From friend to GF?

[guild11]

Hey guys, I'm 27 and my 2 year relationship has ended about 3 month ago,

After the break up I started going out with new friends and then started hanging out with a girl (19) that used to work with me.

 

I knew from the beginning that she likes me but she never talked about it and we were just friends, hanging out together every weekend with friends or just us, I didn't find her attractive but I had good time spending with her.

 

Last weekend we were at the pub with some friends, later that night we split up and I asked her if she wants to come over without any sexual intention.

We came to my place, smoked weed and watched random stuff on the TV.

 

At some point I started massaging her legs... and from there things got a bit out of control, she said multiple that she is a virgin and that we should stop.

I respected her request and let her go, but few minutes after she wanted it herself.

 

Eventually we had a sex and it was one of the best I had even though it was painful at the beginning for her.

 

Now I have some troublesome thoughts... was it wrong to have sex with a 19 yo when I'm 27 ?

Should I consider getting in relationship with her ?

I also have guilty feelings that I "used" her because of my needs when she was a virgin.

[preraph]

I think the age gap could be problematic especially the experience gap there. But my overall feeling is if you like this woman well enough to date her, then stop just having sex with her and date her properly. If not, then no, you shouldn't have taken her virginity. I assume she was holding onto it for some reason, but who knows. Maybe you're the first guy she knew enough from working together to trust or something.

 

You said you weren't that attracted to her, but now how do you feel? I say date her and not just for sex. Take her out and treat her like a lady and make her feel good about this first time.

[guild11]

I think the age gap could be problematic especially the experience gap there. But my overall feeling is if you like this woman well enough to date her, then stop just having sex with her and date her properly. If not, then no, you shouldn't have taken her virginity. I assume she was holding onto it for some reason, but who knows. Maybe you're the first guy she knew enough from working together to trust or something.

 

You said you weren't that attracted to her, but now how do you feel? I say date her and not just for sex. Take her out and treat her like a lady and make her feel good about this first time.

 

Now I find her attractive... I took her as a good friend all this time until that night.

[road]

I think the age gap could be problematic especially the experience gap there. But my overall feeling is if you like this woman well enough to date her, then stop just having sex with her and date her properly. If not, then no, you shouldn't have taken her virginity. I assume she was holding onto it for some reason, but who knows. Maybe you're the first guy she knew enough from working together to trust or something.

 

You said you weren't that attracted to her, but now how do you feel? I say date her and not just for sex. Take her out and treat her like a lady and make her feel good about this first time.

 

Good advice, follow it.