thats exactly what my date told me. He said short guys usually work another aspects of his personality so he can prove himself. As per my guy, he worked steadily in his profession as much as his character. He is a very smart and well mannered guy. Maybe Yes I am a lucky girl

[Erik30]

i was so into him and attracted to him ( not sure if it is the wine ) but i finally developed some attraction towards him and was able to kiss him.

 

Could be me, but I would probably be a bit insulted if the person I was dating felt that way about me. I can only imagine the outrage if someone would say similar things about dating overweight people or different ethnicities. You should probably keep that to yourself and never tell him. Hope it works out for you

[basil67]

Could be me, but I would probably be a bit insulted if the person I was dating felt that way about me. I can only imagine the outrage if someone would say similar things about dating overweight people or different ethnicities. You should probably keep that to yourself and never tell him. Hope it works out for you

 

I had a similar reaction. Though I have read similar things about people who are overweight or very thin. Some things just don't need to be said.

[Erik30]

I had a similar reaction. Though I have read similar things about people who are overweight or very thin. Some things just don't need to be said.

 

 

Yeah, if I was dating a girl who at first I used to be embarrassed to be seen with, but after 14 dates and some drinks I could finally bring myself to kiss her... that's not exactly a compliment. Most people would probably end it if they would find out

[kazen]

When he gets old, he'll be even shorter. Old people shrink. And on days when he has bad posture, he'll look shorter too. Just letting OP know so she'll get even more paranoid about his height.