AnnabelleLee Posted August 21, 2017 Share Posted August 21, 2017 (edited) He was my neighbor that lived a bunch of blocks away from my address. I was one of the main rotten kids he used to chase away and say ''AND STAY OUT''. He only knew me by the nickname Goldie. I admit a couple times, we went a bit far by throwing a dead rat or frog a couple feet away from him, then ran away, laughing. He nearly succeeded in catching me once but one of my friends distracted him by throwing a couple eggs at him, then I punched him hard once in the stomach (somehow it was enough to for him twist a bit in pain) and ran. Last time he saw me, I was 12 (I'm now 21). However, the world is so small that my boyfriend of 5 months happens to lives there for nearly 2 years and is his direct neighbor. In addition, they're good friends too and have each other on fb as well. I visited him once and the guy left for work on his vehicle (he has the same car). Do you think he'll recognize me, not sure. Should I say something or nothing if I ran into him? Edited August 21, 2017 by AnnabelleLee Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted August 21, 2017 Share Posted August 21, 2017 I wouldn't say anything during the 1st meeting. Maybe after you get to know each other a bit you can come clean & apologize. If the neighbor says something, immediately offer a heart felt apology. Anybody who judges a 21 year old adult solely on the bad behavior that person exhibited as a 12 year old child is cold hearted. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Author AnnabelleLee Posted August 21, 2017 Author Share Posted August 21, 2017 Thank you d0nnivain. I'll just say hi on the 1st meeting. I have to agree on the last part. I was a kid with issue then and I'm not that way anymore. It's been a long time since I've outgrown that stage. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted August 21, 2017 Share Posted August 21, 2017 Don't let it go too long (2-3 meetings at the most) & realize it will be better if you come clean to the neighbor rather than him outing you. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted August 21, 2017 Share Posted August 21, 2017 Of course he remembers you. We all remember our bullies with crystalline accuracy. People do grow up. I agree with the above. Don't bring up right away, but if you end up having to see him more, ask if he remembers it and apologize for being a bully to him. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author AnnabelleLee Posted August 22, 2017 Author Share Posted August 22, 2017 Indeed, I was pretty much a bully back then; a past I've beeb working hard to move on from. Those that know me today (my bf including) would probably not believe that. I'm getting off earlier from work tomorrow and will stop by for some time. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted August 22, 2017 Share Posted August 22, 2017 Is the neighbor the guy you threw rats at the same age as you or older? If he's a contemporary, do apologize immediately (tell your BF the whole ugly truth so he's not surprised). The neighbor may have a harder time forgiving you or getting past this. Based on how you described him saying don't come back, I got the impression that the neighbor was older & will therefore be more forgiving. Link to post Share on other sites
mikeylo Posted August 22, 2017 Share Posted August 22, 2017 What makes you so sure that he will even recognize you ? From 12 to 21, you've grown from a preen teen to an adult ! Link to post Share on other sites
Author AnnabelleLee Posted August 22, 2017 Author Share Posted August 22, 2017 Is the neighbor the guy you threw rats at the same age as you or older? If he's a contemporary, do apologize immediately (tell your BF the whole ugly truth so he's not surprised). The neighbor may have a harder time forgiving you or getting past this. Based on how you described him saying don't come back, I got the impression that the neighbor was older & will therefore be more forgiving.Nope, he was already a young guy in his early 20's back then. He must now be between 30-33 yrs old. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted August 22, 2017 Share Posted August 22, 2017 Then you were less of a bully and more of a brat. He's likely to appreciate the apology as an acknowledgement that you have matured. It will be fine if you speak up 1st. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author AnnabelleLee Posted August 24, 2017 Author Share Posted August 24, 2017 Hi guys, I'm back from the visit. We finally got introduced to each other. My bf was having a social gathering and several family relatives were there too. Initially it seemed the guy didn't know me because he didn't say anything in front of my bf. Though he smiled. It was at some point when my bf was briefly heading to a nearby shop to buy another Pepsi, that's when he asked if by any chance we met before because I look somewhat familiar but he's not sure. I admitted by then and apologized for my past behavior and causing him trouble at the time. He then remembered me as Goldie and accepted that kids are kids. That was that and all went good from then on. mikeylo, he does have a good memory even with my hair now black and cut short (I guess it's my baby face that still hasn't changed much) but we're on good terms by now. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mikeylo Posted August 24, 2017 Share Posted August 24, 2017 Good that it worked out easy. I actually meant that face , body and overall appearance changes a lot from 12 to 21. Link to post Share on other sites
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