Assessing your own Attractiveness

[Mysterio]

So on the spectrum of looks. Where do you place yourself?

 

I feel like I am a blend of Cute/Handsome. If I was in the movies. I would be cast as the good guy detetive or dashing doctor. In all my pics I am smiling and happy for the most part.

 

Another thing as well. Do the following words have any hiearchy when it comes to looks. Pretty/Beautifull/Gorgeous/Sexy/Handsome/Cute/Average.

 

Pretty= More Girl Next Door. Jeans and she is easy to look at.

 

Cute= Can be used for both genders. On a man it means Boysihly handsome/kind/No Danger vibe.

 

Sexy= You have a physical desire to interact with them homonally.

 

Handsome= Strong and Dynamic.

 

Gorgeous= Glamed up for a woman/Well tailored for a man/

 

Beautifull= Can baically model and its mostley about the face.

 

Average= Don't really turn heads, but don't really turn away people. So you can go unnoticed and be an undercover spy for the most part. You blend in.

[SammySammy]

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

 

All I know is a few women find me to be "handsome". Whatever that means.

 

I do turn heads when I go out. Some young and mature women notice. From approving glances and smiles to saying I should be a model, I've noticed. Flattering, but meaningless.

 

I think it's important to always put your best foot forward. Being physically fit, well-groomed, appropriately dressed, and behaving appropriately is what I strive for. Doing what I can to "be attractive". But, I rarely compare myself to other people. Definitely don't worry about trying to determine if I look better than other men.

 

I just do the best I can with what I have. So far, it's worked out. I've always been attractive enough for some. And that's all that matters.

[CautiouslyOptimistic]

There's no way I'm answering this question about myself, but I will add a little comment. The other night I was having a conversation with a man and he asked me if I got offended if a man said I was "cute." Apparently some women get offended by this. I don't understand why?

[Mysterio]

I feel like I get more compliments from older women. So Women 20 yrs my senior. Nothing from younger women in thier 20's. 30/40 something women half and half.

 

I think women on whole are more complimented than men are. So when men and women are out there dating. The Women are more likley to be wined and dined over the men.

 

All they have to do is make sure they don't have things physically escalate out of control.

 

Yet Women images of beauty and the selling of women in adverts on line or magazine/tv/radio. Men are bombarded by women for the most part. They constantnly have it in thierfaces. While Women don't have that Man image being sold to them as much.

[thefooloftheyear]

There's no way I'm answering this question about myself, but I will add a little comment. The other night I was having a conversation with a man and he asked me if I got offended if a man said I was "cute." Apparently some women get offended by this. I don't understand why?

 

 

Not sure there....I think it has an "immature" vibe to it or maybe its something to do with the person not being a serious person and more "flighty"...Just throwing things out there..but I really dunno...

 

I think the cutoff for cuteness in men is around 170 lbs...Above that,( and I am well above that), and you can't be cute anymore..

 

TFY

[Shepp]

I don't really buy into the whole "people cant assess their own level of attractiveness thing"...

I'm not an arrogant guy, and in conversation id probably tell you that 'i scrub up decent' but i think if i was being brutally honest, then i do think I'm fairly attractive...

 

If you're quiet, you've got a good idea you're quiet, if you're funny, you've got a good idea you're funny, if you're smart, you've got a good idea you're smart.

 

Obviously of course there are exceptions but in the main I think most people have a fairly good idea of there attractiveness but maybe slightly under estimate because we tend to overvalue our own faults and minimise the faults of others.

 

People tell me that i look like paul walker quite a lot and he was always regarded pretty well by the ladies, so i take that as a pretty positive thing, haha.

[Bastile]

I would place myself in the sexy beast category.

 

Nah, this isn't an easy question with a simple answer, imo. I've been called all of those things (and a lot worse lol).

 

I grew up believing myself to be ugly, which was objectively simply not true. And it's the typical case that good looking people are more insecure about their looks - not less.

 

Most nudists seem to be unappealing on the eye... shall we say.

 

Add to this that male value is especially difficult to define, and it can be quite a confusing thing. I'd also point out that self-esteem is one thing, and our value to others is quite another.

 

I really don't think that any guy can be sure of his value until he has tested it thoroughly. At which point, he can ascribe his value to being whatever he has pulled with any sort of consistency.

 

At that point, when you've seen a bunch and have a good grasp of yourself and other people, it becomes sort of moot. It gets to a point where other people's opinions of you don't matter so much - whether that be flattery, or dislike. That is when you know your own worth, I think.

[Miss Spider]

Why no options below average? I feel marginalized.

[Imported]

If you are attractive, you would already know.

 

 

I am assuming you are not 10 years old.

[LivingWaterPlease]

When I get comments that I'm ugly I jus' grin from ear to ear n say, "Tha's great! 'Cause beauty fades but ugly hooolds its own!":laugh::laugh:

[anduina]

I'm okay, as in accepted myself. It's likely one of the few things that I'm not insecure about, second guessing everything.

