Taking the easy way out?

[Paola216]

Husband and I got married very young. He has emotionally cheated a lot even after our son. It's been a year since I fell into depression and started questioning how I feel and what I want. Recently we went out and he was drunk dancing with this girl until he realized I was there, it didn't even surprise me only because he disrespected me to my face. I'm so numb to anything and always upset and angry.

 

I tried calling it off twice and his family had an intervention with me and said I was taking the easy way out. I was loyal the whole time but I got to the point where( I know there's no excuse for this ever) I cheated and I definitely want to call it off because I feel so lost and self destructive. He does not want to, says we have to spend more time together and go out together. I feel he'll change but his inconsistency will come back everyone is saying I should try and fix it.

I feel I'm way past fixing our relationship. I think I should move away to my moms so he won't bother me and I can find a new place. I think I should focus on myself for once but everyone keeps acting like I am giving up too easy.

Edited August 17, 2017 by Paola216

[d0nnivain]

I don't know anybody who has been through a divorce who found the process of ending their marriage easy. It may be a weight of someone's shoulders but I'd hardly call it easy.

 

 

Do what is best for you & your son.

[Minnie09]

" ......... but everyone keeps acting like I am giving up too easy."

 

If you're done with your marriage, then you're done. Do what is best for your life, and don't listen to other people. Why would you even care what other people think?

[sandylee1]

Your husband cheated emotionally all the time. He's not committed to the marriage. I'm not surprised you had enough and cheated.

 

Do you still love him?

Is he prepared to stop and commit?

[preraph]

His family has got a lot of nerve telling YOU to fix it. he's the one who messed up and didn't do right first.

 

Stop letting them guilt you. Listen, this is YOUR one life to make the most out of and be as happy as you can, so make the changes to be happy and at peace. Maybe his family just don't want him back under their roof.

[Muffet]

I'm so sorry that you're having to deal with all this!

 

It's such a beautiful thing to see people marry young, raise a family, and then grow old together. Anytime I've heard couples who've been married for decades comment, they always talk about the bumpy road, but then they seem so glad that they've shared their life together. And yes, I do love The Notebook! I think it's precious and wish my story read that way.

 

Two things I'm sure of: you can't change the past, and no one is perfect. It's more about where you are now and what you want the future to be. Have you and your DH attended marriage counseling? That might be a good place to start. It feels so good to get things out in the open, talk about them, and then work together on a plan. At least that's what my DH and I have found! Wishing you success in every way!