24 and never kissed a girl.

[Brad17]

Hi LoveShack forum.

 

I was googling some stuff on internet, and your forum came out. And it says "love", so maybe it's worth try.

 

As a title says: I'm 24 years old guy who never kissed a girl. And I don't even know what to do it terms of that.

 

A lot of people seems to like my goofy stories, my sense of humor, a lot of female says that I'm cute and adorable, I look pretty good, I treat woman with respect .. but still 24 and never kissed. I am shy and nervous when I meet someone, but I talk a lot easier with girls then guys. Guys are just like: football, beer, sex and PC games .. not my style really.

 

I don't meet girls in real life, since I'm little bit short with friends. I did try some forums in my state, some facebook groups and classic stuff like okcupid, badoo and other. Last 4 persons which I was on coffee with told some really nice things about me. Which kinda gave me boost in terms of self esteem, but still; I don't "date". I was maximum 3 times on coffee with the same girl. And they were all like: "U are really nice guy, but He is better.". Last girl which I was seeing didn't want anything with me 'couse I'm "24 year old virgin". And I don't really have problem with that. I see girls from my town being married with 19, pregnant with 16 ... I also see everyone get drunk and have drunken ONS or kiss 10 girls in same night. I was never into that. I would really describe myself as "Josh Klinghoffer meets Jules Bianchi".

 

Also, last girl which I have shown interest in, she just stopped replying to my messages .. so I stoped care about her. It just blows. I just don't get that ... most of them are like: "I'm in love with jerk, why I can't meet decent guy" ,.. and when that happends: ".... Naaaah, you are too nice for me.", or some other feminist stuff.

 

I'm really sorry if last few sentences sound angry (?) ... I'm not angry at all, or even agressive. I've never been in fight, or ever hit someone .... I'm just disappointed with some stuff in my life and I think that I "deserved more" in some life fields.

[d0nnivain]

You have to do whatever it takes to summon your courage & come out of your shell. You do sound like a nice guy so if you actually step away from your keyboard & put down your phone you shouldn't have too much trouble interacting with others. Everybody is shy.

 

 

Find a group that interests you that actually meets in real life -- a co-ed sport, a hobby, volunteering doing something you like. Go to an event, Smile & say hi. If you break the ice with the "hi" most people at events like that will talk to you too.

 

 

You don't have to be a sparkling conversationalist. Just listen & be interested in what the other person has to say. Don't lead with your shortcomings. be confident that you are a quality person.

 

 

Next time you take a woman out, at the end of the date lean over & give her a peck on the cheek. Yes, be that bold. take her out again & kiss her lips this time. It's dumb but watch the kissing lesson scene from the movie Hitch to get some tips about the eye contact & the lean in.

[preraph]

Here's the thing. If you want to kiss a girl, you have to ask one out on a date and be entertaining which it sounds like you are and then kiss her when you drop her off at home at the end of the night. It is not rocket science. Where are you are failing is you are waiting for some woman to make the first move on you because you are extremely fearful. That is not likely to happen and you are setting yourself on a path of failure if you continue that thinking. To get anything in life you have to pursue it and be proactive and ask for things whether it's a date or a job. There are no guarantees and you have to let any rejections roll off your back because in life and in dating there are a lot of mismatches and rejections.

 

What you do not do that you have already begun doing is get bitter and blame other people for your failure to initiate and ask a woman out. You should not think that texting someone online over a long period of time is going to result in anything because people want action. If they are interested in talking to you in the first week it is time to ask them on a date and see if they will go or not. You do not have to use any pickup lines or act like someone you're not. You have normal conversations about things you and she are interested in and ask what she is interested in and about herself and see if you have anything to talk about enough that you want to date each other.

 

No woman is going to drop out of the ceiling into your lap and make this easy for you. It is not everybody else's fault that you are too fearful to act and this is something you have to get over and soon. So force yourself out of the comfort zone, stop blaming women's taste in men on why you can't get a date because there's all types of women, and ask someone out.

 

Do not ever tell women you are a virgin or you have never kissed someone because this automatically put you more in the category of a little brother then a date and besides it's none of their business. They will not be able to tell that you have not kissed or that you are a virgin if you do not tell them. There are plenty of guys having sex who are not necessarily smooth or good at it so they won't know the difference between you and one of them so just don't tell them. Stop sitting on your hands and making excuses and talk to girls and ask one out within a week of talking to her. If she says no move on to the next one. Good luck.

[CptInsano]

You will also need to realize that you cannot be a male version of a woman's girlfriend when it comes to dating. "Cute and adorable" is not what you are going for. At a minimum shoot for confident and entertaining. Dating is not the time to discuss problems, and if you told your date that you are a virgin then you are on the wrong path.

 

Dating is lot about having fun together. If football, beer and sex are not your thing, then by all means think about what you can do beyond the coffee date to have fun with her.

[Brad17]

... you shouldn't have too much trouble interacting with others. Everybody is shy.

 

Trust me, I need "find friends 101" or "dating 305" lessions.

