Survivors of Unrequited Love (Success Stories)

[Heartbrokenandhurt]

I'm struggling at the moment with Unrequited Love for my ex. Its probably the worst i've felt emotionally in my life.

 

It helps me to read other peoples experiences with this, particularly unrequited love that ends a relationship. I'd like to know how common it is, and stories of success in which the ex who lost the feelings came back realising they do in fact love you and/or people who had their ex tell them they lost feelings and then going on to have a successful loving relationship with someone else.

 

I look forward to reading the stories.

[Blanco]

This isn't what you want to hear, but I really think this is a bad idea.

 

You two were not together for very long, and so I don't think it's healthy at this point to be reading about successful reconciliations. That's just going to keep you stuck.

[Heartbrokenandhurt]

This isn't what you want to hear, but I really think this is a bad idea.

 

You two were not together for very long, and so I don't think it's healthy at this point to be reading about successful reconciliations. That's just going to keep you stuck.

 

You wouldn't know what helps me? I actually also want to hear from people who went on to meet other people who were victims of Unrequited Love.... not just people who reconcilied.

 

I think it would be nice to have abit of hope after suffering through this? That I might one day feel for someone new who also feels the same? At the moment, I feel like im 'not good enough' and not 'lovable'. I'd like to hear that it will get better.

 

(Also, the length of the relationship makes no difference when you have feelings)

[Blanco]

You've mentioned self-esteem issues. I think you really need to address that first and foremost. I really think this guy is just a symptom of your low self-worth, not the reason for it.

 

You should have hope. But you should also be working toward addressing your esteem issues rather than carrying any flicker of hope that a guy you dated for a half a year is coming back. Time alone isn't going to fix that.

[preraph]

Unrequited love or at least unbalance love became my norm. If I was nuts about them, it either didn't get off the ground or it burned hot but then they kept seeing other women. Or one guy I crushed on my whole life, we got together and had some rapport, but we never had anything more than a seventies type casual sex and confessional relationship. He liked to tell me things. We had a bond of some kind but not one that made him want to stick by me. And for that matter, his longer relationships were very few, so it wasn't just me.

 

One claimed to love me but I tried and couldn't convert from the friendship we'd had to being passionate about him and it wasn't long before he started seeing someone else if he had ever stopped, even though he was the one adamant about us trying to be together.

 

It takes some laid back people and maybe secure people to easily find love, I think. For others, it's rocky and becomes specialized. If that makes any sense.

[d0nnivain]

Most people have had break ups in their lives. They do go on to meet new people & live happily ever after.

 

I know of 2 successful reconciliation stories, well maybe 3.

 

My college roommate dated her BF since the 7th grade. Senior year they broke up because he wanted to sow wild oats. She was heartbroken & tried to date other men. About 2 years later he came crawling back. They recently celebrated their 26th wedding anniversary.

 

My friend's son is now engaged to his HS GF. They split up during their freshman year of college & reunited at a party about 2 years after college realizing they had both grown up.

 

Over the weekend I met a couple that had been married with a couple of kids. They got a divorce but had to deal with each other for the kids. Now many years later they plan on remarrying.

[pepsimax]

With that attitude you won't get him back or have a good relationship with somebody else. You need to first love yourself and then you have a chance at getting him back.

There are many stories of people getting back together but not in your state.