deliverymyheart Posted August 11, 2017 Share Posted August 11, 2017 these past 11 days have been crazy for me. Any advice out there on how to address these two things: One) Ive been looking for work in my field due to me now being a recent college grad. So I text a dear friend that I get an email for a job interview. She ignores the message but sends me a meme in a group chat on insta 20 minutes after i sent that text. I then go ok thanks for the support sarcastically. The next morning she calls me and goes. Omg so what happened. I explain the interview, and rather than her go congrats. She changes the subject and goes oh ok. Well I have a job interview lined up too. I will be working with these higher ups and important people at a bank. So I go ok cool, congrats. Like wtf. no support and your making it out to be a competition and for what? .. this is the same friend that attended my graduation and gave me gifts. What changed. Btw she is getting worse by the day. I dont see us being friends much longer. And I dont see us being able to fix it. She refuses to see what she did was wrong. two) i'm attempting to put myself out there. Its not working out. for one, its fear. Im afraid. Im now second guessing everything. i'm afraid that im damaged, and these broken/ shattered pieces that make up who I am. Cant be put together again. I feel utterly lost....... Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted August 14, 2017 Share Posted August 14, 2017 There are lots of people too wrapped up in their own lives to have more than a passing interest in the details of a friend's life. So don't feel it only happens to you. You tell some people stuff and they just counter with their own stuff. Example: If I tell my sister something about one of my dogs, like I found a lump or something, she wouldn't follow up with questions but would say something like, My cat still has that thing going on with her mouth. Low on the empathy scale and even lower on the social politeness scale. Probably only bothers with someone she's super into at the moment. Link to post Share on other sites
CptInsano Posted August 14, 2017 Share Posted August 14, 2017 She may simply be somewhat aloof. Some people just don't get it, or just like to talk about whatever comes to their minds. I had a gf like that, and that stream of consciousness would escape her, because she was happy and excited. She cared, but she buried it under a lot of words. Does your friend typically behave that way? Link to post Share on other sites
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