George9 Posted August 11, 2017 Share Posted August 11, 2017 Other day I met my acquittance that I haven't seen for many years. Because of some social activity, we spent the whole day together. We had a great time and learned so much about each other. Both of us realised how many things we have in common. We could communicate to each other with out wearing a social mask on us. In the end of the day it felt like this is exactly the person that I've been looking for all of my life. However, I still have mixed feelings if the spark was on a friendly or "crushy" level. Any thoughts how could I figure it out? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted August 11, 2017 Share Posted August 11, 2017 Ask your crush on a date. That is the purpose of dating -- to spend time together to see if you are compatible. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Herbalist Posted August 11, 2017 Share Posted August 11, 2017 Yes ask them out on a date. I had a similar experience not very long ago, but I am a woman and it turned out that he was gay, and he was just really friendly and we clicked as friends was all. With a genuinely kind person who likes you as a friend, they won't be mean or embarrass you if you express interest that is not mutual, they will be nice about it and let you down gently, so there is nothing to fear. If they are mean about it, then you dodged a bullet, anyway! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
slunk13 Posted August 12, 2017 Share Posted August 12, 2017 I just posed a long story about my experience with a coworker. We too would spend a lot of time together. We too had a lot in common and could be ourselves around each other. I spent a lot of time wondering if there was more to things than just being friends. I made the mistake of not speaking up. The only way to find out is to let them know how you feel. Ask them out on a date. If that goes well ask them out on another. Let them know that you're into them. Don't let yourself do what I did and spend months with someone only to finally realize that there was nothing there. Link to post Share on other sites
Author George9 Posted August 12, 2017 Author Share Posted August 12, 2017 I just posed a long story about my experience with a coworker. We too would spend a lot of time together. We too had a lot in common and could be ourselves around each other. I spent a lot of time wondering if there was more to things than just being friends. I made the mistake of not speaking up. The only way to find out is to let them know how you feel. Ask them out on a date. If that goes well ask them out on another. Let them know that you're into them. Don't let yourself do what I did and spend months with someone only to finally realize that there was nothing there. Thanks for your input. The main reason I hesitate to make a move is because she recently broke up with her boyfriend. I have a feeling that her overly friendly behavior might have something to do with that. Link to post Share on other sites
slunk13 Posted August 12, 2017 Share Posted August 12, 2017 Hey no problem. Some of what you said sounded too familiar and I needed to reply. Her just getting out of a relationship might very well have something to do with it. Only one way to find out though! Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted August 12, 2017 Share Posted August 12, 2017 Thanks for your input. The main reason I hesitate to make a move is because she recently broke up with her boyfriend. I have a feeling that her overly friendly behavior might have something to do with that. If you don't make the move, you know that someone else will? Link to post Share on other sites
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