 

Next time you take a woman out, at the end of the date lean over & give her a peck on the cheek. Yes, be that bold. take her out again & kiss her lips this time. It's dumb but watch the kissing lesson scene from the movie Hitch to get some tips about the eye contact & the lean in.

 

How can you "force" someone in kiss stuff, if you even aren't sure if that person likes you? I don't think that if someone accepted to go out with you, instantly means that you can kiss her.

 

rocket science

 

Trust me, I had particle psysics on my collage. Going out on a date is way worse.

 

You should not think that texting someone online over a long period of time is going to result in anything because people want action.

 

That was my bad. But I didn't want to interrupt her during exams. So we "froze" our communication for some time.

 

stop blaming women's taste in men on why you can't get a date because there's all types of women, and ask someone out.

 

I do get that "no" means "no". But I'm really tired of $h177y excuses 'couse someone can't be honest about one thing. Why is so d4mn hard to say "I don't like you". I can live with that .. why everything needs to be bu11$h17 reason?

 

Dating is lot about having fun together. If football, beer and sex are not your thing, then by all means think about what you can do beyond the coffee date to have fun with her.

 

Trust me. I do have things to offer.

[d0nnivain]

You can't & you shouldn't force somebody to kiss you. Watch the Hitch movie clip. It will explain the non-verbal communications which will signal that she wants you to kiss her.

 

 

Consider taking a social interaction class like the Dale Carnegie class on How to Win Friends & Influence People. If you can't afford that consider a group called ToastMasters. It is more about public speaking but it discusses & teaches social interaction.

[normal person]

How can you "force" someone in kiss stuff, if you even aren't sure if that person likes you? I don't think that if someone accepted to go out with you, instantly means that you can kiss her.

 

Don't "force" anything. Learn to read the context of the situation to determine if she likes you or not. If she's in a rush to leave, unresponsive, distracted, not particularly interested in engaging with you, it's probably not a great idea to try and kiss her. If she's seemingly enjoying herself, laughing, engaging with you, etc, that's a positive sign. Women are subtle, but if you look at them through the lens of common sense, they're not hard to figure out.

 

Trust me, I had particle psysics on my collage. Going out on a date is way worse.

 

No it's not. Use common sense. Ask yourself why a person would act a certain way (positive/negative), the implications thereof (they like you/they don't like you), and then proceed (take the next step/cut your losses).

 

I do get that "no" means "no". But I'm really tired of $h177y excuses 'couse someone can't be honest about one thing. Why is so d4mn hard to say "I don't like you". I can live with that .. why everything needs to be bu11$h17 reason?

 

Because they think they're doing you a favor by sparing your feelings and they don't realize you just want to know the truth. Also, there are some concerns about angering you, safety, etc.

 

Trust me. I do have things to offer.

 

Like what?

[Brad17]

...

 

Europe guy. But I will google it, maybe it will come out something usefull.

 

... they're not hard to figure out.

 

Trust me, I'm very start guy ... girls are complicated.

 

Because they think they're doing you a favor by sparing your feelings and they don't realize you just want to know the truth. Also, there are some concerns about angering you, safety, etc.

 

Again: bull$h17 reason.

 

If you know someone for some time; it souldn't be that hard.

 

Like what?

 

I can be really sweet, gentle and carrying person. I'm really good with kids ... lot of people told me stuff like: "Don't worry, you will be a great dad some day.".

[CptInsano]

Trust me. I do have things to offer.

 

You might have misunderstood me. If you have three coffee dates with the same girl then something isn't progressing the way it should. A coffee date is non-committal, but it is usually not that fun nor interesting.

Edited August 16, 2017 by CptInsano

[normal person]

Trust me, I'm very start guy ... girls are complicated.

 

And I'm not smart, yet somehow they are very uncomplicated to me. I think you might want to think about this a little more.

 

Again: bull$h17 reason.

 

Your opinions on it are irrelevant, though. Complaining won't change anything. If you want the truth from someone, you might be able to get it if you're savvy enough. That might include being some combination of understanding, confident, grateful, non-threatening, etc. At the end of the day, all you're really doing is trying to do is read, interpret, and act on human behavior, and at 24, you should have seen enough of it to know a bit by now.

 

If you know someone for some time; it souldn't be that hard.

 

How long do you consider "some time?"

 

I can be really sweet, gentle and carrying person. I'm really good with kids ... lot of people told me stuff like: "Don't worry, you will be a great dad some day.".

 

But do you really think that's all it takes? 90% of guys on planet Earth will describe themselves as sweet, gentle, and caring (are you any different?) Then, in many instances (such as this), those same guys will be confused as to why that's not "enough" for a woman to like them. Reverse the roles: do you like women solely because they're sweet, gentle, and caring, and nothing else? So why do you assume it's the same for a woman to a man?

 

There are a multitude of reasons a woman may or may not like you, and being "nice" often only carries weight if the other prerequisites are met. You can be the nicest, sweetest, most gentle guy ever. But if you're unemployed, have no ambition, have bad hygiene, or some glaring character flaw, why should a woman care how nice you are to her? You make it seem like it's as simple as "I'm nice, she should date me" as if there's no more nuance to it than that.

