darkmoon Posted August 17, 2017 Share Posted August 17, 2017 She is not asking the woman herself about her boyfriend, as far as I know. But - - why ask me at all? Twice now I have been asked, word for word each time,it's the same: "What is friendsname's boyfriend like?" And I was asked while friendsname is not actually around to hear her. I do not talk about people behind their backs, no gossip from me. It is just not my thing, so each time I have replied with "If he was violent I would be most protective of her" first thng comes into my head each time. I am not looking to change what I say. And she has not pressed for more into, which is good for me. But - - why ask me at all? And why ask me when my friendsname is not around to join in the convo? Why would anybody do that? Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted August 17, 2017 Share Posted August 17, 2017 They ask because they are interested. I'm more confused by your reply of "If he was violent....". What prompted you to say this? Are there concerns about violence? If not, it's a very strange response. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted August 17, 2017 Share Posted August 17, 2017 Some people are just gossipy. Your answer is troubling. Why go straight to violence? I think a more banal -- "He's fine. Seems like a nice guy, why?" would be a better response. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
AriesDude Posted August 17, 2017 Share Posted August 17, 2017 (edited) Yeah its just a general question for interest or trying to make conversation with you. Or the friend wants to know if you think they look happy together or if the boyfriend will make you other friend happy. Not much to think about and giving an answer is not gossip, unless you say something that you were asked to keep a secret or say something bad about the bf. Edited August 17, 2017 by AriesDude Grammar Link to post Share on other sites
Author darkmoon Posted August 17, 2017 Author Share Posted August 17, 2017 He is not violent, it was just the most non-committal thing on my mind. OK, maybe it's me, but if you live within a small community, you/I want some discretion, a chance to keep myself to myself and to not get too drawn into third-parties' misquoting me. Also I really deplore gossip and nosiness....(waits for reply for furious posters here haha) ....but is other people's business communal property? I say not. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted August 17, 2017 Share Posted August 17, 2017 Darkmoon I agree with you but do you understand that your response will start more tongues wagging? Go with something more conventional as I suggested. Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Spider Posted August 17, 2017 Share Posted August 17, 2017 (edited) Some people are nosey. Dodging personal questions is an art. Edited August 17, 2017 by Cookiesandough Link to post Share on other sites
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