[CautiouslyOptimistic]

Not sure there....I think it has an "immature" vibe to it or maybe its something to do with the person not being a serious person and more "flighty"...Just throwing things out there..but I really dunno...

 

I think the cutoff for cuteness in men is around 170 lbs...Above that,( and I am well above that), and you can't be cute anymore..

 

TFY

 

Haha, I disagree! Last night I was at a dinner party and met a man (happily married and his wife was there, so that's not where I'm going with this ) and he was a nice looking guy, a little chubby, hilarious, and probably the first word I'd use to describe him would be "cute" and he was well over 170 . I wouldn't call him sexy. Not gorgeous. He was a little too much of a jokester to be handsome....so....cute!

 

Regarding the man who asked me if I got offended by "cute," he was asking me what I prefer to be called....beautiful, sexy, cute....I told him it didn't matter to me at all and I have bigger things to get offended by. In his defense, he did first say, "goodnight, beautiful."

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[CautiouslyOptimistic]

When I get comments that I'm ugly I jus' grin from ear to ear n say, "Tha's great! 'Cause beauty fades but ugly hooolds its own!":laugh::laugh:

 

Hahaha!! (And I highly doubt you are ugly )

[thefooloftheyear]

Most people, myself included, really can't honestly assess our own attractiveness...And there are some, like myself as well,.who suffer form a form of dysmorphia, where what we see in the mirror isn't what the world sees...

 

Some also enhance or detract from their own attractiveness by their personality or their presence...This stuff can't be measured by the person themselves usually, its something others have to pick up on...

 

The world will tell you if you are attractive or not....If no one ever told you that you were attractive, unfortunately you may not be...Not in the conventional sense, anyway...Not that this dooms you, as there are lids for every pot, as they say, and everyone seems to find their level..

 

But here is something to think about, and it shows just how fine the line is sometimes....

 

While I get no extra credit for my personality, that's for sure:laugh:, but the attention I get, or the positive comments i get, will vary...For instance..My weight stays usually in a fairly tight range, of which I am in control of...During times when I change my diet to a higher caloric intake(to break the boredom of the tight diet-or when trying to bulk a bit), then I wont get that many positive comments..Switch to the tight diet, drop the 15lbs or so, and all of a sudden I am Mr Awesome.....When I contrast the photos, no dramatic change, just that my facial features get sharper...Seems kinda crazy to me, but that's been my personal experience, anyway...

 

TFY

Edited August 21, 2017 by thefooloftheyear

[guest569]

My boyfriends all found me pretty and sexy.

 

My mum says I'm pretty and beautiful.

 

Everyone else can get stuffed.

 

And yes, I base my assessment on what others say. So it is hard to self assess.

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[don't talk to me]

Cookies and dough *hi5*

 

Im below average. Partly because my face was affected by an untreated childhood condition and partly because my body shape is quite weird. Approaching my 30s though I don't really mind. I try to be well dressed and to take care of myself most days - I don't really think about how I don't look pretty anymore. I try to be thankful for having all my parts.

 

That said i do have some random nice parts on me. And others' opinions are quite polarised. There have been people who think I look more or less disgusting and there have been people who think Im attractive (some of them being really fine specimens).

[RecentChange]

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

 

This. Sure I can try to rate myself, but it really comes down to how I am interpreted.

 

Personally I always put myself squarely in the "average" category. I always thought its my personality that does the winning, not my looks

 

But, I have had some men who were obviously smitten with my looks, I have been called pretty, beautiful etc by strangers of both sexes.

 

And even more, how I present myself makes a difference. I can certainly blend into a crowd. But if I am really feelin' myself? I can turn heads, I can make guys look, I get told I can pull off a sex vibe for sure.

 

Clothing, make up, and to a big extent, "presence" posture etc can change the way I am viewed.

[Michelle ma Belle]

I always hate this question. I mean, there's no really winning here, is there?

 

If you rate yourself high you're seen as conceited. If you rate yourself low then you're seen as having self-esteem issues. It's just ridiculous because, AGAIN, beauty is subjective and indeed in the eye of the beholder.

 

I will say that for me, I think who I am as a person is far and away prettier than what I look like on my best days of good hair and makeup. I'm 48 and although I think I have pretty decent genes, I still have to work at taking care of myself physically. I'm not ready to go down without a fight just yet

 

As for the various compliments, so much of how I feel about them depends on who is paying the compliment. It's one thing to have my man use them and another when a stranger uses them;

 

Pretty= A casual compliment. Feels more like someone is being polite more than anything else. Usually given by someone who prefers to tread carefully but wants to extend recognition nonetheless.

 

Cute= My least favorite compliment Maybe because I'm 48 and so often it's younger men who use this on me which always amuses me if only for the irony in it.

 

Sexy= Love hearing this from a partner but I often question a stranger's motives when this is his best compliment.

 

Gorgeous= Nothing wrong with hearing this one.

 

Beautiful= Best compliment ever and one I never tire hearing from anyone.