 

You say you're smart, so if I were you I'd start to carefully consider the underpinnings of your own attraction to people and reverse engineer them, then apply the same principles elsewhere. I think you'll find that "being really nice" is not quite the simple solution you expected it to be. Best of luck.

Edited August 16, 2017 by normal person

[preraph]

Europe guy. But I will google it, maybe it will come out something usefull.

 

 

 

Trust me, I'm very start guy ... girls are complicated.

 

 

 

Again: bull$h17 reason.

 

If you know someone for some time; it souldn't be that hard.

 

 

I can be really sweet, gentle and carrying person. I'm really good with kids ... lot of people told me stuff like: "Don't worry, you will be a great dad some day.".

 

See bolded above. If you know someone for some time before asking out, it is too late because you are already in the friendzone. To be blunt, your fear is making you move way slower than normal dating practices support. Women are turned off by fear and hesitation and will either move on or just put you in the "little brother" category. Keep doing what you're doing and nothing will change. You have to get out of your comfort zone and risk a rejection like everybody else.

[Bastile]

I'll watch getting in trouble, but I'm not impressed with you in the least.

 

Got a very bad attitude to people trying to help. And now I'm going to talk to you.

 

You are a virgin who hasn't even kissed a girl by the age of 24. That makes you a complete zero in terms of this game. Yet you think you are smart? I was completely useless, and I'd got laid loads by that age based on natural value and trickery.

 

Then you must have no hustle, no social value, and no looks to leverage. Not sure where the attitude is coming from of a know it all when a woman doesn't even want to kiss your face.

 

If you want to continue to justify why you are a virgin with a crap attitude, then that's your business.

 

If you want to actually learn something, then cut the ego. It will get destroyed in the natural process of gaming women anyway, and you can trust me on that.

[whatnot]

You say girls say you're cute and adorable. Then you say you're not in a position to meet girls. which is it? How you meetin' these women who tell you you're cute?

 

 

do you work?

Edited August 16, 2017 by whatnot

[d0nnivain]

You can find the Hitch clip on You Tube. Although it's a silly rom com movie, consider watching it. It is about a dating coach who teaches good guys how to make their own opportunities with women. Don't follow it as gospel but you may get a few helpful kernels out of it: most important be your best self.

[stixx]

Hi LoveShack forum.

 

I was googling some stuff on internet, and your forum came out. And it says "love", so maybe it's worth try.

 

As a title says: I'm 24 years old guy who never kissed a girl. And I don't even know what to do it terms of that.

 

A lot of people seems to like my goofy stories, my sense of humor, a lot of female says that I'm cute and adorable, I look pretty good, I treat woman with respect .. but still 24 and never kissed. I am shy and nervous when I meet someone, but I talk a lot easier with girls then guys. Guys are just like: football, beer, sex and PC games .. not my style really.

 

I don't meet girls in real life, since I'm little bit short with friends. I did try some forums in my state, some facebook groups and classic stuff like okcupid, badoo and other. Last 4 persons which I was on coffee with told some really nice things about me. Which kinda gave me boost in terms of self esteem, but still; I don't "date". I was maximum 3 times on coffee with the same girl. And they were all like: "U are really nice guy, but He is better.". Last girl which I was seeing didn't want anything with me 'couse I'm "24 year old virgin". And I don't really have problem with that. I see girls from my town being married with 19, pregnant with 16 ... I also see everyone get drunk and have drunken ONS or kiss 10 girls in same night. I was never into that. I would really describe myself as "Josh Klinghoffer meets Jules Bianchi".

 

Also, last girl which I have shown interest in, she just stopped replying to my messages .. so I stoped care about her. It just blows. I just don't get that ... most of them are like: "I'm in love with jerk, why I can't meet decent guy" ,.. and when that happends: ".... Naaaah, you are too nice for me.", or some other feminist stuff.

 

I'm really sorry if last few sentences sound angry (?) ... I'm not angry at all, or even agressive. I've never been in fight, or ever hit someone .... I'm just disappointed with some stuff in my life and I think that I "deserved more" in some life fields.

 

So what if your 24 and never kissed a girl. Big deal. You may be the cream of the crop that a young girl is waiting for.

 

Just chat with woman in real life, not the online thing. I cannot see how meeting anyone online will work.

 

How can you identify a persons personality with a a post/tweet/etc.? Not gonna happen and your wasting time. Stay away from online date sites. That cannot work at all. Who knows. I wont go near them.

 

I talk to every girl I can when I am out and about. It actually works and they see you for you and you see them for them. I was in a store earlier and was talking to a woman. I could have got a number real fast, but she was no my type overall.

 

I can talk to any female in person. Many like it. Even if you think you never have a chance you have to try. I always pick hot gals I never think I have a chance with. Thats how I got the few GFs in my life. I just say go with it.

 

Are you afraid of the two letter word "No?". Its not a big deal dude. I have gotten many No's and I dont care. Its just a girl.

 

Dont be so fast for a kiss with a nasty girl who spreads the legs to anyone, is a drunk, or a druggie and may give you some crazy disease.

 

Maybe your more the speed of a older female. No idea. Just talk to girls and have patience.