Why dont cheaters like the taste of their own medicine ?

[Vanity1]

I'm not trying to figure out my ex. But I'm just wondering why is it that they can do whatever to you , cheat, talk to other girls/ guys, hang out with the opposite sex. They act like it's such a bad thing if YOU do it but not them?

 

 

I've had my phone smashed into pieces twice just for briefly being on my phone and being accused of talking to guys meanwhile I was not, other way around. Why is it their rules only apply to them?

[Scarlett.O'hara]

Your phone has been broken by twice, by two different guys? Seriously, if that is the case, it isn't the double standard of cheating you should be worried about, but violent guys you are dating.

 

Even if it is just the one guy, those are some serious character flaws you have described, so it isn't hard to imagine why these types of people would have a completely skewed logic and sense of entitlement that would make them a terrible partner.

 

There is no knowing where their unpredictability and irrational behavior will lead, so it is safer to just stay well away from these types of people.

[Vanity1]

Your phone has been broken by twice, by two different guys? Seriously, if that is the case, it isn't the double standard of cheating you should be worried about, but violent guys you are dating.

 

Even if it is just the one guy, those are some serious character flaws you have described, so it isn't hard to imagine why these types of people would have a completely skewed logic and sense of entitlement that would make them a terrible partner.

 

There is no knowing where their unpredictability and irrational behavior will lead, so it is safer to just stay well away from these types of people.

 

No by the same guy. He's the only one whose been like this.

[basil67]

No by the same guy. He's the only one whose been like this.

 

The question I'd be asking is why you stayed with an abusive man?

[Blanco]

OP, it will be easier for new readers to follow if you just add these talking points to your original thread about this relationship.

[Steve51]

My guess is because they know what it is like. Not just something told to you in general terms with the sex and passion minimize to soften the blow. The cheater is never going to tell the truth. He knows how it really is and not some story where his wife was drunk and fell on the other guy's penis.

[PegNosePete]

Why is it their rules only apply to them?

Because you accept it.

[Popsicle]

No one likes to be cheated on. A cheater is not going to be okay with it just because they cheated themselves. If they are okay with it it's only because they have twisted their own thinking to justify their own behavior and to hold onto you at the same time. People bend their standards all the time just to hold on. It's not normal to accept cheating unless you're downright apathetic towards your mate.

 

If you want to have a revenge affair then be prepared for them to be angry no matter if they cheated or not. If you're angry that your mate cheated, then leave them, rather than stay and twist your own behavior to make yourself feel better.

[ExpatInItaly]

I'm not trying to figure out my ex. But I'm just wondering why is it that they can do whatever to you , cheat, talk to other girls/ guys, hang out with the opposite sex. They act like it's such a bad thing if YOU do it but not them?

 

 

I've had my phone smashed into pieces twice just for briefly being on my phone and being accused of talking to guys meanwhile I was not, other way around. Why is it their rules only apply to them?

 

Most cheaters are not this extreme. This person sounds downright violent and scary.

[Vanity1]

OP, it will be easier for new readers to follow if you just add these talking points to your original thread about this relationship.

 

No because my question nor this thread is really about him but cheaters with this Kind of mindset in general.

[Blanco]

In your case, cheating is almost a non-issue compared to this guy's physical abuse. I would be more focused on why you stayed with a guy who purposely damaged your property on more than one occasion.

[Redhead14]

Most people who cheat do not like to see themselves in the mirror . . . in other words, if they cheat, they may be expecting others to cheat, they see it in others and don't like it because they see themselves.

[Chi townD]

Because he thinks he gave you a hallpass and he doesn't want you to use it.

[preraph]

Someone who cheats at any good opportunity will usually assume so would everybody else. We tend to assume people think like we do.