 

Average= Never been called average.

[Steve51]

When I looked at myself in younger days, I only saw my faults. Yet my wife and our girlfriend told me that they had heard about me from other girls in their school and town and even saw my pictures before we met. She said all of the girls in our town that she knew said I was a "hottie". My wife still thinks that she is out of my league.Why didn't I know this? She had her girlfriends confirm it to me and I was flabbergasted. She said why else was she able to get her friends to join us in a threesome. My wife liked to show me off as I found out.

 

I was naive. Despite having two women share me for most of my 45 years of marriage and others pursuing me, I never thought it was due to my looks. I make an upper income and am very alpha which women like. I am a decorated combat bet and ex Jock yet I was in classes for gifted students all of my life. I was a geek jock. Even now I handle the security for my corporation as well as all the IT work. I carry a gun. Odd combination but like the rest of my life, just my normal life.

 

Looks are very subjective. Women could look at themselves and think this or that is too big or not big enough. They spent a fortune on cosmetics to hide who they really are. You never hear men saying how fat their thighs are. I have had sex with 30 women over the last 50 years. I only picked three to have a relationship with and they are all bisexual. I did not know it at the time. I missed all the signs and only saw the scars on my face from a life of playing football and a misspent youth in a gang. Women saw me as ruggedly handsome so I will go with that.

 

I think that most women put the ability to make them laugh as number one on their list of qualities they want in a man. I have heard them say it and read it many times. Women also want a man that makes them feel safe and secure; an Alpha male. That is a fact so Google it. Looks usually comes third depending on what list you are reading. Looks are what first attracts people but you need to be able to back it up with substance. Good looks also tend to get you hired more. Good looking people have it easier in life. I know that I did and I am just ruggedly handsome.

[MissG]

Hmmmmmm.......it's weird. I THINK I look good in the mirror, but I hate myself in pictures. Ageing doesn't help, either, and (at the age of 45) I hardly get hit on, even though my friends (and they're my friends, so take it with a grain of salt) say that I am "beautiful", "stunning", "gorgeous", etc. I don't see it and I don't believe it.

[LivingWaterPlease]

 

I think that most women put the ability to make them laugh as number one on their list of qualities they want in a man. I have heard them say it and read it many times. Women also want a man that makes them feel safe and secure; an Alpha male. That is a fact so Google it. Looks usually comes third depending on what list you are reading. Looks are what first attracts people but you need to be able to back it up with substance. Good looks also tend to get you hired more. Good looking people have it easier in life.

 

This is so true! Sorry, Steve, for isolating one paragraph but this was so good I wanted to call more attention to it. There was a recent thread with a guy wondering why he couldn't keep women for very long even though he's good looking, etc. Wish I'd have thought of this to post for him. A woman wants a guy she believes can take care of her in every way and if he can make her laugh, too, he's a winner!

 

One thing, though, is sometimes guys try to tell a lot of jokes to get you to laugh when you're with them because they've heard women want a guy who makes them laugh. For me, it's not so much telling jokes that attracts me to a guy, it's more when he brings amusing quips, observations, and expressions of perspective into the conversation.

[GorillaTheater]

I don't scare animals and small children too badly.

[mrs rubble]

I would place myself in the sexy beast category.

 

Nah, this isn't an easy question with a simple answer, imo. I've been called all of those things (and a lot worse lol).

 

I grew up believing myself to be ugly, which was objectively simply not true. And it's the typical case that good looking people are more insecure about their looks - not less.

 

Most nudists seem to be unappealing on the eye... shall we say.

 

Add to this that male value is especially difficult to define, and it can be quite a confusing thing. I'd also point out that self-esteem is one thing, and our value to others is quite another.

 

I really don't think that any guy can be sure of his value until he has tested it thoroughly. At which point, he can ascribe his value to being whatever he has pulled with any sort of consistency.

 

At that point, when you've seen a bunch and have a good grasp of yourself and other people, it becomes sort of moot. It gets to a point where other people's opinions of you don't matter so much - whether that be flattery, or dislike. That is when you know your own worth, I think.

Bolded- I have to disagree with you on that one. I am a nudist and ex model and there are much more attractive people than me in my nudist club.

[Mysterio]

I was naive. Despite having two women share me for most of my 45 years of marriage and others pursuing me, I never thought it was due to my looks. I make an upper income and am very alpha which women like. I am a decorated combat bet and ex Jock yet I was in classes for gifted students all of my life. I was a geek jock. Even now I handle the security for my corporation as well as all the IT work. I carry a gun. Odd combination but like the rest of my life, just my normal life.

 

 

So Steve. Are you basically saying your taken kind of like Jack Reacher or Marc Boland from those thriller books in real life. LOL

[Mysterio]

What does it mean if you never get approched romantically or comlimented. Does it mean your nothing?

 

I get the compliments once in a blue moon. Does not having girls chase me not mean anything. i seem to get it when I least expect it and when I don't care.