hercules22 Posted August 21, 2017 Share Posted August 21, 2017 sounds suspicious alot people like to use alcohol as an excuse something may have happened and he remembers i dont how you could even forgot sleeping with someone i can never forget who i slept with while drunk even if im really drunk if i had sex i am not forgetting but that just me. Link to post Share on other sites
coolheadal Posted August 21, 2017 Share Posted August 21, 2017 I was away from my boyfriend for a month, and shortly before I am due to return he tells me he's going out to a gig with friends. I tell him to enjoy his night blah blah blah 4 days later I come back and see him and as we are lying in bed that night he tells me it was hard being away from me and that he wasn't a very good boyfriend. I immediately freak out and interpret this as a confession to cheating. As I am about to run out the room he is confused and then tells me not to and that he didn't sleep with anyone else. The genuine surprise in his voice makes me believe him. He tells me that a number of people tried to hit on him whilst I was away but he didn't act on any of this. Okay, sure, whatever, it happens. He told me that on Friday after him and his friends went back to his friends place to crash after the gig. He said he was very drunk and curled up at the bottom of one of the beds in his friends place. He also sent me a text to let me know he was home safe (don't know if he remembers this, but he did). He told me that before the gig he'd told one of his male friends that this girl with them might try something on him and that he didn't want anything to happen as he has a girlfriend (me). He had known this girl for about a year before he met me, though I am unsure if they ever had a thing or were just friends. By the sounds of it she had made a pass at him one or two times before but he said she knew that he had a girlfriend now. Anyway he said when she woke up she was there in the bed with him (I don't know her state of undress or his). He said he moved to the couch and away from her. I trust him when he says he didn't remember anything happened- but this is the exact problem, he doesn't REMEMBER. I told him I was worried about this and he said I shouldn't be worried and that he would've known if he'd had sex. I don't know if they made out or kissed or anything. At the time I didn't react much as I was relieved and thought he was going to tell me much worse. However I day later I told him I was disappointed he didn't tell me this straight away, and he said he wanted to tell me in person. I told him to do everything he could to avoid being put in that situation again with that girl if he knows she has a thing for him. I trust him but I'm honestly so unsure what to think and the fact that something may have happened is eating me up inside right now. I told him I'd feel weird about it for a while and he said he would too. I just don't know. I don't really want him hanging round this girl again and I already know if he allowed something like this to happen again I'd have to seriously question continuing the relationship. His ex girlfriend cheated on him and he has always been dead against cheating and highly valued loyalty. I have never been anything but loyal to him. TL;DR boyfriend woke up in bed w/ another girl, says nothing happened to his memory (he was drunk). I am extremely unsure about this. What should I do? He's not telling you the truth, making up excuses, you and him are not engaged nor married. He can do whatever he wants. Sexual Urge is strong so he and this girl had sex and made out in the bed. Which bed was he telling you he didn't sleep in with her. You missed that one didn't you. The trust is broken, time for you to remove yourself from him. You should always follow your gut that's the little voice that knows something is not right. You know it happen but don't be in denial about it. A real man won't have done it with his ex gif but he didn't think about you, he did because he wanted it to happen. he's the cheater, he will always do this when your gone. Weak guy not self-control for the woman he wants to be with but your not that woman he remember what the ex gf gave him so he wanted that sex urge with her. He's lying to you saying whatever you want to hear so you don't question him anymore about it. The way he describes the story is so stupid. Link to post Share on other sites
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