Ladies, do you prefer guys who are cocky or humble?

[thefooloftheyear]

 

A really humble dude, you might never know what his accomplishments are because he doesn't want to talk about them.

 

While I can't speak for anyone else, I can tell you from my own experience that its not so much about humility as it is the people with accomplishments just get sick and tired of talking about it and having people ask you about it all the effing time...It may be worth an ego boost for some, but after a while it just becomes absolutely tiresome and the last thing in the world you want to talk about...

 

TFY

[GorillaTheater]

How about a guy who's, you know, a little bit cocky?

 

 

Asking for a friend.

[JuneL]

 

Someone was asking my husband about his bike competition experience. He was saying “oh yeah, I used to go to a lot of competitions and wasn’t half bad” then went on to talk more about his lifestyle at the time etc.

 

I butted in… “not half bad” if you think representing the US at the World Championships as not half bad.

 

 

I think people at that level tend to compare their accomplishments with their peers. So his representing the US at the World Championships may be considered huge for an average person, but he's probably thinking about his teammates who are even more accomplished.

[knabe]

Where do all you ladies meet "humble" men? Is it at the Man of the Year Award ceremony where he is down playing all of his achievements? Or is it in the streets where you don't look twice at him and hope he doesn't say a word to you?

 

Your problem, like many of the other men on this thread, is that you have an incorrect definition of humble. You equate humble with weak and meek. Itis not.

 

Speaking frankly, my fiance would "whoop the arse" of anyone who tried to hurt or put the moves on me...but he is humble in that he does not view himself as better or others as less than himself. He knows his worth, but he does not think arrogantly that I am lucky to have him and better tow the line or he'll move onto one of the other millions of women who could replace me in a heartbeat.

 

A man is not humble because he is weak. A man is humble because he is not threatened by other's value, so he doesn't have to constantly assert his own

[Imported]

Your problem, like many of the other men on this thread, is that you have an incorrect definition of humble. You equate humble with weak and meek. Itis not.

 

Speaking frankly, my fiance would "whoop the arse" of anyone who tried to hurt or put the moves on me...but he is humble in that he does not view himself as better or others as less than himself. He knows his worth, but he does not think arrogantly that I am lucky to have him and better tow the line or he'll move onto one of the other millions of women who could replace me in a heartbeat.

 

A man is not humble because he is weak. A man is humble because he is not threatened by other's value, so he doesn't have to constantly assert his own

 

No, that is not what I think "humble" is (weak). I do think a lot of men think they are humble or a nice guy and use that as an excuse to complain about women and how they only like jerks.

[knabe]

No, that is not what I think "humble" is (weak). I do think a lot of men think they are humble or a nice guy and use that as an excuse to complain about women and how they only like jerks.

 

EXACTLY. These men use "niceness" to try to get a girl, and when they don't get her, the niceness disappears, and they get mad and bitter because they felt entitled to her. Entitlement is the opposite of humility.

[Wookin Pa Nub]

I think women like cocky guys bc I am drowning in lady bits.

[preraph]

I think women like cocky guys bc I am drowning in lady bits.

 

He said humbly.

 

P.S. Albertus, this is Loveshack, not Wigshack.

[guest569]

I always considered humble a positive and admirable quality. I think it's part of a culture. Don't brag or show off. There is a quiet confidence in there. A smooth, calm demeanour, with no inclination to self promote.

 

Cockiness could be ok, as long as he has a soft side and can acknowledge his short comings and strive to improve. Confidence is great, but overconfidence can be a weakness. But sometimes I feel as though cockiness masks insecurity, fake it til you make it.